Why are you giving me advice?

I understand where you are coming from... Gotta love it when people have all the answers but have not applied it to their own life. I heard it preached one time that a person is far more likely to listen to somebody about how to make money if they are a millionair than if they live in government housing... Walk the walk THEN I'll listen to you talk.

Lol yep happens to me too. After over 100 pounds lost, I too think I might've figured some things out...lol

The people who are just starting out on their latest diet journey are often excited about it ("THIS is the ONE that's GONNA WORK!") and so their enthusiasm compels them to share...don't take it personal it so much more about them then it is about you

It is only from the women at my work and goes something like this, I was watching Dr. Oz today and he said X, Y, Z and you should be doing that instead of this crazy diet you follow. Mind you I eat 90% clean and have been able to lose 90Lbs on my own, I think I got this covered! I smile, say I will look into it and leave it at that There is no magic diet pill that will solve the worlds problems!

I got told "you dont need to go to the gym, your skinny enough" ..... nevermind that I'm going there to tone up right? I looked her up and down & then wondered why she's so fat despite her "healthy organic lifestyle". Then it dawned on me that she wants me to stop so I can be like her....... never again.

I walked off swinging my toned *kitten* as I went, while she walked the other way with her organic soy milk & walking stick.

this like did i ask you

The people who are just starting out on their latest diet journey are often excited about it ("THIS is the ONE that's GONNA WORK!") and so their enthusiasm compels them to share...don't take it personal it so much more about them then it is about you

This always amuses me to no end. I've always been known as one of those healthy, fit types. I'm already where I want to be and I've never been overweight, but it's funny how the same people who have yo-yo'd for decades just always have to push their latest fad on ME. OMG it's like a new magic diet comes along every year or two. Like, "You're in great shape, but you might like to try this and see if you can get even better!" No offense meant, but the number of low carb fans who have pushed low carb at me for years but never stuck to it themselves is amazing. The several I've known are great at losing but just can't keep it off long-term. I've only seen one long-term success with that particular group - and that guy is dedicated! :drinker: Yet these same people won't even try my lifestyle! I never even get asked for advice. Maybe they just think I'm naturally gifted. Oh well - their loss... :laugh:

ETA: Low carb is a valid lifestyle. I just hate it when people try to push it as the only way. :flowerforyou:

Meh...it's probably like born again Christians or first time Moms. (no offense if you are a born again Christian or a first time Mom. I've been both, lol). They are just super gung ho and are probably happy they found a diet friend to talk at.

Just smile and nod.

This happens to me once in a while too, if and when it does I just use that Downey approach.

Most common for me though is people will ask what I'm doing.. I'm like, "did P90X first, then kind of just started doing my own thing, but eating better is by far the most important part."

That last part usually gets lost in translation somewhere since it's the most challenging part.

EDIT: And furthermore, so many people who only see me eat, tell me I eat like a bird. Yeah, my food diary would like a word with that opinion!

F@ck 'em.


It seems strangers that I meet for the first time are extremely interested in how I did it. (Makes me feel good)

It seems FRIENDS feel the need to tell me HOW I should continue. (Makes me wanna vomit on them)

Don't do that, or they'll call you bulimic.

Ah, don't let it bother you. You are right, of course, but on the other hand, maybe it's them showing their enthusiasm for losing weight and getting fit and that's their way of getting involved

Seeing you all thin reminds them of dieting so they immediately begin to regurgitate the last weight loss idea they had Dr Oz being a popular show it's that. It's like if I meet a guy who likes say "Castle" and I just immediately start talking about the last episode. They are "telling" you what to do, because that's the modality of our generation. More info needed please. They think the more info they give you on weight loss the more weight you'll lose. They are new at it enough that they haven't figured out that you can't just add bits and pieces of different plans and have success so they think they are adding to your arsenal. When in reality they are insulting you because clearly you know what you're doing you are a walking "exhibit A".

I had a friend who dieted this way just adding more and more restrictions from every new faddy diet until of course she lost weight because she wasn't eating much of anything and had excluded entire food groups.

I think the best approach is the Robert Downey Jr. advice because you gotta just let it roll off you and not take up too much of your time. Like literally interject after the first tip..."thank you that's an awesome tip!" (as though there were only going to be one). look them dead in the eye with a smile and then just walk away. Don't let more info derail your efforts and waste your time, you already know what you're doing.

A friend of mine is constantly telling me what her trainer says. If I want to hear from a trainer I'll hire one myself, not get 2nd hand hearsay intended for a different person and run with that? The minute I hear her going down that road I cut her off because she literally says "you should" and "you have to" and blah blah. That's called "should" -ing on someone, and it feels just as bad as the other kind of sh@#$-ing on someone. It's better to say this is what my trainer told ME to do. But dr oz's recommendations are for EVERYONE, right? RIGHT?

I've had something strange happen recently and wondered if anyone else has experienced this. This year so far I've had some people come up to offer me unsolicited advice about my diet. Normally this is generally annoying when it is people who don't even know what I'm eating regularly and when I wasn't even asking them in the first place. But the biggest reason it irked me was that it came from people just starting out on their own weight loss journey.

I enjoy when people share things that worked for them because sometimes something they did is something I decide to try out. And I have no problems asking for advice when I'm struggling. I'm not perfect and know I could still improve my nutrition and fitness routine. But to have someone just barely 20 pounds in come to me specifically to say "You need to eat this." or "You need to do this diet." without me even asking (and why is it always a Dr. Oz diet... *le sigh*) makes me want to scream. I'm only 6 pounds from my goal. I obviously have figured out some things to have gotten this far.

Anyone else running into people like this or am I just lucky?

I thought it was just "me" in this situation. Glad to hear it's not. Thanks for the post!

I find myself posting advice on here and i've only lost 6 pounds. Two things: i really want to participate...2. i have lost all my weight before and reached goal and did learn some great stuff doing it. I also learned some great stuff about how i gained it back.

so..often i shut down for a while and feel like i can't post until i've lost way more. But, in person I don't advise other people.especially someone like you who obviously has it figured out.:flowerforyou: