To have 1 or more kids

hdutoit17
hdutoit17 Posts: 83
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I have two children at the moment, but see my 6 year old every second weekend. So me and my husband have the baby of 5 months now and we cant decide if we want another child. I have a lot of mixed feellings about it.

I have always wanted 2 kids in the house and would like to try for a girl, but I dont know if I want to put my body through it again. How many of you have had 3 full term pregnancies and regained your bodies back? More importantly how much loose stomach skin do you have after 3 pregnancies? I am not one of those lucky ladies that dont get marks or my skin just shrinks right back to normal.

I have loose skin after 2 pregnancies and am afraid of the more deflated balloon look around and falling over my belly button. I know the older you get the less elastic your skin becomes so dont even want to imagine what my stomach might look like after another pregnancy.

I know it sound like a selfish reason not to have another child, but I know I wont like myself if my skin is even more saggy than it is at the moment and know I wont ever be able to go for a tummy tuck.

Whats the pro's and cons of one or more children?

Are all only children spoilt ?

Oh and please if you want to leave a rude or sarcastic message - please rather not leave any at all thanks.
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  • Windy_
    Windy_ Posts: 1,012 Member
    Oh and please if you want to leave a rude or sarcastic message - please rather not leave any at all thanks.

    You can't tell me what to do.
  • SeaRunner26
    SeaRunner26 Posts: 5,143 Member
    I have loose skin after 2 pregnancies and am afraid of the more deflated balloon look around and falling over my belly button. I know the older you get the less elastic your skin becomes so dont even want to imagine what my stomach might look like after another pregnancy.

    I know it sound like a selfish reason not to have another child, but I know I wont like myself if my skin is even more saggy than it is at the moment and know I wont ever be able to go for a tummy tuck.

    If this is your primary concern or one of them, I'd say stick with what you have. Enjoy your two beautiful children. There are many people in this world that can't even have one.
  • spade117
    spade117 Posts: 2,466 Member
    I know it sound like a selfish reason not to have another child, but I know I wont like myself if my skin is even more saggy than it is at the moment and know I wont ever be able to go for a tummy tuck.

    Perhaps you should stop now. You really shouldn't even have the possibility to direct any resentment towards a child for making your skin saggy.
  • Lone_Wolf70
    Lone_Wolf70 Posts: 2,820 Member
    Oh and please if you want to leave a rude or sarcastic message - please rather not leave any at all thanks.

    You can't tell me what to do.

    LIKE +1000
  • Alex_is_Hawks
    Alex_is_Hawks Posts: 3,499 Member
    generally the rule of thumb is, if you have to ask these questions on a public fitness site forum, you're better off saying NO.

    so just NO.
  • AJ_Pete
    AJ_Pete Posts: 863 Member
    If you're so unsure about having another child that you're asking strangers for pros & cons, then don't have another child.
  • jess7386
    jess7386 Posts: 477 Member
    I have loose skin after 2 pregnancies and am afraid of the more deflated balloon look around and falling over my belly button. I know the older you get the less elastic your skin becomes so dont even want to imagine what my stomach might look like after another pregnancy.

    I know it sound like a selfish reason not to have another child, but I know I wont like myself if my skin is even more saggy than it is at the moment and know I wont ever be able to go for a tummy tuck.

    If this is your primary concern or one of them, I'd say stick with what you have. Enjoy your two beautiful children. There are many people in this world that can't even have one.

    AGREE!
  • DontStopB_Leakin
    DontStopB_Leakin Posts: 3,863 Member
    If you're so unsure about having another child that you're asking strangers for pros & cons, then don't have another child.
    Bingo. Stick with the ones you've got.
  • BamaBreezeNSaltAire
    BamaBreezeNSaltAire Posts: 966 Member
    generally the rule of thumb is, if you have to ask these questions on a public fitness site forum, you're better off saying NO.

    so just NO.

