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Honestly I think you just need a little more time. You don't seem quite ready to lose the weight yet. When you are, nothing anyone says will matter, temptation will still be there but will be overridden by disgust, gumption, or determination. You will not feel like you need support from family or anyone else. Old habits will be something that you see as hurdles and obstacles to be overcome, not so much a part of you. Keep your eye on your goal, keep it to yourself and one day it will just click and you will be on your way and NO one and nothing will be able to stop you.:flowerforyou:

Right on, so true. You have to want it bad enough, it starts and ends with you sweetie. If you really want to loose you have to put yourself first and forget everything else matters. Set small goals and take baby steps.

I looked at your pictures, and you are very pretty! Even at a higher weight, so imagine what you will look like at a lower weight I am trying to lose 100 lbs so I feel your pain. I am 247 trying to get down to 150. My motivation is joining the military, honestly. I want to be fit for my kids and my fiance. He loves me as I am, loves the "curves" (hehehe) but.......he understands I need to be healthy internally. I want to lose weight for myself, and so my brother can stop thinking of me as the 'fat, lazy sister", and so my family can quit asking things like, "Have you gained/lost weight?" I want to be more than a number to them. I want to feel loved for me, not judged by my weight.......anyway hun..good luck !

So much of weight loss is mental. If your head isn't ready or not into it, your body won't be either, no matter who you surround yourself with. I hope this site can give you the support that you need but your head has to really be into it for you to do anything permanent.

You said you have noone to workout with.... Go to www.zumba.com to find classes in your area! I love my group, we're like one big family, we support each other, and encourage each other. And I love it, because I'm at home with my kids all day, and it gives me an opportunity to be around other adults!!! It's a nice little break for Mommies!

First things first, you're only human! Give yourself a break; we all have bad days, and will continue to have bad days forever.

It's really unfortunate that your family isn't supportive. I have a few people in my life whose actions were the same. It's hard to zone them out, I understand that from experience, so just try and let it go in one ear, and out the other.

Some helpful things that have personally helped me thus far:
- plan plan plan! Plan your meals in advanced, especially during the week. The urge to go buy fast food is lessened when you have meals already prepared.
- eat lots! And what I mean, is lots of little meals. I have Breakfast, Snack, Lunch, Snack, Dinner, After Gym Snack. Keeps your metabolism up!
- water; whether it's just regular water, water with fresh sliced lemon and/or lime, or ice chips. Sometimes as a treat, I'll use Crystal Lite or MIO, but try to limit that to weekends. Tea is great too. Keeps your system constantly flushing out toxins.
- be COMPLETELY honest. For the longest time, I hid my diary on MFP, but once going public and tracking everything (from that one piece of cheese I had while cutting up veggies, or drop of honey in my tea, etc), it really made me motivated to want to do better. Not embarrass myself.
- fitness; plan a fitness routine, and keep at it. No matter how much you hurt, just do it and continue to go. It's nice now that the staff and regulars know me by name. They're like my second family.
- consistency; stay at it. You didn't gain the weigh overnight, and you won't lose it overnight either.
- and lastly, and most importantly; My Fitness Pal Community. If nobody is willing to support you in your life, you can find MANY people.. strangers from around the world, who want the very best for you (myself included).

You can do this, beautiful. Slow but sure. Feel free to send me a friend request!

Trista

For me it wasn't just having a weight goal, but something in addition to that. I can't work out just for the sake of working out and watching weight come off. In my case my goal initially is to be fit enough to compete in triathlons. Once I've achieved that it will be for longer distance triathlons, and then to have competitive times.

I agree with so many of the posts that others have made.
First you have to want it and it needs to be a life style change in your eating habits. It can not be about losing 80 pounds.

Start with saying that you want to be healthy and eat healthy. That doesn't mean you starve yourself or eat nothing but vegetables. Portion control is huge!! Eating many small meals(4-8) instead of trying to cram in three meals will do you so much more.

Use the calorie counter and goal settings here! They do work. However instead of plugging in a goal of 80 pounds start with 10. When you see the 10 going then you can adjust from there. Success comes from small steps.

Most importantly get moving. Even walking at a brisk pace for 30 minutes is something. Going to the gym is not fun if you are doing it alone. I will attest to that. If you have friends or family that work out or Zumba try to go with them. However, keep in mind that there will be others at the gym who feel the same way and may want someone to work out with. Start by chatting with people around you. You never know what could happen.

Week one keep track of everything you eat for one week without changing anything. The amount of calories and the nutrition or lack of nutrition and fat info will amaze you! You will want to give it all you got after seeing those numbers!

Week two try to eliminate all the fast and fried foods.

Week three make healthier choices. If you love popcorn and have to have it try a low calorie healthier option. If you love nacho chips look for whole grain or multi grain options. Instead of using regular hamburg use a lean 92%. Then slowly you can transition to 1/2 hamburg and 1/2 ground turkey. (I will never use all ground turkey, I can't stand the taste. But that is my opinion.)

Week four drink more water. Try to keep a water bottle with you at all times! If you are a soda drinker and can eliminate soda you will notice a big difference in two weeks just from stopping the soda. Don't go cold turkey wean yourself slowly over those two weeks and try to avoid it after that.

Take it slow and you will see results. If you try to do it all at once you will feel deprived and are more likely to go back to your old habits. Start slow and see how you start feeling with small steps!

Good Luck!

I've lost 6 pounds too since starting my journey late December. I'm trying to celebrate the "smaller" milestones. Hey, pick up five pounds (weights, kids, detergent, cat litter) to remind yourself what it really feels like. That's helping me along the way. And as far as your lack of support from family (me too) - - don't get mad, get even. I liked the advice of keeping your health/fitness goals to yourself until after you've achieved them/hit a milestone. Then you can simply let them know how they're wrong, you're making steady progress - HA!