eHarmony experience?

I used eHarmony a couple of years ago and did not have a good experience. I was matched with individuals who might have seemed like a good fit on paper but in reality were people I would never date. I'm sure other people have had the opposite experience but I met my current boyfriend on Match.com. The only thing with that site that you have to watch out for is that a lot of the people on there are just looking to hook up and many of them are not interested in pursuing relationships. There definitely are some genuine people on Match and maybe you'll meet someone.

I used lavalife.com 5 years ago, I married the man of my dreams and we have two beautiful girls together. I knew the minute we were matched that he was the one...and so did he!
Dreams can come true....

I signed up at EHarmony during one of those Promo Free things, and I did not have anyone to match with me I tried a few more times and same thing..Maybe I am just strange and they didnt have any matches for me LOL..I didnt like the million questions u had to go thru in the beginning only to be told at the end of the long drawn out process that they had no matches..

I would just say, like with any online dating or singles site, be careful and check them out first before handing over money..

Good luck

i hated eharmony. too many questions and then they denied me. i met my last boyfriend (and a few other good guys on yahoo personals). i'm trying match this time. what is lavalife?

I met my "now" husband on Match.com 7 years ago (at age 44).............................dated for 2 years and now married for 5, and still very happy! My best advice is to be very honest (especially with your photo!), and email/talk on the phone often before meeting for coffee or a drink.

My mother and my brother both found their SO's on Match.com.....and they both really liked it.

(I met my love on here...totally by accident!...lol)

I know some people who have met their spouses on eHarmony. I have tried it and, for me, I felt like it was too restrictive. I didn't like the way it forced me into a very slow, methodical approach to contacting people. Like, first you send a notification that you are interested, then you send each other four or five pre-determined questions to answer, then blah blah blah. I wanted to exchange a couple of messages and then meet for coffee pretty quickly because it doesn't matter how great someone seems on paper or in an email exchange, if their mannerisms in person make them seem like a total creep, I am not interested. I felt like on eHarmony, I was going to spend a lot of time just getting to the stage where I could even find out that they were a weirdo. But, that's just me. I think it is a good site especially for those who are a little hesitant about the idea of meeting someone online and want to approach it very cautiously. I'm not so hesitant, so I got impatient.

I met my boyfriend on OkCupid. I had a lot of so-so experiences before meeting him, though.

haha Ive never tried any actual "dating" sites, but I did find my current bf (and the one before him) on myspace.
I dont know if they still have it, but you used to be able to search for people with certain interests in a certain distance from your location.
My current and I have been together on and off for 5 years (of course, we were broken up for a year at some point, but as soon as we started talking again there was that attraction again lol)

So....I dont know if dating sites are worth paying for if youre willing to randomly message people that seem interesting :P

married to a guy I met on Lavalife - 6 years this October, 2 princesses
I dated a lot of jacka$$es, liars, narcissists - about a year before I met my husband.

Awesome - we married October 23rd
How old are your girls?

and your canadian too - and we are looking at the same target weight.... we're living parallel lives!

I met my husband on Match.com - we've been married almost 5 years and together for 7. He never showed up on my "matches" because he did not want kids and well... I had one. We met one night while we were both online and bored... he's the love of my life and I knew it the moment I met him in real life. We talked on the phone for about 2 weeks before we met in person.

A couple of months before we met he tried to sign up for E Harmony and was rejected. I have no idea WHY they would reject him... he's truly the best person I know. He's financially sound, emotionally stable, loving, caring, giving and as it turns out... the best dad a kid could ever have asked for.

On the other hand - one of the strangest guys I've ever known - was accepted on E Harmony and has had a million first dates.

I have several friends who met their spouses on Match.com and I'd recommend it to anyone. Definitely be honest about who you are and what you want. Put a recent picture on the website. Someone is either going to like you for YOU or not... better to have that all out of the way before you meet. Be picky.... google usernames... it can tell you a lot. Also... when you go to meet someone for the first time - have a "code" set up with a friend... so they know to send the cavalry if things go awry.
The first guy I dated on Match.com took me to a mexican restaurant. I had my mom call me mid-meal. She knew that if I said I ordered the enchiladas... all was good. Tacos.... create an "emergency". Chile Rallenos... call 911. LOL - I told her it was enchiladas - with that guy it should have been tacos.

I was on Match for about 5 years with no luck. Very few of my dates were "second-date-worthy". But, I stuck with it so long because many of my friends had success and were married from Match. For me, it was too much work to have to constantly search for people, get up the nerve to contact them, and then not really hear back...or, finally go on a date, only to realize that we didn't "fit".

Then I tried eHarmony, and for me, the difference was clear. Most of my dates were "second-date-worthy", and I am engaged to "Guy Number 4" right now. For me, the long questionnaire was worthwhile because it really made a difference in pairing me with compatible people.

It certainly sounds like what works for some people does not necessarily work for all. I would just give something a try, and know that if you are not happy with it, there are plenty of other options out there. Good luck!

I met my husband 12 years ago from a dating thing in the paper called Introductions. (don't think its around anymore) We talked for awhile before actually meeting...then that same day he went to my birthday dinner with my entire family, a movie that evening, then church the next day! I knew I had a keeper or a stalker lol!

Been married 10 years now...very happy!!!

A few years ago I tried signing up for an eHarmony account. Being a lesbian, I was unsuccessful as they do not have a I am a "Woman"--Looking for "Woman". eHarmony is for breeders only so I was out of luck. Good thing I didn't need luck though.....I'm happy as ever now with my ex-girlfriends, ex-girlfriends, ex-girlfriend.

First of all... LOL!!! Second... hmmmm... interesting what you said about "breeders" - I wonder if that's why EHarmony rejected my husband ... because he didn't want to have children? Oh well - glad that he wasn't successful on EHarmony because then I'd have never met him...
Glad that you've found happiness!