    ^^^^ Agree with Alex
  • KickassAugust
    KickassAugust Posts: 1,430 Member
    Kids suck, sell the ones you have and go on vacation!
  • jpuderbaugh
    jpuderbaugh Posts: 318 Member
    I know it sound like a selfish reason not to have another child, but I know I wont like myself if my skin is even more saggy than it is at the moment and know I wont ever be able to go for a tummy tuck.

    Perhaps you should stop now. You really shouldn't even have the possibility to direct any resentment towards a child for making your skin saggy.

    My thoughts exactly. I am dying for kids, and I don't care what it might do to my body. If they aren't worth it to you, then don't bring them into this world. They don't ask to be born.
  • Crankstr
    Crankstr Posts: 3,958 Member
    Is it rude or sarcastic to say that it is sad that you are even asking this? It's a baby...a beautiful wonderful thing, and you are worried about your skin? It is what it is...you bring blessings into the world, and then you do your best to kick but, and not worry about it.
  • _Elemenopee_
    _Elemenopee_ Posts: 2,665 Member
    I have loose skin after 2 pregnancies and am afraid of the more deflated balloon look around and falling over my belly button. I know the older you get the less elastic your skin becomes so dont even want to imagine what my stomach might look like after another pregnancy.

    I know it sound like a selfish reason not to have another child, but I know I wont like myself if my skin is even more saggy than it is at the moment and know I wont ever be able to go for a tummy tuck.

    If this is your primary concern or one of them, I'd say stick with what you have. Enjoy your two beautiful children. There are many people in this world that can't even have one.

    This...a 1,000 times this.
  • Fozzi43
    Fozzi43 Posts: 2,984 Member
    Selfish to worry about loose skin :huh:
  • _Elemenopee_
    _Elemenopee_ Posts: 2,665 Member
    Oh and please if you want to leave a rude or sarcastic message - please rather not leave any at all thanks.

    You can't tell me what to do.

    Also this. Free country (and site)
  • bushidowoman
    bushidowoman Posts: 1,599 Member
    You won't be young forever. As you age, your breasts will sag and your skin will become more loose whether or not you have any more children.
    Personally, I will still be loving and enjoying my seven children long after my looks have faded.
  • AllonsYtotheTardis
    AllonsYtotheTardis Posts: 16,947 Member
    I know it sound like a selfish reason not to have another child, but I know I wont like myself if my skin is even more saggy than it is at the moment and know I wont ever be able to go for a tummy tuck.

    Perhaps you should stop now. You really shouldn't even have the possibility to direct any resentment towards a child for making your skin saggy.

    ^^^This

    I'm of the opinion that you should that this sort of decision should be based solely on whether you feel your family is complete, or not. But really, if you are that concerned about your body afterwards, you probably shouldn't have more children.
  • Jacwhite22
    Jacwhite22 Posts: 7,010 Member
    I have two children at the moment, but see my 6 year old every second weekend. So me and my husband have the baby of 5 months now and we cant decide if we want another child. I have a lot of mixed feellings about it.

    I have always wanted 2 kids in the house and would like to try for a girl, but I dont know if I want to put my body through it again. How many of you have had 3 full term pregnancies and regained your bodies back? More importantly how much loose stomach skin do you have after 3 pregnancies? I am not one of those lucky ladies that dont get marks or my skin just shrinks right back to normal.

    I have loose skin after 2 pregnancies and am afraid of the more deflated balloon look around and falling over my belly button. I know the older you get the less elastic your skin becomes so dont even want to imagine what my stomach might look like after another pregnancy.

    I know it sound like a selfish reason not to have another child, but I know I wont like myself if my skin is even more saggy than it is at the moment and know I wont ever be able to go for a tummy tuck.

    Whats the pro's and cons of one or more children?

    Are all only children spoilt ?

    Oh and please if you want to leave a rude or sarcastic message - please rather not leave any at all thanks.

    You seem like a great mom. If you are worried so much about loose skin maybe you should adopt.
  • downsizinghoss
    downsizinghoss Posts: 1,035 Member
    crank em out like puppies!

