NO I'M NOT PREGNANT!!!

hww51
hww51 Posts: 17 Member
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I should be flattered that a woman asked me if I was pregnant as I'm age 52, but I'm not with child, just struggling with a life long see-saw of weight gain/loss. I need to lose 30 lbs to be in my healthy weight range, and I know that tools like MFP are what really work - that and motivation from others. I'm hoping to run into that same woman at this time next year and see what she has to say....:wink:
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  • mrsjas2000
    mrsjas2000 Posts: 908 Member
    you can add me the more support the better
  • littlebre33
    littlebre33 Posts: 318
    Sorry some people are just so rude but I must get one thing off my chest! If you are unsure that someone is pregnant, then maybe that is a clue that you shouldn't ask whether or not they are. I had a patient at work ask if I was pregnant, 2 weeks before my due date and all I could think of was "really..?? I have this huge round, firm tummy and you need to ask if I am pregnant?" Had to say it. On the other hand please feel free to add me as I just had my son this last September and am very supportive!!!
  • Shas2228
    Shas2228 Posts: 187
    ::Sigh::

    I'm sorry to hear that. Some people are so rude. You can add me for support!
  • GetHotIn2014
    GetHotIn2014 Posts: 201 Member
    Don't feel bad. When I was staying at the rescue mission, suddenly EVERYONE had the guts to ask if I was pregnant! lol I always politely said "No, just fat!" I'm so looking forward to the time when no one can wonder or assume that!
  • veronica341972
    veronica341972 Posts: 22
    I have had numerous people who used to ask me how far along I was? I even was asked from someone at my church when I was due after baby number six after I just had a baby 3 weeks prior LOL I extend the hand of grace to people and realize that they sometimes say before they think. I make a rule of NEVER asking unless that person wants to tell me personally if they are. Better safe than sorry LOL My daughter is turning one tomorrow so still trying to lose those last 15 pounds hasn't been easy.........you can add me on though :))))
  • hww51
    hww51 Posts: 17 Member
    Thanks for the support!
  • MaxsMomTN
    MaxsMomTN Posts: 32 Member
    I had my boss's boss ask me that same thing, I was horrified. I told him that I was just fat, and then he was horrified. I'm apple shaped, so I can understand, but it was humiliating for sure. So I'm on MFP and losing weight, and every time he comes into town I make sure to say Hi and be as friendly as possible. It's funny, because he recently lost a LOT of weight too, so you would think he would have been more careful. Oh well, I'm over it and glad to be losing weight, this is a great site. Feel free to add me as a friend if you like.
  • SuShePack
    SuShePack Posts: 11 Member
    What's MFP?
  • fireguychris
    fireguychris Posts: 58 Member
    im a 31 male.. and I get the same question asked to me to.
  • twinketta
    twinketta Posts: 2,130 Member
    What's MFP?

    My Fitness Pal, the website that you registered with?
  • twinketta
    twinketta Posts: 2,130 Member
    People are just people, try not to take anything they say to heart...just keep working on being who you want to be x
  • angelique_redhead
    angelique_redhead Posts: 782 Member
    I've been asked that and relatively recently. My response was, "I'd certainly hope NOT. I'm 54." *HUGS*
  • Destiny2017
    Destiny2017 Posts: 10 Member
    WOW....if you think you have to ask, it's better not to. Sorry you had to endure that. Sending you a friend request. Support is here!
  • Mhaney
    Mhaney Posts: 467 Member
    When my daughter was 6 months old, the sales lady at radio shack is all "oh Melanie I didn't know you were expecting another one!"

    *deadpan*

    "I'm not."

    "OMG i'm so sorry......" blah blah blah.........
  • Bowtieguy3
    Bowtieguy3 Posts: 13 Member
    Don't feel bad, I've discovered that most people are idiots...lol
    Feel free to add me, the more the merrier!!!
  • SallyMadonna33
    SallyMadonna33 Posts: 14
    I totally agree, we have all heard stories of people making the faux pas of asking someone if they were pregnant when they are not! If you don't have something to say and want to make small talk there is always the weather. :smile:
  • ajswriter
    ajswriter Posts: 117 Member
    Don't people know by now...unless the baby is actively coming out (and even then, it's iffy), you DON'T ask someone that! :P
  • musycnlyrics
    musycnlyrics Posts: 323 Member
    People ask me that all the time...
    I am pear shaped, but most of my fat goes straight to my belly and in the wrong clothes I look a tad bit pregnant (I won't admit it out loud, but typing is different)...if they ask, I just say "yeah, my little cheeseburger is due any day now" and they look embarassed or laugh...I have a good sense of humor about it.
  • akaMrsmojo
    akaMrsmojo Posts: 762 Member
    No one, I mean no one should ask a woman if she is pregnant unless there is a baby arm hanging out of her "parts'.

