Self sabotage..

Reset your calorie goals here on MFP to maintenance and start logging your food again without any pressure on yourself to be under that limit. Do it for one week, just log in every day to mark down what you're eating.

When you feel ready, try to substitute some junky options with healthier choices. Don't try and be perfect. Still eat junk food. Just not EVERY time. Log everything. Still don't pressure yourself to come under your calories, but if you can try and get close some days, that's wonderful!

Start doing one nice thing for yourself every day that doesn't involve food to make you feel better. If you're not sure what that could be, start experimenting. Bath, doing your nails, getting a haircut, getting a wax, buying a new book, a nice new blouse, masturbating, doing something artistic.... the more different options you have to draw upon, the better.

When you're ready, you can start trying to meet your daily calorie settings for weight maintenance. This will allow you to eat really yummy stuff and really healthy stuff within a reasonable balance.

Then when you're ready to put your health first and commit to losing some weight, set MFP to losing 1/2 or 1 lb per week and do it for three weeks. Set it to maintenance for the fourth week to give yourself a treat and some time to adjust to the lost weight. Or if that's too hard, do one week loss, one week maintenance and keep changing it back and forth so it doesn't feel so arduous.

You don't have to be black and white about this -- you just have to find a way to take some steps forward without taking more steps backward -- so a few steps back once in awhile is okay and part of the process. Just don't give up, keep moving forward. And sometimes that means finding stasis so you can deal with other challenges.

Use as many tools as you can to work through your mentality of self sabotage. Support group, therapy... there are lots of resources if you really want to move forward in life. Use them. And don't expect it to be perfect. You're a work in progress and progress is messy.

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I self sabotaged last night because emotionally i was upset. (nothing serious just mainly had the blues) I have always been an emotional eater. My planned out cook at home dinner was canceled and i was pouty about it. When Hubbie got home and suggested Taco Bell it sounded divine to me. (at that moment)
After i ate i cried because i was so disappointed in myself. I had been doing so well with my choices up until then.
Then i picked myself up off the self pity train and got my act together. I logged in the calories on my counter. I got my workout clothes on and burned off all the excess calories that i had earned on my elliptical and treadmill. I was exhausted and felt horrid after eating the Taco Belll and I documented how upset my stomach felt afterwards. (though i will admit it sure tasted good going down!!! lol) My body has changed in such a short period of healthier eating. I avoided the ice cream that was calling my name and felt better for doing something constructive.
Point is...make a mistake...its bound to happen once or twice..but its the decisions you make afterwards that really count.

My mantra:
Today I:
Stop wishing,
Start doing!

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I ALSO DO THE SAME..SO WHAT IS YOUR SECRET?