    Then when you get a reality tv show out of it you can afford skin reduction surgery.
  • scs143
    scs143 Posts: 2,190 Member
    crank em out like puppies!

    Then when you get a reality tv show out of it you can afford skin reduction surgery.

    Yes!!!
  • Pixi_Rex
    Pixi_Rex Posts: 1,676 Member
    Is it rude or sarcastic to say that it is sad that you are even asking this? It's a baby...a beautiful wonderful thing, and you are worried about your skin? It is what it is...you bring blessings into the world, and then you do your best to kick but, and not worry about it.

    Yeah but a flat stomach trumps the baby didn't you know that?

    Seriously OP... just... No.
  • maab_connor
    maab_connor Posts: 3,927 Member
    i preface this by stating that i am proudly Child Free By Choice.

    that said, if your only concern is what the pregnancy will do to your body, but you want another child, then it sounds like adoption is the way to go.

    if, however, the body concerns are just what you're willing to cop to and you genuinely do not want another child, then don't have one. spoiled kids come from bad parenting, not from being an only child. only children can be made aware that the world does NOT revolve around them. and that they do NOT *kitten* rainbows.
  • AwesomeSauce4
    AwesomeSauce4 Posts: 1,062 Member
    If you're so unsure about having another child that you're asking strangers for pros & cons, then don't have another child.
    Bingo. Stick with the ones you've got.


    This...^^^ and I Also Agree With Crankstr
  • california_peach
    california_peach Posts: 1,809 Member
    No, don't have more.
  • TavistockToad
    TavistockToad Posts: 35,719 Member
    My thoughts exactly. I am dying for kids, and I don't care what it might do to my body. If they aren't worth it to you, then don't bring them into this world. They don't ask to be born.

    i dont want children, but my reasons are nothing to do with what having a baby might or might not do to my body... i really dont understand mums who say that...

    you're having a baby, of course your body will change... if you dont like it, dont do it in the first place...!
  • darkguardian419
    darkguardian419 Posts: 1,302 Member
    In response to the question of "Are only children spoiled?"

    That's entirely at the hands of the parents.

    I'm an only child, we grew up dirt poor, and I worked my butt off to be in a better position at the age of 24 than my parents are currently, so... they did good in raising me with the right values and morals, and I'm only spoiled now because I can afford all of the things we could never get when I was growing up.
  • Michburrow
    Michburrow Posts: 8 Member
    Me personally, l have 4 beautiful children and the girls and belly are a bit saggy. It is what it is and l would not change a thing. Decision to have my children was purely wanting them, to love and cherish, to enjoy not how l looked after.
  • 2credneck208
    2credneck208 Posts: 501 Member
    You could always adopt.
  • jedibunny
    jedibunny Posts: 321
    In all seriousness, if you have to ask publicly about whether it's a good idea, chances are you're looking for something other than your own decision to point at and say "This is why I don't want another child."

    Go with what YOU want for your OWN reasons, not what MFP has to say on the subject. If you aren't comfortable enough to rely on your own thoughts on the subject, ask your friends and people who know you well rather than a bunch of strangers. I say this with the best intentions; I wouldn't be comfortable trusting this forum to give me the answer to a life-altering decision. I barely trust them to give me solid nutritional advice. lol

    As for your question on only children: I totally agree with maab. I have a nephew who was an only child for most of his life (he's 18) and now has a little sister (6). He's a spoiled brat who thinks he sh*ts rainbows. But you know what? So is she. It's not the only-ness that does it... it's the parenting.

    Teach your children well (great, now I'm singing) and regardless of how many there are they'll be fine. Note I am comfortable giving this advice and NOT the advice as to whether or not to add to your family because it's pretty damn broad advice.
    :flowerforyou:
  • herstrawberri
    herstrawberri Posts: 347 Member
    Honestly, you shouldn't have one. Nor do you deserve another one if all you care about is 'extra skin'. You should be thankful you are even able to HAVE children. Some of us can't, or are struggling really hard to have even ONE.

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