MFP Diary: to share or not to share?
jerren
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I think this belongs here as i believe it can help people get quick support/feedback concerning weight loss.
Just curious why you decided to share or not share your MFP diary.
And why should someone share their diary.
I think the first step is to say to the world, I want to lose weight. But its a leap to show the world everything you eat everyday. Thus making your commitment that much stronger.
Just curious why you decided to share or not share your MFP diary.
And why should someone share their diary.
I think the first step is to say to the world, I want to lose weight. But its a leap to show the world everything you eat everyday. Thus making your commitment that much stronger.
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I personally don't share mine. I just don't think its anyones business really. I'm not interested in anyone elses. To each their own, this is our own personal weight loss battle ya know?0
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I share mine because if I don't, I tend to cheat and overeat because, I think... ' No one knows but me '
But when I share mine I am honest about what I eat. It also makes me conscious about what I put in my mouth. Before I make food, order food, or eat food... I think 'Many people trying to lose weight are going to see this, do I really want them to know that I could order and eat 1200 calories in one meal from my favorite restaurant? ' ... Whatever works right? I also believe that people could be looking at what I eat, for ideas, advice, and inspiration... And I for sure love to help people, wouldn't want to let anybody else who is encouraged enough to be healthy and a member of this website down...0 -
Well I am sharing mine ( I hope) for that reason. I think it helps me stay accountable, although some days I'm lazy and don't post my food. =( bad me! I think it might help others to see what we all eat, good and bad alike.
I like when others share their food diary because ( I'm guilty) of stealing meal ideas and snack ideas from some people's. I respect the fact that some people don't want to share, it's completely cool. I think it's a personal choice.0 -
I feel the most important person to be honest with is ME, noone else matters in regards to that in regards to what foods I chose to eat each day. My diary isn't public not because I'm hiding anything. lol I just never made it public plus the fact that I've seen at LEAST 3 attack threads on who's eating what and why and etc. etc. ie. food police, members policing ppl's diaries or coming to conclusions that may or may not be true as to why ppl do what they do with their diaries. Apparently nothing better to do?:noway:
I for one am not here to judge what you put in your diary unless you ASK me if to look over it, I would NEVER EVER look it over other than that and judge you for eating or not eating something. I find that incredibly insensitive and threads that begin with that tone do nothing for this board but have more and more members lock down their food diaries. Someppl use other's diaries to get food tips so when more and more are making them private others lose out. :ohwell:
If anyone ever made a comment on mine I'd be crushed ok, probably more pissed
, but they won't since mine has always been private and the self appointed foodie police already stir up enough crap around here as it is. NONE of us is perfect in anyway.
If we kept to our own business what a world it would be, :flowerforyou: :smokin:
Yup, feeling abit strongly about this after seeing yet another food police thread yesterday started by the very same person that started the last disastrous (quite painful for some) one where we lost not only many open diaries but a number of MFP members as well. New members do NOT feel comfy with that sort of thread. Well :huh: gee neither do alot of us veterans either!
Becca
jerren
My response has little to do with the topic raised by you in general but I'm feeling strongly about this topic after several ugly threads have occured that went well beyond simply asking basic questions. :flowerforyou:0 -
I am accountable to me and me alone so I do not publicly share my diary. Besides which there are some real health freaks on this board and I'd never want to give them fuel to judge me if we were in a debate.
Not that I eat all that terribly but I'm not overly concerned with clean eating either.
Anyway - yeah. I don't need input or want input so why make my diary public?0 -
I like sharing mine so others can get ideas from it. I'm a diabetic stay at home mom. I figure if I show people that I can make it work, they'll find the resolve to make it work for them, too!0
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I feel the most important person to be honest with is ME, noone else matters in regards to that. My diary isn't public not because I'm hiding anything. lol I just never made it public plus the fact that I've seen at LEAST 3 attack threads on who's eating what and why and etc. etc. ie. food police, members policing ppl's diaries or coming to conclusions that may or may not be true as to why ppl do what they do with their diaries.
I for one am not here to judge what you put in your diary unless you ASK me if to look over it, I would NEVER EVER look it over other than that and judge you for eating or not eating something. I find that incredibly insensitive and thread that begin with that tone do nothing for this board but have more and more members lock down their food diaries. Someppl use other's diaries to get food tips so when more and more are making them private others lose out.
If anyone every made a comment on mine I'd be crushed, but they won't since mine has always been private and the self appointed foodie police already stir up enough crap around here as it is. NONE of us is perfect in anyway.
If we kept to our own business what a world it would be, :flowerforyou: :smokin:
Yup, feeling abit strongly about this after seeing yet another food police yesterday started by the very same person that started the last disastrous (quite painful for some) one where we lost not only open diaries but a number of MFP members as well. New members do NOT feel comfy with that sort of thread. Well :huh: gee neither do alot of us veterans either!
