Family and Friends are NOT supportive....

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  • tpt1950
    tpt1950 Posts: 292 Member
    Remember who you are doing this for ~ YOU! Not them - what do you care what they say if you know you are on the right road ? Weight gain and weight loss are things that people have to experience themselves to truly understand what we go through - don't blame them for being ignorant to the fact that they are sabotaging you having a goal which you feel you haven't reached yet. You just keep doing what you are doing for yourself ~ get healthy and be happy and don't let what anyone says be more important to you than what you think and believe for yourself.
  • Kelly_Runs_NC
    Kelly_Runs_NC Posts: 474 Member
    This situation happens to us all honey. IGNORE them...concentrate on you. If I have learned one thing - no matter what, family or not, they are JEALOUS!!!

    Just keep your goals in mind and let them talk. At the end of teh day you can be happy with you.
  • raynavee
    raynavee Posts: 45
    I get it all the time from my brother. I think he just pokes fun, because he really doesn't think that I'm going to go through with it. Since he isn't supportive, I don't do anything with him that contains food. If I end up going somewhere with him and he offers to buy me food, I just tell him that I ate right before leaving the house... even if that's not the case. Because I noticed that if I said something like "I'm not hungry", he would automatically jump to I'm starving myself to lose weight (WHICH I'M NOT!). So, just try to keep your health and fitness related contact with these people to a minimum. If you can't, try just being flat out with them. If they scoff at what you eat, tell them that you don't tell them what they should eat so they shouldn't tell you. Make sure they know you aren't going to stop, even if they aren't supportive. If you really need support, there's always people on here that are willing to help!
  • EricCowperthwaite
    EricCowperthwaite Posts: 450
    Thank you all so very very much for your kind words. I am going to take all of the great advice and write it down. I really needed that bit of boost, and to know I am not alone in going through this.
    This is a tough thing to do. You don't need folks to make it tougher. Glad if anything we've said can help. drop me a line or add me as a friend if you like.
  • BranMuffin947
    BranMuffin947 Posts: 104 Member
    They obviously don't know how much you've worked for this! Just let them talk & you do you!! Keep other people out of your head.
  • trumpeteramu
    trumpeteramu Posts: 13 Member
    Some of those people are just jealous of what you have been able to accomplish. I am having the same issues with some of my family members. I have been able to say "no" to foods, extra servings, and "yes" to working out, balancing my time, and enjoying life a little bit more. One family member cannot say "no" to sweets, extra servings, cut down on eating, etc, and is constantly trying to stop me from getting to a normal weight. I have asked other friends about this person, and she is just jealous, so I try and avoid any conversations about weight/working out/etc. Don't worry what other people say, and just keep going. Congratulations on your weight loss!!!
  • MerlinWilliams
    MerlinWilliams Posts: 92 Member
    To the OP: great work!

    Remember, living well is the best revenge.

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