Those who pre plan their meals/calories. Pet peeve

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  • Helloitsdan
    Helloitsdan Posts: 5,564 Member
    I leave dinner open most days just because of this.
  • runningwild00
    runningwild00 Posts: 109
    My BF pulls this one on me....he did it on Fri night. I had my food all set, then suddenly he called from the subway and wanted to meet out for dinner. I just said no! Haha. Or I will go with him and just have a drink (compromise).

    Another this is, just go and eat well there....and eat your meal tomorrow. Sometimes it's OK to do what others want to do!!
  • CherokeeBabe
    CherokeeBabe Posts: 1,704 Member
    Yea, can be very frustrating. Partners, Friends, etc, just don't always understand it unless they're watching calories or planning meals as well. And it gets you labeled as "uptight" or "diet obsessed" in my experience, and that's annoying. Just because someone doesn't gorge themselves on a 2000 calorie meal 5 times a week doesn't make them obsessed. Sigh.
  • Dymatized
    Dymatized Posts: 48
    If I didn't have my cheat meal for the week I'd just consider that my cheat meal. However, if I already had my cheat meal then you gotta get creative and order whatever's lean and fits your macros.
  • maryjay52
    maryjay52 Posts: 557 Member
    i try to plan my meals before the day starts . i can totally relate to switching gears . my life brings on switching gears too often. yesterday for instance i had a last minute meeting to go to at a restaurant .i ordered healthy thankfully. when i got home i had to readjust everything though .. eventually i hope it becomes habit that i can do that all without having to document it all the time ... there are days i have three or more meetings/events to go to and that is a killer. everything is always around food. most events i do not eat at any more
  • daffodilsoup
    daffodilsoup Posts: 1,972 Member
    Unfortunately, this is life. I pre-plan as best I can, but sometimes life gets in the way. You can always tell him that you'd rather not go out, but I find it easier (and more fun) to just find something on the menu that fits your calorie/macronutrient needs.
  • sammys1girly
    sammys1girly Posts: 1,045 Member
    I've never heard of eating kangaroo!!:noway:
  • cargilb
    cargilb Posts: 116
    Okay rant time

    I pre plan my meals pretty much every day, and do so to fit my calorie and more importantly for me macronutrient needs.
    So I find it really, really annoying when somebody "hijacks" my meals. For example today my partner have plans to go out later in the evening. So I planned out my meals yesterday and included a kangaroo dish I have an hand as I needed it to get my protein up to where I want it for the day. I made a point to mention it to my partner.

    Now he had turned around and said, "oh I want to do X before we go out so we will just grab dinner out"

    I tried to remind him that he knew I had planned out my meals and already eaten a fair bit of that plan for the day, and now my eating would be screwed up for the day. However it just gets me labelled as unappreciative. I DO appreciate being taken out, but some forewarning would be nice so I can plan around it!

    If this happened rarely I wouldn't really stress about it. I get that in real life you can't always plan everything and you need to learn to work around these things but lately this seems to happen REALLY often. Am I insane for getting bothered about this, or does it happen to you too?

    I had a partner like that, but the hijkacking occured like 2 or 3 times a week. After having lost 80 pounds over a period of 8 or 9 months I received no understanding from her and eventually put on every pound I lost, plus 10.

    If it is constant, sit him down and become dead serious. If I had to go through that again, I would show my partner the door. I don't recommend that for you, but I am not putting this weight on ever again.
  • KJFairywings
    KJFairywings Posts: 24 Member
    I think we all have someone who sabotages us some way, some how at some point along our journeys. I know I am a people pleaser so I try to accomodate everyone but at the same time I NOW feel that my people pleasing is a BIG part of what got me to this weight because I FORGOT to take care of ME and MY HEALTH first. SOOOOO, now it is my time and my turn and I make sure I am going to come first with what I have planned!
  • iAMsmiling
    iAMsmiling Posts: 2,394 Member
    Sometimes it seems that life gets in the way of our health plans. Sometimes it seems our health plans get in the way of our lives.