Heh. 100% agree with this.0 -
If I can help someone by sharing my diary then it's worth it. I also like to view other peoples diaries who are successful in their weight lose because I want ideas on meal choices that might help me. I get bored with my meals at times and like to change things up a little. I appreciate the help from others when I do get a new idea from someone elses diary. Thanks you all who share!!
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I don't mind sharing my diary at all!! But to each their own...if you don't share yours..thats fine as well. Like Ladeejulz, I like getting meal ideas....in fact I have picked up a few already....I respect everyone's choice to share or not to share :happy:0
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Wait, why would people care what others eat???? I didint even know we could share it until the other day... and I am on here to lose weight so I am obviously no expert so why would anyone care what I eat? LOLI feel the most important person to be honest with is ME, noone else matters in regards to that in regards to what foods I chose to eat each day. My diary isn't public not because I'm hiding anything. lol I just never made it public plus the fact that I've seen at LEAST 3 attack threads on who's eating what and why and etc. etc. ie. food police, members policing ppl's diaries or coming to conclusions that may or may not be true as to why ppl do what they do with their diaries. Apparently nothing better to do?:noway:
I for one am not here to judge what you put in your diary unless you ASK me if to look over it, I would NEVER EVER look it over other than that and judge you for eating or not eating something. I find that incredibly insensitive and threads that begin with that tone do nothing for this board but have more and more members lock down their food diaries. Someppl use other's diaries to get food tips so when more and more are making them private others lose out. :ohwell:
If anyone ever made a comment on mine I'd be crushed ok, probably more pissed , but they won't since mine has always been private and the self appointed foodie police already stir up enough crap around here as it is. NONE of us is perfect in anyway.
If we kept to our own business what a world it would be, :flowerforyou: :smokin:
Yup, feeling abit strongly about this after seeing yet another food police thread yesterday started by the very same person that started the last disastrous (quite painful for some) one where we lost not only many open diaries but a number of MFP members as well. New members do NOT feel comfy with that sort of thread. Well :huh: gee neither do alot of us veterans either!
Becca
jerren
My response has little to do with the topic raised by you in general but I'm feeling strongly about this topic after several ugly threads have occured that went well beyond simply asking basic questions. :flowerforyou:0 -
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I've made mine public because quite simply, it reflects who I am, an open book :P0
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I share because I'm motivated by the possibility of public failure.
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I share mine because I don't really care if anyone judges me, I'm ok with how I eat and I wouldn't change anything. I also am vegetarian so if I can help someone out by letting them see my diary, then the good outweighs any potential bad. That's just me though and I am not really bothered by other people's criticism anyway. Besides I've lost 25 lbs so what I'm doing is obviously working. Good luck to all, open diary or not!!!0
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Mine is viewable. I personally like looking at other people's to get ideas on additional healthy items I can add to my grocery list and to see what healthy choices other people make....especially those that do well with their weight loss and have been able to successfully keep it off. I am learning how to eat the right way for a lifetime and I am soaking up all the knowledge I can. I also don't mind if people want to look at mine for the same reasons because I am proud of the choices I make and if someone can learn from my diary, great!
I have been working with a nutrition coach for the past 3 months also.0 -
I keep my food diary open to all. I also like to see other food diaries. I like to see what other people are eating in comparison to their success and to borrow food/meal ideas. I would never presume to judge someone though. Personally, I like organic food... local fruit/produce... clean eating... and trying to minimize processed foods as much as possible. I'm not going to preach to someone that is losing weight eating lean cuisines, 100 cal packs, crystal light, etc. Even if their food diary is public, it's not my business.0
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I share my diary because I like to look at other's diaries and I figure it's only fair. I like to look and get ideas of stuff I haven't thought to try. I don't care if somebody eats something I wouldn't eat or if I eat something that somebody else doesn't approve of. My choices are mine to make and as long as I'm happy with my progress then it doesn't matter.
But I think it's great that it's optional and everyone can do their own thing! :flowerforyou:0 -
My meditation every morning begins with, Today, I will judge no one. And when I'm done meditating I say Judgement is BS.
With that said, I suppose no good forum is without its crap starters.0 -
Well I think Becca said it 100% perfectly and I won't add to it! What I will say is that mine WAS open to the public until thses "food police" posts began, and continue. (as of just yesterday there were 2 different post about "concerns" people were having w/other people eating under 1200 calories) these threads could only start if there were people out there searching through other folks diaries. I personally started MFP for support and motivation during this journey. I did not join to be judged in any way, shape, or form! There is enough of that in the world and I didn't think this was the place for it. So to answer your question, mine became private as of the time those threads began judging others diaries. I, personally think I am doing a good job, and am proud of myself and would love to feel comfortable enough to have my diary open to the public. But this journey is hard enough and I do not need to take the chance of someone bringing me down by giving their unasked for personal opinion, GOOD LUCK in your decision"0
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I think we have the beginnings of a support group!0
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i haven't seen these food police threads. Sorry that you guys have had this experience though. Are the food police actually being judgemental though? Or are they just being concerned neighbors?
