Hubby threw out all my "healthy food".. WTH

Or just get super hot and make him feel like a fat slob so he'll start losing weight too

just break up

EXACTLY!!!

In all fairness, you're the one who is trying to change your eating habits and you've kind of forced it on him. I'd suggest making some of the things he wants available in the house. Continue to eat healthy yourself and cook healthy. If he chooses to eat crap, so be it. You can only change you.

not in my house. my husband and kids eat what i cook. im not a waitress. if im eating healthy, they are eating healthy. if my husband doesnt like it, he knows where the door is, and also knows my address to mail his child support payments to

If you re-read my post, I did not say she should be his waitress. I suggested that she continue to eat healthy and COOK healthy.

i didnt say that you said that. i said in my house, my eating habits WILL BE FORCED ON EVERYONE ELSE, because im not a waitress, and i dont cook to order... i make a meal, and thats it, they can either eat it, or starve. thier choice. that was my point. im not going to buy junk, when im trying to eat healthy. and i dare him to bring junk in to my house...

dayum. I'm a scared of you.

Geesh I can't imagine living this way Holy mole.

Okay so to the OP. I think your husband was right to be mad, not right in the way he handled it. I don't really get why you'd put him on your diet when he's the one who is already slim? I think it's reasonable that WHILE you are losing weight and have a problem to fix, it be your problem and not everyone else's. I can only HOPE you were not putting the calorie restrictions of a woman on a man?! He was only trying to sabotage your diet because you put him on it too! He just wanted it to be over for everyone.

I would seriously go out and get him some things he likes. I would have done this even if he hadn't made that terrible demand but the fact that he did, at least shows that he is somewhat in touch with his emotions. He was trying to keep it in for a full month! I would have snapped too. Imagine this lady I just quoted she wouldn't have taken it for a hot second. You're lucky he held out this long, but would have been luckier if he had starting telling you he doesn't like that stuff sooner....OR HAS HE?

Usually whenever someone makes a complaint during an argument LOTS of omissions are made and that's why I ask.

Get YOU and HIM both food you both like and make him and yourself happy and agree to disagree on what to eat for the next year or two or however long it takes you to lose your excess weight. You're on a diet NOT him. Poor guy. :noway:

In all fairness, you're the one who is trying to change your eating habits and you've kind of forced it on him. I'd suggest making some of the things he wants available in the house. Continue to eat healthy yourself and cook healthy. If he chooses to eat crap, so be it. You can only change you.

Why helllllllloooo, Voice of Reason, where have you been all of my life?

I am going to call bullsh*t on this one...who grafted a skillet to her hand anyway. He wants to eat some types of food that are not on her diet (the person doing the cooking) he should do what he did - get himself his stuff and eat it BUT WITHOUT PUSHING IT ON HER. He can make a list of what he misses and have a part of the pantry that is just his. If he worries about meals and the content then he should crack out the pots and pans and cook them himself...he is not an amputee so he has arms and hands that can prepare some food.

In my house I prepare the food so unless we are starting to be democratic about it and my man is going to start cooking he knows enough to not ***** too much about it or he will get an empty plate in front of him. I already cook three meals a night because I have the adults and two kids to cater to (they are at various stages of learning to eat (1 and 5) - and my oldest is hugely picky)...if I had to do something different because of what it is that I am supposed to be cooking for him I would go mental. It is really hard to make all that stuff that is bad for you and not partake. That is a huge ask. And not fair of him.

Maybe speak to him about a Sunday roast sort of situation - you can do a healthy roast but with fixings for him (like gravy, stuffing, fried chips and what not) but not have them yourself, or plan how many you can have and still stay within your calorie goals. Also, look for both of your favourite meals but in healthy versions - a lot of the time if you look at ways of making things that are low fat or low calorie versions they are tastier as well as healthier.

But throwing out food is not only childish and mean but so wasteful. Replace the stuff but also get him a few things that he wants...I, however, would burst the bank on the shop as a quiet little *kitten* you from me to him...

In all fairness, you're the one who is trying to change your eating habits and you've kind of forced it on him. I'd suggest making some of the things he wants available in the house. Continue to eat healthy yourself and cook healthy. If he chooses to eat crap, so be it. You can only change you.