    You are the only one to decide where to draw the lines.
  • DebbieLyn63
    DebbieLyn63 Posts: 2,654 Member
    I'm a vegetarian, but people here in the US eat weird stuff, too. Bison has become fairly popular, and as a kid I lived in a place where hunting was big and we ate bear, elk, deer, etc. In some parts they eat alligator, opossum, etc.

    It sounds pretty gross to me now, but I guess if it moves, someone's gonna eat it. That includes ostrich, snakes, squirrel, whatever. {shudder}

    I grew up in a hunting family in East Texas, so deer, wild boar, rabbits, and even squirrels were on the menu at times. Squirrel is actually very good cooked with rice or dumplings. It is a dark meat, kinda like duck. You just have to forget it is in the rodent family. Note, I haven't eaten any game meat in years, however I do miss deer meat. And I have had rattlesnake as well. Tastes like a cross between chicken and fish, like froglegs. Yes, I have eaten those also.

    But Kangaroos are just too cute to eat. They seem more like pets to me. :happy:
  • Coffeeholic8
    Coffeeholic8 Posts: 272 Member
    Might be time for a more appreciative and supportive partner.
  • PaveGurl
    PaveGurl Posts: 244 Member
    I can usually find something analogous to what I was planning - and I always cut my meal in half at the outset. It's worked out so far.
  • mlouise62
    mlouise62 Posts: 7 Member
    I find I still cave a little too easily on this. I'll have a quinoa tofu zucchini dish planned and my bf will say, "How about pizza?" and that'll be it. I can't really blame him but I do regret it sometimes. On the other hand, I want to be part of real life and not let what I eat completely control my life or prevent me from doing things with others. I'm trying to control the obsession that MFP and dieting in general can bring out, and I want to make this a sustainable lifestyle. That has to include social plans with friends that might include food.
  • KenosFeoh
    KenosFeoh Posts: 1,837 Member
    I need to get better at planning. Mostly, I just go meal to meal and put it together on the spot. The up side is that I'm really flexible.
  • mlouise62
    mlouise62 Posts: 7 Member
    I pre-plan my meals as well, but I don't think it's necessary to be so rigid that you miss out on time with family and friends. All restaurants offer healthy options, so just make good choices when you eat out.
  • Hazel2005
    Hazel2005 Posts: 175 Member
    Don't stress the little things - some people's pet peeve is their significant others never want to do anything with them, yours does. Don't think of it as an ulterior motive, just a nice evening out. If it happens too often, a polite no thank you would probably work. You can always edit your food entry.
  • HoikyMcDoyle
    HoikyMcDoyle Posts: 2 Member
    This is just aching to be made into a 'first world problems' meme...
  • RhonndaJ
    RhonndaJ Posts: 1,615 Member
    I pre-plan a fair bit and I have to say that if you're following a plan that does not allow for flexibility or for you to free live your life you're on the wrong plan.
  • RunIntheMud
    RunIntheMud Posts: 2,645 Member
    I make sure to eat a really healthy lunch. Then if something comes up for dinner, go with the flow. If you had already planned to eat something then, eat it for lunch or dinner the next day. If he wants to go for pizza, order a salad and enjoy a slice with him. Or enjoy 2 slices and ENJOY! You are human....enjoy your food. It won't kill you. :)

    If that's not working, start preparing 2 servings ahead of time so that you have dinner ready for both of you. Adjust it so that there are things that he enjoys eating with the meal, but that you don't feel obligated to eat so much of. If he's a meat and potatoes guy, make the standard meat, starch and veggies...give yourself a serving each of the meat and starch, then fill up on veggies.
  • mollylookalike
    mollylookalike Posts: 60 Member
    I'm in a long distance relationship and only see my boyfriend every two weeks or so. I pre-plan all the meals I can when I'm home, and try to make good choices when I'm with him so that I'm not stressing out because he literally only has pickles and beer in his fridge. We do go grocery shopping together when I get there or he gets here, and of course, he gets what he wants (chips, soda, etc) and I get what I want to snack on (he doesn't eat regular meals - usually one big meal a day, which REALLY throws me off) like baby carrots, bell peppers, and almonds.

