I Am Scared of Failing - Need Fitness Pal Friends

Please feel free to add me. The more friends I can be accountable to and help be accountable the better. And failing is all relative...the only way to truly fail is to quit trying. As long as you keep getting up after you fall down...you will be sucessful!

Hi

I have just started my weight loss journey today...I have the feeling the dietician I was seeing cant convert weight very well. According to her i was same weight as i was 6 weeks ago...however if you convert the weight i was today it means ive lost 3lb..so I have decided to do it myself!

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I always am looking for new friends with positive thoughts

Add me I'm cool :glasses:

I'm scared of failing too but we won't - feel free to add me!

Hang in there it is not always easy. You will hate the scale, gym, and many other thing during this process but hold your head up and take every day as a new one and move on.

Anyone feel free to add me.

You are more than welcome to add me as a friend

All are free to Add me for support I log every day :flowerforyou: :drinker: :happy:

I know the feeling. I hate the way I feel and the way I look. But this site helps. Feel free to add me.

I was nervous to start with. Now I'm transitioning into maintenance and I'm still anxious! Feel free to add me, I'll hapily support you the best I can.

Feel free to add me )

The good news is you don't have to be perfect, you just have to be better.

1) tracking for a couple of weeks before I worried about losing.
(although seeing what I was eating I couldn't help but rein back a bit)

2) seeing where I could make small changes on things that weren't that important to me.
(Don't even think of taking chocolate out of my diet!!!)
--Reducing quantities where I won't notice it so much
--Swapping out things instead of eliminating them.

3) Look at my diary and started adding foods that had positive healthy effects specifically for the health issue in my family.
I found most of the things I "should" add were really yummy too! salmon, avocado, oatmeal, mango, red grapes....
(Sort of think of food as medicine to deal with family history of various health issue oatmeal is good for heart health, mango and red grapes lower cholesterol, tumeric and cinnamon good for arthritis)

4) every couple of weeks I see where I can make another couple of small changes.
If you completely revamp your diet, it's way easy to revert to old ways in times of stress. (and who doesn't have stress?)
If you make a series of small changes, food still offers you some sense of comfort.
sort of a comfort continuum, and after a while the first small changes will seem comforting in themselves.
You don't have to be perfect you just have to do better.

5) also rather than being uberstrict with the target MFP set for me. (I swear this saved my life.) I was happier once I gave myself a range:

ROCK BOTTOM: 1200 cal
TARGET: MFP Calories for lose 1 lb a week (when that hit 1200 I changed to lose 1/2 lb per week)
TOP OF RANGE: Maintain Calories for my GOAL Weight.

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(SAFETY VALVE: Maintain Calories for CURRENT Weight - remember to keep updating this number as you lose)

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I naturally tended to do 2-4 days between 1200-1300 cal then a day at about 1500-1600 cal then back to the 1200-1300 cal. (No hard science here, but I credit the zig-zagging calories with preventing plateaus.)

--As long as I stayed under the top of my range I should continue to lose, even if it is at a slower rate.
--As long as I don't go past my safety valve I shouldn't gain.

6) I only worry about it 1 lb at a time.
Forget I *NEED* to lose 20, 30, 50, 100 lbs. I'm only worried about 1 lb the next one. I'll worry about the others later.
Once I found ways to lessen the stress, I found it way easier to focus on the process and let the results follow. (It's what worked for me some people need the stress to get them motivated. Me I get scared and overwhelmed and don't see the big goal as achievable. )

7)
The closer I got to my goal the smaller I made my deficit. Yes, this took longer to get to my goal, but I was focusing on (am STILL tweaking) strategies for maintenance. What I found difficult (and haven't yet conquered) it establishing a guideline for a range for maintenance, being that I'm not really good at hitting the same number everyday.


Food is not the enemy.

Oddly enough on my journey here I've reduced guilt over food.
I have the occasional treat and I fully enjoy it with no guilt involved.
The thing is since I'm not eating crap all the time, now the occasional treat is just that a TREAT it's special and I enjoy it so much more than when I was unconsciously shovel junk food into my face.

I figure if I've got a good plan that I can actually maintain I can keep this off for a long time to come, without feeling deprived.

Good Luck

I would love it if you added me. I've been on this site and exercising since Jan. 2, 2013 and have lost 20 lbs. so far. You can do it!

You can't fail as long as you are trying! Add me!

It is a very scary thing to start. I downloaded this app in october. It took me until last week to finally feel determined enough to utlize it. It has been worth every bit of effort I have spent on counting the calories.