Just broke up. ...feeling my motivation slipping away.

My boyfriend and I just broke up, like literally, within the hour, and I can already feel my will to push forward weakening. This morning I was looking forward to going for a run after work, and doing some lifting. ...now I just kind of want to go home and go to sleep. I could use some help from someone who has gone through this before. How did you keep from losing your motivation? I can only imagine my desire to do some emotional eating will crop up soon too. I've been completely on track for a month. Eff.

Been there, done that! Fall 2011, I was at my lowest weight ever, and could've gotten used to keeping that body--then me and my boyfriend of 4+ years broke up, and I went into full-time party mode, all the time. Needless to say, I gained back some weight. What I wish I'd done was calmly reassess my priorities, but I can't blame myself for how I reacted, and I honestly look back on that fall with fondness, anyway. I would suggest trying to take today, or maybe the next few days, off, and getting back on the wagon after allowing yourself to be a grub for a little bit. It's gonna take some effort, but you can push through. (:

Use it as fuel..

There are two schools of thought here:


1] Go work out. Smash *kitten*. Run hard. Let the emotions drive you, and when you're done you will feel AMAZING.

2] Stop at the store, grab some ice cream, get in your jammies and watch a good movie while you cry and eat the whole tub. Emotions are important - we need to feel them and acknowledge them... if you don't take some time to 'cry it out' now, you'll need to eventually.


My personal choice would be to do 1 and then 2, and feel like a rock star in the morning.

I'm with Kortney. I think you're entitled to do whatever you feel you need to do to get through.

Hell. Eat the ice-cream WHILE working out.

Grief is a necessary human emotion, but it sucks; you'll find out how to cope once you're over the initial rush.

Step 1) Get really skinny and hot
Step 2) When he asks to get back together say NO
Step 3) Feel awesome!

this is simply more reason for you to have double the motivation to move forward! i don't know the details of your break-up of course, but i have gone through similiar experiences in the past and used it to my advantage to better myself mentally and physically. keep your head high and your eyes on the prize! :flowerforyou:

Allow yourself to take some time to mourn your loss if you need to; there's no shame in that.

Sorry to hear about your breakup. I don't want to sound harsh, but why would you lose your motivation after your breakup? Were you doing this for him? If you're doing it for you, then KEEP doing it for you. You're going to experience ups and downs the rest of your life. Unless you want your weight to mirror those ups and downs, you've got to keep your feelings off the fork. I don't have a lot of advice for staying motivated to work out, because I struggle there even when I'm happy. But just find something you love and stick with it. Good luck!

Remember how fabulous falling in love feels? Focus on preparing yourself for that...cuz you know your next love is just around the corner!! :flowerforyou:

There are two schools of thought here:


1] Go work out. Smash *kitten*. Run hard. Let the emotions drive you, and when you're done you will feel AMAZING.

2] Stop at the store, grab some ice cream, get in your jammies and watch a good movie while you cry and eat the whole tub. Emotions are important - we need to feel them and acknowledge them... if you don't take some time to 'cry it out' now, you'll need to eventually.


My personal choice would be to do 1 and then 2, and feel like a rock star in the morning.

Completely agree!!!!

There are two schools of thought here:


1] Go work out. Smash *kitten*. Run hard. Let the emotions drive you, and when you're done you will feel AMAZING.

2] Stop at the store, grab some ice cream, get in your jammies and watch a good movie while you cry and eat the whole tub. Emotions are important - we need to feel them and acknowledge them... if you don't take some time to 'cry it out' now, you'll need to eventually.


My personal choice would be to do 1 and then 2, and feel like a rock star in the morning.

This! You are only going to make yourself feel worse if you give up- It will be a downward spiral!

Good luck! :ohwell:

If anything a nice jog is what you need! I lost a lot of sadness out on that track!

I just did too and trust me its sucks for the first couple of days but you will get through this i promise you. You can allow yourself a day to have some ice cream but you have to make sure that the next day you get up and eat right and workout and forget about it all as much as possible and kick some *kitten*! good luck to you!

There are two schools of thought here:


1] Go work out. Smash *kitten*. Run hard. Let the emotions drive you, and when you're done you will feel AMAZING.

2] Stop at the store, grab some ice cream, get in your jammies and watch a good movie while you cry and eat the whole tub. Emotions are important - we need to feel them and acknowledge them... if you don't take some time to 'cry it out' now, you'll need to eventually.


My personal choice would be to do 1 and then 2, and feel like a rock star in the morning.

This right here! I went through a pretty nasty break up recently. I kept up (as best as I could) with my workouts, kept up my nutrition BUT i did allow myself time to grieve, be angry and throw all his *kitten* out! (Bitter party of one, you're table is ready!).

I agree with this! Do 1 and 2... and maybe even add a long nice bath to it! The emotions WILL hit you at some point, so you might as well do it sooner rather than later, but its no reason to give up a healthy lifestyle. Work out, then eat, cry, sleep... whatever! Mental health is just as important as physical health... so take care of both!

I don't indulge my sadness. I exercised my way through my divorce and came out hotter than when I went in. I'm guessing that felt way better that gaining 20 lbs being miserable and feeding the misery. Food is not a good coping mechanism.