    Also, when I'm not with him, I pretty much require my friends to make plans ahead of time so I can figure out what I'm going to eat at the designated spot. If you don't make plans, you don't fit into my schedule. :)
  • lindajay49
    lindajay49 Posts: 3
    My 2-cents worth here. As important as losing weight is to me - I'm recently diagnosed diabetic - it comes second after our relationship. I, also, pre-plan all my meals, but if my husband suggests "Let's grab a bite," I always say "Great!" So far I have not gone to a place where I can't get a meal that meets my caloric (and carb) needs. Often I take half home. Sometimes I eat the main entree and leave the side(s). Sometimes I order from the appetizers menu. Sometimes I just get a salad and then finish out my calories at home later. But by enjoying the time together with my husband, I thereby maintain, both, a wonderful relationship AND my diet. One doesn't have to be sacrificed for the other. Don't get tunnel vision. For me, 43 years of marriage to my hubby and 28 lbs. lost in just under 4 months are two pretty good indicators that it's all working!

    (And before someone thinks that my husband needs to be more supportive - he is. IF I would say, "I'd rather not go out tonight," he'd understand and say "Okay." But I don't make a habit of that.)
  • barbaramitchell101
    barbaramitchell101 Posts: 360 Member
    Do Aussies seriously eat kangaroo, or were you just trying to be stereotypically cliche? Where can I get some? Color me intrigued...

    Sure. Can be bought from the meat section of any major grocery store.

    Even as a New Zealander I kind of find this weird. It'd be like roasting up a kiwi in the oven for dinner. Next time I got to Oz though, I'm going to give Kangaroo meat a go.

    Sorry for hijacking the thread.

    I visited Australia 3 years ago, and did try kangaroo steaks...it is cooked BARELY, leaving it mostly raw, and I do like rare steaks, so at first it wasn't a problem...it is cut maybe 2 inches thick, at first tastes ok, but a little strange, but by the time you get abut 3/4 of the way thru, it starts tasting rather gross....I won't be having it again.....
  • bcf7683
    bcf7683 Posts: 1,653 Member
    I'm a vegetarian, but people here in the US eat weird stuff, too. Bison has become fairly popular, and as a kid I lived in a place where hunting was big and we ate bear, elk, deer, etc. In some parts they eat alligator, opossum, etc.

    It sounds pretty gross to me now, but I guess if it moves, someone's gonna eat it. That includes ostrich, snakes, squirrel, whatever. {shudder}

    Squirrel spaghetti!.... Not as bad as it sounds. Found this out when the BF went to the mountains for small game last year :smile:
  • Amber1070
    Amber1070 Posts: 106 Member
    I hate that too! I just say "no another time" if I can't make it work. I know what restaurants I can eat at and my choices. So I guess I've pre planned that as well lol
  • AlongCame_Molly
    AlongCame_Molly Posts: 2,835 Member
    I'm a vegetarian, but people here in the US eat weird stuff, too. Bison has become fairly popular, and as a kid I lived in a place where hunting was big and we ate bear, elk, deer, etc. In some parts they eat alligator, opossum, etc.

    It sounds pretty gross to me now, but I guess if it moves, someone's gonna eat it. That includes ostrich, snakes, squirrel, whatever. {shudder}
    I can make the best alligator sauce picant!! Alligator is quite good, actually! So is armadillo, but I recommend against eating armadillo, as it carries leprosy… even the farmed ones…

    That shouldn't be a problem, as long as it's cooked through. Leprosy can't survive an oven. :)
    By golly, you are right!!! I can eat armadillo again!!

    http://www.ehow.com/how_8672083_clean-armadillos.html

    *Confetti!* Here ya go.

    http://www.cajuncookingrecipes.com/wildgamerecipes/baked_or_barbecued_armadillo.htm

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