I have a neighbor who leaves his dog out all of the time. Even when its bitter cold or scorching hot. I asked him about it and it turns out he just didn't know better. Am I being a Animal Cop for approaching him about this? Or am I just being a concerned neighbor who has a little knowledge about something who wanted to see the neighbors situation be the best it could be?
Its crazy how this topic seems to be 50/50. Very interesting.0 -
I've always had mine open. I've never had a comment one way or the other about it. Then again, I'm a middle of the road eater. I don't eat all that poorly, or that great either. Heck, after looking at a couple of my days, the reader probably gets bored, since it's almost always the same foods over and over. Lately, I haven't even been logging, since I'm eating the same meal 3 or 4 days in a row.
Sheesh, I'm boring!0 -
After being on MFP for 6 months, I finally made mine viewable to friends only. I eat all foods, frequently go out to eat, and drink beer (gasp) and have still lost 50 pounds. I've had many requests from newer members wanting tips - letting them view my diary gives them ideas. My eating isn't perfect but it's much better than when I started on MFP.
I've chosen to join 3 nice groups and most days these are the only threads I read and post to. I try to skip reading posts that attack people. I am grateful to Mike and Al for creating this great site and proud of my sucsess.
Good luck to all on your journeys!!!0 -
I leave my open, because sometimes people need something to look at! :flowerforyou: And I look at other peoples, (those with great successes) so that I can get ideas, or if I am bored with my diet, or if someone I know tends to eat more protein then I check their diet to see how they are getting extra protein in. If people don't want to share then that's fine, I completely respect their feelings. Also I wonder how people lose so much flipping weight, so sometimes I check to see if they exercised like crazy, ate more calories or less. I am nosey! But never judge! 0
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I like to peek into other people's diaries... not because i am nosy or want to control them or anything but to get ideas of what to eat and how to bring variety into my own eating because i am pretty new to all this healthy stuff and might end up eating the same all over instead of changing.
And i share mine because 1. i don't care who knows what i eat i am the one who controls me and my eating not others and 2. if i get problems, weight gets stuck, i don't know what to change it is much easier to ask why and let them look at it than if they have blind guesses.0 -
I share mine because why not? I tend to eat the same things over and over, which works well for me. I don't know if looking at my food diary would ever help anyone else, but it's an open book in case it could.0
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Mine is open and I like to read other peoples food diary's for idea's on what to eat because I would also eat the same thing day in and day out, But I also am one who drinks beer and wine.:drinker: I will have a slimfast for lunch when I am in a hurry. I am on this eating plan for the rest of my life and I want to be able to eat and drink everything. But I want it healthy and controlled. No way am I giving up everything for ever. I just eat lots less of it and pretty much always ate healthy. And I try to stay as natural, not processed as possible.
Thanks to everyone who shares their diary because my meals have become a lot more interesting. :laugh:0 -
Mine is public and to be honest, I would love for the Food Police to call me out!!! (Or congratulate me!)
I have one friend here and we check each other's food diaries everyday...........the good, the bad, and the ugly! lol0 -
I drink a glass of wine with dinner every night, and I don't intend to give that up. I drank more than that last night, and THAT was probably not a good idea! :laugh:Mine is open and I like to read other peoples food diary's for idea's on what to eat because I would also eat the same thing day in and day out, But I also am one who drinks beer and wine.:drinker: I will have a slimfast for lunch when I am in a hurry. I am on this eating plan for the rest of my life and I want to be able to eat and drink everything. But I want it healthy and controlled. No way am I giving up everything for ever. I just eat lots less of it and pretty much always ate healthy. And I try to stay as natural, not processed as possible.
Thanks to everyone who shares their diary because my meals have become a lot more interesting. :laugh:0 -
At first it was open only to my friends on the site. When I started to have some success at losing, I had quite a few people asking me what I did, how much I ate, what I ate, etc. I really love helping to give people ideas, so I figured that maybe making it public was a better idea (not that I mind the messages!).
I wavered with this for a bit because I started to feel guilty about some of my "free days" (or "high calorie days" as I like to think of them) and think that people would judge me or something. But then I figured "No. This is how I eat! Sometimes I have some pizza or some ice cream. I almost always have at least some chocolate. I might have an occasional day that I am over by 900 calories. I try to eat unprocessed foods, but I'm not perfect. BUT, I'm trying to make this about a sustainable lifestyle and all of these things factor into a long-term lifestyle change." I even had someone tell me something to that effect. She said she had poked around in my diary and saw a particularly indulgent day and the fact that I was still losing weight and it made her feel better.
It also keeps ME accountable knowing that others might be peeking in. I have realized that my biggest problem in the past hasn't been the occasional indulgent meal, but it has been "falling off the food-logging wagon" when my perfectionist tendencies sneak in. I used to only log "perfect days" and as soon as I slipped up I would stop logging all together and pretty soon every day would be a high calorie day because I wasn't keeping track!
I think different people need different strategies.0
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