Hubby threw out all my "healthy food".. WTH

I agree with much of what has been said before me.

My husband doesn't mind me trying to eat healthier, and he doesn't mind me adding more veggies to our meals, but he would blow a gasket if I told him not to bring snacks or bacon into the house ever again. lol. So we have a deal - he has his snacks and coke and junk food, but he keeps it where I never go. In this case, in his office. And I asked him not to buy my biggest temptation, which is Oreos. If he wants something unhealthy for dinner, he tells me the night before so that I can either make space in my calories for some, or I can plan to eat something else. But he knows he has to cook it himself! And since many of our meal plans include chicken, it's very simple for me to make one piece for him the way he likes, and one for me that's healthier. He still sort of feels weird about it, but we manage.

This is what I do!

In all fairness, you're the one who is trying to change your eating habits and you've kind of forced it on him. I'd suggest making some of the things he wants available in the house. Continue to eat healthy yourself and cook healthy. If he chooses to eat crap, so be it. You can only change you.

not in my house. my husband and kids eat what i cook. im not a waitress. if im eating healthy, they are eating healthy. if my husband doesnt like it, he knows where the door is, and also knows my address to mail his child support payments to

If you re-read my post, I did not say she should be his waitress. I suggested that she continue to eat healthy and COOK healthy.

i didnt say that you said that. i said in my house, my eating habits WILL BE FORCED ON EVERYONE ELSE, because im not a waitress, and i dont cook to order... i make a meal, and thats it, they can either eat it, or starve. thier choice. that was my point. im not going to buy junk, when im trying to eat healthy. and i dare him to bring junk in to my house...

Wow, you're quite the catch, aren't you? I can tell you one thing for sure, if my wife EVER referred to OUR house as HER house, she would very soon be sending me child support payments. Marriage is a two way relationship, you sound ridiculously selfish and self absorbed. You're right though, you're not a waitress, just a selfish dictator. Don't worry, though, your husband and kids will be thoroughly resenting you soon enough for making everything in life only about your wants and needs, and completely ignoring theirs. I'm sure that will work out fine for making them into normal, well adjusted people...

How disrespectful of him. I'm sorry. That's awful. Tell him to go buy his own "real food."

He did. And wanted to share with his wife. Who's been feeding him crap in the name of "health food" for months. I don't know about you but I sure don't want to be in a relationship where my wife and I eat separately every time because my wife is on some fad diet again and feels insecure about her weight...

Why are you on MFP if you think being here is a 'fad' diet? Scratching my head - and maybe feeding the trolls on this one. It works both ways - neither of them should be imposing on each other what they don't like. But seriously, in 2013 he can't do a bit of shopping for himself? He is not equipped to manage the tills at a grocery store. Really?

Since you're still new, I will slide on the fad diet thing. You will learn eventually (hopefully).

As for the going shopping etc: once again, he did

How disrespectful of him. I'm sorry. That's awful. Tell him to go buy his own "real food."

He did. And wanted to share with his wife. Who's been feeding him crap in the name of "health food" for months. I don't know about you but I sure don't want to be in a relationship where my wife and I eat separately every time because my wife is on some fad diet again and feels insecure about her weight...

Oh please. He wanted to share his grande nachos with her. This lack of support and his childish tantrum is not very marital at all. Communication in marriage is key, and there's a better way for him to express how he feels than to do what he did. If my husband asked me nicely if we could get some ice cream, I would gladly do it. If he threw away my vegetables and demanded it? Well then I think there are bigger issues in our marriage to work out than just food.

Something tells me that the OP isn't all honest about this. I don't know many men who just throw away everything, DEMAND that they eat with him while giving her the debit card to go out and shop.

IDK, I have a strong feeling she's not telling the whole truth

Since you're still new, I will slide on the fad diet thing. You will learn eventually (hopefully).

As for the going shopping etc: once again, he did

Stopping at McD's or Taco Bell is not shopping but I'll slide on that as your reading comprehension seems to be bad. You will learn eventually (hopefully). ;P

I get the fad diet thing - there is some craziness on here about what people are trying (green coffee extract, eating between certain hours, etc...) and how fast they are trying to get it done...if that is what you are after.

I think that it is a collaborative effort in a household and that her husband might try a little less of the knuckle dragging aggression and a bit more of the grown up people talking about their needs.

Nothing a solid junkpunch wouldn't fix.

