Just broke up. ...feeling my motivation slipping away.

There are two schools of thought here:


1] Go work out. Smash *kitten*. Run hard. Let the emotions drive you, and when you're done you will feel AMAZING.

2] Stop at the store, grab some ice cream, get in your jammies and watch a good movie while you cry and eat the whole tub. Emotions are important - we need to feel them and acknowledge them... if you don't take some time to 'cry it out' now, you'll need to eventually.


My personal choice would be to do 1 and then 2, and feel like a rock star in the morning.

This! You are only going to make yourself feel worse if you give up- It will be a downward spiral!

Good luck! :ohwell:

If anything a nice jog is what you need! I lost a lot of sadness out on that track!

I just did too and trust me its sucks for the first couple of days but you will get through this i promise you. You can allow yourself a day to have some ice cream but you have to make sure that the next day you get up and eat right and workout and forget about it all as much as possible and kick some *kitten*! good luck to you!

There are two schools of thought here:


1] Go work out. Smash *kitten*. Run hard. Let the emotions drive you, and when you're done you will feel AMAZING.

2] Stop at the store, grab some ice cream, get in your jammies and watch a good movie while you cry and eat the whole tub. Emotions are important - we need to feel them and acknowledge them... if you don't take some time to 'cry it out' now, you'll need to eventually.


My personal choice would be to do 1 and then 2, and feel like a rock star in the morning.

This right here! I went through a pretty nasty break up recently. I kept up (as best as I could) with my workouts, kept up my nutrition BUT i did allow myself time to grieve, be angry and throw all his *kitten* out! (Bitter party of one, you're table is ready!).

I agree with this! Do 1 and 2... and maybe even add a long nice bath to it! The emotions WILL hit you at some point, so you might as well do it sooner rather than later, but its no reason to give up a healthy lifestyle. Work out, then eat, cry, sleep... whatever! Mental health is just as important as physical health... so take care of both!

I don't indulge my sadness. I exercised my way through my divorce and came out hotter than when I went in. I'm guessing that felt way better that gaining 20 lbs being miserable and feeding the misery. Food is not a good coping mechanism.

There are two schools of thought here:


1] Go work out. Smash *kitten*. Run hard. Let the emotions drive you, and when you're done you will feel AMAZING.

2] Stop at the store, grab some ice cream, get in your jammies and watch a good movie while you cry and eat the whole tub. Emotions are important - we need to feel them and acknowledge them... if you don't take some time to 'cry it out' now, you'll need to eventually.


My personal choice would be to do 1 and then 2, and feel like a rock star in the morning.

I agree. It's ok to feel down. Just don't let it keep you down.

Give yourself a day or two to absorb the change in your life. Then call up a friend and go for a walk or a run. Having someone else there to take some of the attention OFF the ex might be helpful to get you over the hump. If you do go on a binge just remember that you are most likely NOT going to gain 5 lbs from one day of ice cream and it won't ruin your entire fitness plan.

I just went through this! Someone who was a very important part of my life for 4 years was suddenly no longer in my life at all - and I am NOT one of those "so upset I can't even eat" people.

I honestly think you have to come to terms with it to really deal with it correctly. Binge eating won't help and working out just to make him jealous won't either from my experience.. I've never been able to change myself for someone else's sake.

Just remember, the best revenge is living well (in general! and for your own sake! no binging or obsessing)

Good luck! And I swear every day is easier than the one that came before.

I actually used my breakups, and subsequent divorce, as more motivation to get in shape, work out, and lose weight... There is no better revenge than making yourself even better looking and healthier than they remember....

If you go exercise, remember the endorphin rush will help make you feel better. If your gym has a sauna/steam room/hot tub, take adventage of that and use it to relax and calm your nerves...

THIS IS SO TRUE!!

agreed!!

I would give myself a day or two off. If you feel like running, fine. If you don´t, try to go for a walk instead (this works the best for me). If you want to sleep, do it. Whatever helps you at the moment.
Just try to awoid emotional eating. Maybe it could make you feel better for a while, but for me it simply doesn´t work. I would feel even more miserable - while eting or the minute afterwards. Try to have a nice cup of tea and something healthy to have energy instead. Also resisting will help you feeling stronger and it will be easier for you to get back to on track and feel motivated again.