From "you look great" to "I'm worried, you're too thin"

Congrats for reaching your goal!!
What's important is that YOU are happy! And you should be - you look great!
Family and friends can sometimes be jealous that you've done so well. I'm starting to hear my family say that I shouldn't lose any more weight but I want to shed another 4kg!

You look toned. But if they annoy you too much, go get some blood work and show them that all your counts are good and you have not done any damage to your body. Are you looking to lose more, or just maintain, or tone more? I understand family showing concern, especially when dedication to a healthy lifestyle seems like an 'obsession" to some. (Duh, it's a healthy LIFEstyle, which means, there has to be some sort of obsession to stick to it in this "fast food/processed" world).

Keep up your healthy lifestyle. Your hardwork has paid off. You should definitely post some before and after pics too. Those always motivate the rest of us.

Best wishes.

Maybe they're not used to seeing you looking that thin. lol I'd get the opposite when I was too skinny they tell me I still look fat. My sister the other day asked me "You still going to the gym?" and I was like, "Yeah I lost almost 10lbs." So she says, "Why do you still look pudgy?" ARGH!! lol

Okay, if a friend said that, I'd say find new friends. But family? Really? You are doing AWESOME! Don't let anyone discourage you from your positive move forward. Take each step to look even more smokin' hot inside and out and watch them just stare.

Don't let them discourage you! You're doing great! I agree with a previous poster, that they are probably not used to seeing you like that ... it's going to take a while for people to get used to the slimmer you!

You look great and your stomach looks so toned, so good on you for getting as far as you have...:drinker:
Personally, you dont need to loose anymore weight, you dont look too thin AT ALL!!! Saying that, maybe work on weights like you have said and build up some muscle definition in your arms?? maybe?

its what you feel though.. no one can tell you what to do, its what YOU want to do!

Katherine x x

Hey Simon

Ditto on the comments... Just gotta suck it up I suppose, no point justifying to anyone but yourself. Culturally in the UK especially, i think people just can be fairly negative by default. It's easier to shoot things down than to praise them (of course moderate success is praised as it doesnt make other people uncomfortable). You walk/jog 5k in 45 mins, or lose 2lbs in a month, people congratulate you (and for some this is indeed great dont get me wrong!) , but if dare get near goal weight or you run sub 50 10ks before work they think you're a fanatic ha ha.

Hang in there bud, you're doing great! Funnily enough, I never remember anyone expressing any concern when i was much heavier and unhealthier than I am now, i'm guessing its the same for you?

ps

For my own peace of mind, anyone says i'm too thin, i know I'm the one with abs, and a weakling cant drop and do 100+ push ups on demand....

Share your BMI with them. Let the numbers speak for themselves.
I have heard similar remarks and I am at the high end of my BMI range. I want to get to the middle.

I get this constantly. I've lost 35lbs. I get it from friends and family. I continue to tell them, "I'm not skinny, I'm fit!" I believe it's an insecurity on their part (because they've been unsuccessful i maintaining a healthy lifestyle), as well as societies distorted view of the world now (because it seems everyone is overweight). When I hear that comment, I immediately call them a "hater" and ask them if they want to feel my abs :laugh:

I did that last year or likley the year before. I walked quite a bit, lost a lot of weight and loved the new me. Then an overweight "friend" kept telling me I needed to eat a potato or some such crap. She kept telling me and believe it or not I started feeling guilty for being thin and here I am 2-3 years later 15 pounds heavier and hating her and myself. Unless a doctor tells you to stop losing, tell those people to STFU! Maybe jealousy on their part.

