Looking for NON overly critical, but supportive friends

Tiffany083
Tiffany083 Posts: 32 Member
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I am on round two with this program. I love it a lot, but my issue is with friends who think they're helping when they harp on the same thing over and over. I have no problem with people mentioning alternatives to what I'm eating. My issue is with people who are on day 489 of saying the same thing. What broke me down last time was that I would STRUGGLE with finding an alternative, then get criticized for it. Long story short, I need friends that are supportive and that everyone has different needs and struggles. I count my calories. I don't want someone to point out how I should stay away from bread on a daily basis. I have switched over from eating white bread to whole wheat bread, and that is all that I'm going to do on that for the moment, you know? lol

I'm seeking out friends that are in the same boat. I hope to find someone who has had the same issues as me, so we can help support each other and make the weight loss a success.
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  • inskydiamonds
    inskydiamonds Posts: 2,519 Member
    I'd love to be your friend! I think there's a huge difference between being supportive and criticizing someone's choices, so I definitely get where you're coming from.
  • Dlibo1013
    Dlibo1013 Posts: 883 Member
    i am in no position to judge, I just encourage, be glad to help you on your journey.
  • carbar90
    carbar90 Posts: 60 Member
    Hey! you can add me! I'm new on here, also need supportive friends but not looking for people to criticize me so I wouldn't do it to you either :)
  • mdepko
    mdepko Posts: 283 Member
    Feel free to friend me, I'm pretty much eating things I like, just less of them and trying to stay away from fried food. I have no plans of going gluten free, vegetarian or vegan, cutting out white sugar or any of that stuff. Right now I'm eating Sara Lee 45 Calorie Wheat bread only because the store doesn't carry the white bread, but if they get it in, I'll be eating it! LOL
  • pilze0
    pilze0 Posts: 40 Member
    I'm on the same boat! I'd be glad to be your non-judgemental but supportive MFP friend :)
  • bethann223
    bethann223 Posts: 28
    Hey!

    I would love to be a supportive friend, and I understand what you mean about not "harping" on each other! I've lost and gained a lot of weight, so I beat myself up all the time and I don't need someone else doing it to me as well.

    Beth
  • Tiffany083
    Tiffany083 Posts: 32 Member
    You guys are awesome! :)
  • sarabeth120
    sarabeth120 Posts: 172 Member
    Hey! I would love to be your friend!

    I'm really supportive (only positive comments from me) and I would NEVER tell you what you should eat or how you should do something since it's about what works for you and your body and you certainly know those things better than I do! :)

    Please feel free to add me! :)
  • azanne07
    azanne07 Posts: 32
    Im big on bread too. when i found the 35 or 40 calorie per slice i was in heaven. lol. i also found this slimwich things for hamburgers and such. lower calorie than regular buns. i could never give up bread. bagels and similar things
  • Reebee22
    Reebee22 Posts: 26 Member
    Feel free to add me too! I'm not onto judging either :) I:bigsmile:
  • red0801
    red0801 Posts: 283 Member
    Sign me up. Who needs friends who inflate their own egos @ the cost of others self esteem.
  • annwyatt69
    annwyatt69 Posts: 727 Member
    You are more than welcome to add me! I am definitely not critical, as I have no room to judge. I log on every day and my diary is open to friends only. I am a weight loss surgery patient, so what I do is a bit different from others, but I try to be encouraging to everyone and certainly understand all situations. Hope you do well this time and have a great support system!
  • 780ck
    780ck Posts: 40 Member
    Anyone can feel free to add me as a friend. I log on daily and try to be supportive (& appreciate some supprot in return). I am not into the negativity. If adding as a friend, just write a short note about yourself. I also tend to unfriend people if they don't log in regularily. Good luck with your journey!
  • missi72
    missi72 Posts: 12 Member
    That's what we are here for, to encourage each other and NOT to criticize. I mean, if they can't say anything positive they just need to keep their mouth shut. I'd love to add you as my friend!! :))
  • agirlscamaro
    agirlscamaro Posts: 175 Member
    I added you. Anyone feel free to add me. I don't log my food on here often but my exercise is. I'm on Weight Watchers so I don't want to double log.
  • Tiffany083
    Tiffany083 Posts: 32 Member
    Thank you guys for responding! You have no idea how this made my day!!! I think I added everyone on here who posted. If I missed you, just send a request. :)
  • brendadale1
    brendadale1 Posts: 90 Member
    I will be your friend:smile:
  • dtcortez
    dtcortez Posts: 14
    Hey,
  • slkutch
    slkutch Posts: 2
    I would love to be your friend, this is also my second go around, I do love this site and I think it can really help. I have a medical problem that keeps me from being able to exercise very much or very often and the meds I take also makes it harder for me to be able to lose weight but I am going to try hard, I am here for encouragement and support
  • dtcortez
    dtcortez Posts: 14
    Hey
    I feel the same way. I am new to this. I have type 2 diabetes and have to do a diet and exercise. I love to be encouraged by friends and to give me advice to do different things than what I am doing now. Please add me as a friend also.