Let's be fair, Mrs Dash IS disgusting, and regular salt is so much better...

I buy both... My husband wouldn't ever throw out the healthy stuff. It sounds like there might be a more serious issue than just the grocery list.

I cook the same for me as our family but add in healthy alternatives that the guys don't touch (sautéed green beans is my fave.) Tonight we had smoked pork tenderloin, mashed potatoes, fried okra and sautéed green beans. I had 4 oz of pork and a half a plate of green beans plus 5 pieces of okra and literally a small spoon of potatoes.

Good luck!

From what I'm gathering (by how he was bringing home his own food, complaining by the lack of whole milk and salt, etc), OP had done the EXACT same thing to him prior to this event - deprived him of the food he wanted to support her own wants.

Why not just buy both? Geesh, I'd be pissed too if I had to drink 2% milk or if someone took away my salt.

Pretty much this. I love how it's the EVIL husband for throwing away food that the wife wants to eat, but it's perfectly OK for the wife to get rid of all the food the husband wants to eat.

Ridiculous double standard much?

My husband eats whats cooked. If he wants something else, he is welcome to make his own meal. A grown *kitten* man is fully capable of buying and cooking "real food". We've been married for 9.5 years, he would never behave in such a way. Or he'd be served some tasty divorce papers. He should respect you more.

This forum is great but the "my husband is sabotaging me" stuff is getting old. And dear god some of you sound like you would call for divorce if your "hubby" left the toilet seat up. Buy something you both like and fight about something more important.

Lmao right?? I'm sitting here reading these replies and am just in utter amusement. I had no idea this forum was full retard -- I've always just used MFP to track my food! These replies were great for a laugh.

But being serious, I know the feeling of stress when dieting and having someone else in the house who isn't dieting. I'm on an incredibly restrictive diet right now, and I'm not doing free meals twice a week like I could be, so when one of my two roommates microwaves pizza rolls or brings home fries and a sandwich for lunch, I just want to choke them sometimes! My husband is large like I am, but he doesn't want to diet, so we eat very different foods (mine mostly being chicken + veggies, his mostly being junk). I am the primary food shopper, so I still buy him his junk and will occasionally offer to make it for him if he's busy. I just have to have the willpower to stay out of his crap food!

Your husband should apologize, no doubt about that. Tell him you want to discuss it without him throwing a fit, and that you're willing to compromise, but be willing to see where he's coming from, too. I know I massively disrupted the lifestyle my husband and I had when I decided to start exercising a lot and stop eating crap food. I'm at 220 lbs now, down from over 330 lbs., and my life couldn't be more different. Your husband doesn't sound like he's adapted too well to your changes. Talk it out with him!

Let's be fair, Mrs Dash IS disgusting, and regular salt is so much healthier...

The heck is Mrs. Dash anyways?

Some seasoning thing. I've never tried it but I've seen the commercials for it. *shrugs*

It is disgusting - and if you get a few good recipe books you will never use it...but it sounds like the beginning stages of changing your diet. It all goes a bit Robocop food pellet for a bit until you figure out that 'change' and eating food pellets are not interchangeable and that you should explore cooking well but reasonably. As PP poster has said you can cook with butter, eat roast chicken on the bone and still loose weight so long as you don't eat all the butter ever and maybe skip the skin.

I don't know about anyone else but whenever one of those biggest looser type shows goes into someone's home and tsk tsks at the pantry and throws things out I get a bit annoyed. I don't like waste and I also hate that they don't take them shopping to show them how to replace what is in there with good stuff that doesn't taste like *kitten*. I ate homemade brownies today and they were great - 157 cal par 2" square of divine made from real chocolate yumminess - and in my count. You can still eat sweets and savoury naughties but you have less or you realize you can't control yourself (hello chips) and then say - well I won't ever have those except a couple of times a year on special occasions and live with that.

He sees that you are serious, and he feels threatened so he had a tantrum and threw away your food.

He wants to keep you fat.

what a ****head.

In all fairness, you're the one who is trying to change your eating habits and you've kind of forced it on him. I'd suggest making some of the things he wants available in the house. Continue to eat healthy yourself and cook healthy. If he chooses to eat crap, so be it. You can only change you.

not in my house. my husband and kids eat what i cook. im not a waitress. if im eating healthy, they are eating healthy. if my husband doesnt like it, he knows where the door is, and also knows my address to mail his child support payments to

yup