People have also become "concerned" that I am trying to lose too much weight, as I tell them I have 8 more pounds to go to reach my goal. They say, no no, you don't need to lose anymore weight. I inform them of my height and of the weight chart for my height and that the goal I have set for myself (after talking with my well educated doctor!) is at the midpoint of the range, which is a very healthy place to be, as I have no interest in weighing in at the lower end, where I would be anorexic looking. I just think people that those last 10 pounds are going to make me look gaunt when in actuality they are going to make me look more fit. I just ignore them, as I know the goal I have set for myself is very realistic and has the stamp of approval from my physician whom I trust and admire. You know your body, your height and weight appropriate range, so just smile and know they are obviously jealous!

Oh please, what do they know? You look fine to me. Keep up the good work

You look very healthy to me. I know that with expanding waistlines becoming the norm, along with too-skinny actresses and models in the media, our general image of what is a healthy weight is really skewed. There is an interesting flicker page that shows women (and a few men) at various BMIs, and it is amazing to see what different BMIs look like on different frames and see how our perceptions of underweight, healthy weight, overweight, obese and morbidly obese compare with the visual of actual bodies.

Anyway, that's just my tangential way of saying that people generally have a comment about everything. I remember when I was 5 months pregnant, I'd run into one person who would tell me I looked ready to pop, and not an hour later someone would ask if I was out of the first trimester yet... you just can't win!

Dude, I've had the same thing. All these comments about being sick, not needing to loose any more weight, blah blah. I think mostly its because their old impression of you still informs the way they think. Also, I lost a lot from my face, even though I still had a bit on my gut (enough that I didn't have muscle definition there) so they would see my face and think I was too thin, but I would see my gut and think I still needed to loose more. I just started telling people I was finished trying to lose, despite actually aiming for 1-2 more kg.

Doing a bit of resistance training and adding a bit of strength will get them off your back. Well done on getting where you are!

I looked at your profile pics and you are definitely NOT too thin!
Here's my similar story...

I am not a very big person. I'm under 5'2" and in my younger years usually weighed between 115 - 125. I weighed 118 the day I was married. 20 years, 2 children, one son-in-law and one granddaughter later I found myself weighing in at a very plump 160.
Needless to say, I needed to take action! This past Christmas, I made a "conscience" decision to do something about my weight and overall health and started to really look at what I had been doing to myself over these past 20 years. What it came down to was that I simply eat too much for the size person I am. I joined MFP on January 4th and reached my goal of 30 lbs loss in 123 days.
Here's the kicker...other than family and two very close friends, not one co-worker or anyone else I am acquainted with said a word about my weight loss. The loss has been significant enough to warrant buying a whole new wardrobe (I went from a saize 10/12 to a size 5!), yet no one is saying a word! I kept asking my hubby...Does it show or not...he would respond..."don't be ridiculous, of course it shows. You look amazing!."
I guess what I'm trying to say is this...I honestly think most people have a teeny tiny bit of jealousy inside to see a person do something good for themselves and be successful at it.
Recently, one co-worker did comment on something I had said about my weight...her comment was "It must be nice.." I simply turned to her and said, " This didn't JUST HAPPEN, it's a lot of hard work and effort."
Lastly, do go get the bloodwork done. I recently did and have all my numbers back to good, healthy ranges. I thought my doctor was going to stand up and cheer...All of this hard work has paid off...in more ways than one.
Only you know what you are doing is good for you. If you are starving yourself to lose weight that would be bad...but obviously you're not...Keep up the good work!
Sorry for rambling...it's my biggest vice. :flowerforyou:
God bless,

I know what you mean, lost 45 lbs on the fat smash diet and had gotten down in the low 160's, only to have my family giving me a hard time there as well.....and I listened to them, put back on 10 lbs and have realized it was a bad move. The only thing that I didn't like was being/feeling too cold in the wintertime compared to where I was. Now I'm still looking to lose a few lbs and/or tone up at the same time. Don't let them get in the way of your happiness or goals like I did....now it seems like I have to work twice as hard to get what I want out of it!

If you are feeling cold a lot then do stick with it, this passes.
It's just a signal that your body is going through a change, you will adjust to your new lower weight fully and feel fine in the winter.