    A woman asked me that once, traumatized me for life.
  • beskimoosh
    beskimoosh Posts: 375 Member
    I work as a nurse with people with learning disabilities. I have been asked if I'm pregnant at work multiple times, and was once told I was too fat to be a Disney Princess by a patient. It doesn't happen now because all my patients know me, and know that I'm not, because they've already asked! It's so depressing, but I can't hold it against them. However, if anyone outside of them asks, I get really annoyed then!

    For the record, the patient then said that although I was too fat to be a princess, I could be Wonder Woman. That made me feel better, she's totally hotter.
  • Kauaiartist
    Kauaiartist Posts: 86 Member
    Count me if if you need support anytime! You have a great attitude - no telling why some people have NO common sense - Hurray for you - your scale is heading in the right direction now - and right on - 52 and you look young enough to be pregnant!!! - have a great time here on MFP - and glad to be a friend anytime! :flowerforyou:
  • fuzzieme
    fuzzieme Posts: 454 Member
    Don't worry. An older man, maybe 75, looked at me while we queued in a shop, he smiled and I said hello. We joked about, laughed. Then he frowned and gave me a funny look.

    Now, I'm not fat anymore, I'n in the ideal range, I just wanna lose another half stone - for safety ;) I have always gotten along well the older generation, my grandparents were either passed or well into dementia by the time I was old enough to have a relationship with them, so "old folk" are my favourite new people to meet. so I happily talked along a while longer and he said I was a lovely girl, which is a shame, because he likes his women tall and slim.

    Initially shocked that he even entertained the idea of flirting, let alone said that to me, was fallowed by the crippling pain of being described practically as short and stout, I walked out of the stop and fought tears on the drive home.

    I've since convinced myself that somehow, he was joking :wink: ......:ohwell: :cry: .........:sad:


    So if you want me to mentally send out support hugs, just shout ;)
  • stumblinthrulife
    stumblinthrulife Posts: 2,558 Member
    And this is why I never, ever comment on pregnancy until I'm told - even if she appears to be full term and about to go into labor.
  • likitisplit
    likitisplit Posts: 9,420 Member
    Yeah. I know I look pregnant. My tummy is stretched out after two kids and I was a pear before that, so I'm an apple now. If my belt is in the wrong spot, I look about 7 months along. It's still not fun to hear, but I can't blame people. I really do feel sorry for them when I have to explain that I'm just fat. However, after dropping 14 pounds now, I have a waist again and can hardly wait to show it off to the last person who asked if I was expecting, LOL.
  • MsLilly200
    MsLilly200 Posts: 192 Member
    Don't people know by now...unless the baby is actively coming out (and even then, it's iffy), you DON'T ask someone that! :P

    With one exception.

    If your girlfriend/lover/wife just said "Honey, we're having a baby!"
    You are allowed to ask "You're pregnant!?" before fainting.

    However any further questions along that line once you wake up again are unacceptable. Unless your significant other is feeling kind and said questions also contain lots of flattery and compliments.
  • stumblinthrulife
    stumblinthrulife Posts: 2,558 Member
    Unless your significant other is feeling kind and said questions also contain lots of flattery and compliments.

    "But you can't possibly be pregnant, you look so slim! Though I guess it would explain your radiant glow over the past few weeks, I thought you'd just being trying a new skincare regime."
  • Pearlyladybug
    Pearlyladybug Posts: 882 Member
    Ohhh No, Dont worry your not alone...I remember the first time i got asked, Being an Ex hairdresser clients seem to think they can ask you anything! i cant remember the last time i cried as much as i did that day!..The worst bit about it when i said NO, Sorry im not pregnant she said to me " Well your going to be pissed when you find out you are aren't you" like she new something like i didn't!
  • msherrodmorfin
    msherrodmorfin Posts: 12 Member
    Ive been there.. add me too.. :) And I always just say Nope.. Im just fat.. and then they become instantly uncomfortable.. and I let them sit in it a bit before I offer any life line.. Hang in there.. :)
  • dawnkjensen
    dawnkjensen Posts: 5
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  • nc805397
    nc805397 Posts: 223 Member
    my great-grandmother, who is 90 and has Alzheimers, asked when I was due about 40 lbs ago!!!!! O.O I was so embarrassed!!! I was def just fat. She also thinks I am her sister most of the time, BUT STILL!!! I was super upset and decided to change. I've lost 40lbs (21 of which thanks to MFP) and I only have 30 more lbs to go! Add me!

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