Your support/relationship

Well, not in a relationship right now, but a year ago when I bought some little dumbbells and put on a Jillian dvd he wasn't exactly happy and asked me to stick with my yoga. Very sweetly he asked that I not get arms like hers, he loved my body as it was. And no, he was not threatened, he has a fantastic body, lots of luck, inherited as he doesn't do much more than skateboard and work on the house...it's just his preference.

i've been on MFP for a longgggg time, and my new gf has been on the site before. when she found out i was on, she decided to start up again, so i made a new account to start fresh with her so we can track progress together. i've been teaching her some things in the kitchen since i'm on my 2nd year of this and picked up a lot along the way (down 70 pounds so far). she's awesome when it comes to support

My fiance is supportive, but not on board. We HAVE been sticking pretty closely to the "paleo" diet (lean meat, fish, nuts, fruits veggies) and cheat a little bit with rice, dairy (CHEESE mmm!), and cereal. We also have fast food maybe once a week. So I'll give him that at least, he is on board about the eating aspect. But there's no way I'm gettng him to the gym or to do a workout dvd with me. And I feel like that's okay, just because I decided to make a change doesn't mean he has to do the same. You can't expect somebody to be inspired/motivated just because you are, that comes from within. Think about it, you are going to have to be responsible for controlling your habits in a lot of situations, work, potlucks, happy hour, birthday dinners, holidays, AND in your relationship. If you feel the need to blame your SO for not succeeding, maybe you're not in the right headspace.

My bf is incredibly supportive, but we are not losing weight together. He wants to lose weight, but just isn't to the point where it's a priority for him to actually do so yet. I'm the family cook, so he eats whatever I make (and tells me it's delicious.) He also tells me how incredibly buff I look after ever workout (just to joke around/ego boost.) He often mentions how proud he is of my dedication to eating healthfully, and lifting consistently. He would occasionally bring me a treat home after work, but since I decided to buckle down on food choices again I've asked him to stop and he's complied. Yes he is pretty much awesome.

My boyfriend is very supportive, but that might just be because he wants to be a fitness teacher and he's using me as his guinea pig. :laugh: He already eats pretty clean, and we don't really do things like work out together because he is training for a triathlon in March, and I can barely jog 1 mile without collapsing.

He can be a little snooty about it, though. Coming home and talking about my 1 mile nonstop run just to hear "Psh, I did 4 this morning." can be pretty discouraging. He used to be just as out of shape as I was back in the day, and I guess he has a hard time remembering what it was like. :grumble: That being said, he does things like cooking, helping me make workout plans and trying to talk me out of going for that large pizza.

My partner supports my choice to be healthy. I know though this was my choice and not his. I have lost 15kg in the past year and he has gained 20kg. He is double my weight, with high blood pressure, high cholestrol and at risk of diabetes. It isn't unusual if he has two sausage mcmuffins for breakfast, three meat pies for lunch and a pizza for dinner. End of the day he doesn't judge me and I don't judge him. If he wants pizza, I can, and have eaten subway while he does so. I am responsible for my own choices. I exercise while he plays playstation.

He moved in at the beggining of December he moved in. It has taken a month but he decided that he wants to get fit without mesaying a word. We walk together but it drives me crazy cause it's so slow. We have a goal of doing tough mudder in april.

End of the day I get healthy for me, not him. So I don't need his support.

Supportive. Resistant at first, but we're each doing our own thing. Different things work for different people and he has a tendency to skip the workouts and follow fads. I don't want a quick weight loss, I want a lasting one. I think he'd be less supportive but he's learned over the years that I can make really delicious healthy meals we both can enjoy and his father just had a massive heart attack that required open heart surgery and could have killed him... all because he wasn't taking care of himself. And when I got a look at his family history. Well, let's just say my baby will be seeing a cardiologist soon. He's not putting me through all that, I won't allow it.

So I guess we support each other, we just have different thoughts on how to get there. Occasionally we bump heads, but that's what most couples do.

Nope, I'm doing this alone. I tried to get my family to do it. My mom joined, but she's not serious about it. My husband (bless him) says he doesn't see why I'm doing this, but I have to. I never thought I'd see the day where I'd be almost 200 pounds.
My vanity is going to do me in one day.

I also just want to add that fitness is important to both my husband and I, but we just have a different relationship with fitness.

I am a dancer, I walk everywhere, I go to the gym for weightlifting, I take yoga, and I also hike and do physical activity for recreation. I am not a runner.

My husband rides his bike everywhere, goes out for runs and walks. Hikes up mountains with his friends and runs down. He does a lot of outdoor physical recreation. He is also a physicist and artistic. He builds for his job and also does technological sculpture and fixes our car and things around the home. He is very active playing with our children. He does not like to go to the gym. If I get him a free pass he will go with me, but he will not get or use a membership.

For fun we have always danced together.

He drinks soda and eats lot of granola bars, I don't. He has never had any alcohol in his life. We both like chocolate and peanut butter. I need to increase my iron and make sure I get enough protein, that does not bother him for that to be an aspect of our meals. I like some more spicier & unusual foods on occasion. There are some desserts I like that he does not. There are many vegetables that I will eat and he does not (Kale for example).

Both of us have always been fit and never needed to lose weight. I lost 5 pounds just to get back to my best fitness and to continue to maintain that. I also lost weight after having my babies. But, losing weight was never my focus. Being fit has always been my focus and whatever happens with my weight is just secondary.

My husband is perfectly sweet to me and offers up supportive comments when prodded, but really - he couldn't care less. He's seen me start and abandon so many weight loss and fitness attempts that I'm sure he has no confidence in me whatsoever. But that's o.k. - he loves me as I am.

My husband does/doesn't support me if that makes sense. It depends on the day. He has been walking/running on the treadmill some and was working out on our Bowflex for a while. He doesn't count calories or watch what he eats. I have been on him for drinking Mt. Dew (which has a very high sugar content). He (at 32) has been on blood pressure medicine for 3 years now and even with exercise. He complains about what I eat and tells me that I don't eat enough in the evenings for supper. So somedays I do have support and other days I do not.

My fiance is amazing. I've been at this for two years and he has always been supportive but recently he has been particularly amazing. Started going running with me and even doing the 30DS in the living room with me and encouraging me to do it when I can't be bothered. He lets me cook when I want to do and doesn't think I'm a weirdo for weighing out all my food.

He was never unsupportive but has got more involved/interested in my journey as I've started to have success. I think that is common. That once you show you are serious and this isn't just another fad/failed attempt, you will get your other half's support.

However, with all that said, you should do this for you. Don't rely on someone else.

My ex-boyfriend was not particularly supportive. He often complained that I was spending too much time working out and I think that he felt left out. He would lift weights with me, but I think that was at least partially because he was better at it than I was, so it didn't threaten him. He only once did HIIT with me, and when it turned out I had more stamina (he was a smoker, I'm not), he quit and never did anything but straight-up weights with me again. Lack of support/interest was not the primary reason that we broke up, but it was indeed a contributing factor, as eventually we just grew apart. I'm finding it a lot easier now that I'm living alone, and now that I have a consistent and motivated gym partner (my sister).