Absolutely Devastated

You can add me... My hubby is still there but its rocky.. and i am an emotional eater so depending on the day i can spiral into binging pretty quick... You have my support

Boy can I relate....in a backwards way. Prior to my brave escape from a very abusive and cheating husband of 12 years (he had not allowed me to work and eventually whittled away all my friends, family and self-esteem) I had been working out extensively as an escape. I did yoga daily, walked a lot and got down from 160 to 125. After I got out of that situation, my mother soothed me with food of all kinds and since I wasn't working out, I gained all my weight back.

I was also devastated until I reminded myself that I still had control to work out. I started with very short walks to the park and back and then began to challenge myself to go further. Today I walk an average of 4 miles per day and am slowly adding yoga back into my weekly routine.

A little known fact about me....I spent almost 2 months in a psychiatric hospital (and not ashamed) to overcome the trauma and depression that my marriage left me with. They put me on medication that is well-known to cause weight. I decided to stay on it for a while because healthy mind is just as important as healthy body. Still, I despised the side effects and weight gain. This month, I embarked on a new and frightening journey to cope with my depression and anxiety without medications. The walking and yoga is said to help and I have added Omega 3, D3, and B complex (all said and proven to assist brain function including warding off depression and anxiety).

You can do this...you CAN be the healthy mum to your little boy and the healthy person to YOU. You overcame so much already - you can do it!

Anyone is welcome to add me... Been at this for seven months and I've dropped 124... Don't try to get back to being someone that you were, strive to become the person you dream of being! You are capable of so much more than you ever did in the past. Its true for all of us! Choose the person you want to become and make the changes to be that person. Its not being fake its becoming what you want to be.

Your confusion and hurt are understandable, normal, expected and will be temporary. Now you are free to make yourself and your life exactly what you want them to be. Strengthen your boundaries for everyone, but especially for your ex. Don't let him hurt you again. This protects both you and your child. I've been there, too, and can tell you it is very do-able to become a strong, independent, self-sufficient woman who knows she deserves nothing but the best from everyone, including herself. Remember to take stock of your accomplishments periodically to note your progress and you'll see you've come far for the better. Once your boundaries are strong and you know, really know, your worth, the types of people in your life will align with that and you will find yourself with the best friends and maybe even the man of your dreams. I know that may sound impossible now, but it can be done and you can do it.
I agree that seeing a counselor can be very helpful. It is one of the first things you should do to strengthen your boundaries, recognize your self-worth and create a plan of action to improve your life.

Hi,
Sorry to hear about your life.I would love to be your friend and support.I am 188 pounds and looking for ways to reduce the extra pounds.
I try to think of 1 positive thing a day.and keep at it.even if my body says please don't exercise today,I try to do so.and I do.so that i know the negative factor is getting pummeled.
I will try to send you a positive thing i think of everyday.Maybe that might help.
and also i try to exercise once before breakfast and one after lunch.I have started measuring all my food and also my drinks.and immediatly record it on my fitnesspal.that helps me from overeating.I have lost 3 pounds sofar.so stay with me sister.we can work through this mess called life.

We have all had problems with our weight and some of still do... emotionally things do upset us at times and some of us eat to make us feel comfort which we are missing... You go girl look at your son and believe in your self, you are not on this journey to become a fitter person alone... life gives us curves now and then, so get back on the straights young lady... and go for Gold

Please feel free to add me! I was with an abusive boyfriend for 10 years. He actually left me (which he did often but always came back after whatever fun he had was over) and I didnt take him back! 6 months later I met my now husband. This is such a hard time... your feelings get all mixed up and even though it seems like its for the best it takes a while before it actually FEELS like its for the best. You will get there. I am working on losing 40 or 50 lbs and would love an extra friend You can do this!

Sorry to put it this way, but brace yourself. Here are some of the amazing things that came out of this situation:

-You have a child you care dearly for who loves you more than anything, who is depending on you right now
-You only gained back 30 pounds - although it has devastated you, which I understand, it could have been far more
-Your husband, who is dating an underage girl and who was abusing you, has now done the best possible thing he could - leave you and force you to live for yourself and no longer for him

Take this as a sign that your life is now in your own hands - don't buckle under the pressure of life. Use this as motivation to change yourself for the better. Talk to a counselor because you are probably VERY vulnerable right now and susceptible to your ex-husband's antics, should he try and get back into your life.

^^This.

You may not see it now, but you will look back one day (soon) and thank him for getting out of your life. You deserve better! Sending a request.

You will get past all of this and be a much stronger person for it. Losing weight is such a bore BUT getting healthier is exciting! So I don't even think about "losing weight". (I only step on the scale every few weeks.) I think about it as getting healthier (and stronger). And THAT feels REALLY good. You will get there! I've lost 50 pounds and 8 inches off my waist and I never thought I could.