Why helllllllloooo, Voice of Reason, where have you been all of my life?

:blushing: I got trampled by all the soon-to-be-divorced-women who think it's their way or the highway!

I also don't think it has to be all or nothing.

I buy 3 different types of milk at my house....I drink skim, the kids drink 2% and my husband drinks rice milk (he's lactose intolerant). I'm the only one who likes Greek yogurt, so I buy that for me and buy regular yogurt for the kids. There are plenty of things that I like to eat that nobody else in the house does. No big deal.

This. My husband always preferred skim over 2%, so he has his milk and I have mine. Same for toothpaste and shampoo. I'm not going to force my husband to smell like strawberries and cream when he goes to work, so why should I force him to drink something he doesn't like? Let the poor man have his 2% for crying out loud.

tell him this is for u and not him! Tell him to quit being so damn selfish. What an ultra douche! No worries, I had to put my husband in check. What is fricken funny is how he has managed to lose 45 pounds and me only 15 but he's finally getting the concept...m lol...

How disrespectful of him. I'm sorry. That's awful. Tell him to go buy his own "real food."

Edited to add: Yes, it would be nice if you bought him some things he enjoys eating. But to throw all the food away and demand new food the way he did? Ridiculous. My husband is thin and doesn't need to diet, and wants me to succeed, and is more than happy to give up his ice cream and cookies to see me get healthy. It's called love and respect. I hope he apologizes for the way he acted and you guys can work something out.

How disrespectful of him. I'm sorry. That's awful. Tell him to go buy his own "real food."

He did. And wanted to share with his wife. Who's been feeding him crap in the name of "health food" for months. I don't know about you but I sure don't want to be in a relationship where my wife and I eat separately every time because my wife is on some fad diet again and feels insecure about her weight...

I agree with much of what has been said before me.

My husband doesn't mind me trying to eat healthier, and he doesn't mind me adding more veggies to our meals, but he would blow a gasket if I told him not to bring snacks or bacon into the house ever again. lol. So we have a deal - he has his snacks and coke and junk food, but he keeps it where I never go. In this case, in his office. And I asked him not to buy my biggest temptation, which is Oreos. If he wants something unhealthy for dinner, he tells me the night before so that I can either make space in my calories for some, or I can plan to eat something else. But he knows he has to cook it himself! And since many of our meal plans include chicken, it's very simple for me to make one piece for him the way he likes, and one for me that's healthier. He still sort of feels weird about it, but we manage.

Sensible.

My husband is pretty happy to see how much success I am having so he is very keen on not throwing his rattle out of the pram and spoiling it. We have stuff in the house often that I can't eat the way I used to, but I am at a point in my progress where I am able to control the worst of my temptations. I have only cooked a separate meal for me once - they were having 300/link sausages and I had only about that much on my total left so had a veggie burger instead...that was hard.

Let him cool down. Maybe you can compromise? Buy some of the food he likes too. Its okay to cook some unhealthy meals once in awhile. I have a "cheat meal" usually once a week. Maybe more, depending on how active I am. I know you want to be healthy but it's his house too. Buy the man some soda!

Man you ladies are vicious on here. Husband abuse going on here. Really you would "smack him in the head" or "slap him" over that? What if he did that to you? That's kind of messed up. Also kicking him out for it? No no. If he did that to me we'd talk about it first and come to an even compromise.

Defiantly tell him how that made you feel. You can't dance around it with guys you need to be direct.

Really it's not worth abuse or divorce.

My boyfriend and I live together and we don't share the same diet. We go grocery shopping together and he buys what he wants and I buy what I want. Sometimes he cooks for me and sometimes I cook for him and we always ask each other what we'd like for lunch or dinner if the other one is cooking.

I agree that your husband overreacted and he handled it the wrong way but you can't expect him to follow in your steps if he doesn't want to (I'm NOT justifying what he did though).

It's all about COMMUNICATION and COMPROMISE.

It takes two to make a relationship work, not one telling the other what to do.

This forum is great but the "my husband is sabotaging me" stuff is getting old. And dear god some of you sound like you would call for divorce if your "hubby" left the toilet seat up. Buy something you both like and fight about something more important.