    Thanks
    dt cortez:bigsmile:
  • Dlibo1013
    Dlibo1013 Posts: 883 Member
    so my biggest issue is happy hours. I work out very well and hard but my work requires me to go to happy hours with customers a couple times a week usually. I have been doing it a long time. Sometimes i want to just go and order water but i dont have the guts to tell my customers. It kills me because not only is it bad calories it kills my willpower when i get home. I do great like the last few days when i dont drink but i go on a sea food diet after I drink. I see Food I eat it :( Wish i was a stronger person and could just have water or something
  • brittamh
    brittamh Posts: 137 Member
    Feel free to add me:)
  • Michelleladder
    Michelleladder Posts: 11 Member
    I'm also on round two of this site. The first time I got rid of about 30 pounds or so. This time I'm reaching out for friends to get rid of the rest of the pounds before I reach my goal weight. (Yikes! 60 pounds to go!) I'm the supportive type and only offer advice if asked. Instead I like to hand out encouraging comments! Anyone is free to add me as a friend! Good luck to all!

    Remember...

    "I'm not losing weight. I'm getting rid of it. I have no intentions of finding it again!"
  • msshiraz
    msshiraz Posts: 327 Member
    I feel the same way- which is why my diary is closed. If I need nutritional feedback, I'll go find a nutritionist, or my dr. I rarely request back dietary feedback, I know what I need to eat and avoid. If someone wants me to look at their diary I will and tell them what I see, but I am certainly not on here to fix anyone else, still working on me!

    Congrats on round two!! :)
  • jessgab
    jessgab Posts: 6 Member
    Feel Free to Add me...We can do it!
  • aleesh_
    aleesh_ Posts: 137 Member
    I'll be everyone's friend! I've actually never had to deal with overly critical friends, mostly on my bad days people just don't comment :p Then again I have less than 20 friends on here.
  • notenoughspeed
    notenoughspeed Posts: 290 Member
    You know what? My favorite bread is called Italian Twist bread from the Orlando Baking company. You can only get it in the northeast United States. If I lived there again, I would be eating up some ham sandwiches. Eat what you want, drop the people you don't think are good for you. It's all about making life changing decisions, and sticking with them forever.
  • Tiffany083
    Tiffany083 Posts: 32 Member
    It's refreshing to read everyone's post because it shows that no two people have the same exact needs. I'm also pleased to see that most people aren't interested in bashing someone's eating habits! Thank you all for restoring my interest with my fitness pal. I also want to thank the old friends that I have because you guys rock. ;) Not trying to alienate you.
  • gabesgourmet
    gabesgourmet Posts: 78
    Feel free to add me...I figure I can encourage without criticizing!! I have a long trek towards health and would love to have more friends to help me on my way and I can help them on theirs!
  • ittybittybadonkadonk
    ittybittybadonkadonk Posts: 11,634 Member
    Anyone is welcome to add me ...... :bigsmile: ... I CAN DO THIS ...YOU CAN DO THIS ...WE CAN DO THIS .....best wishes on your success to a healthier lifestyle

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