Would This Violate Girl Code?

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  • etoiles_argentees
    etoiles_argentees Posts: 2,827 Member
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    Why not ask the person that might be bothered by it?
  • LuckyLeprechaun
    LuckyLeprechaun Posts: 6,296 Member
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    How long did they date? How did it end? If it was short and an amicable split, then there's little danger in you pursuing him. But if they lived together, if there was major fireworks when they ended things, if there is blood in the water, stay out of it!

    Unless you *really* think he is THE ONE. Then do whatever you have to do to make it work and disregard all else.
  • sunsnstatheart
    sunsnstatheart Posts: 2,544 Member
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    There is a girl code? I thought it was every chick for herself?

    ^^ This.
  • IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym
    IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym Posts: 5,573 Member
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    it would only be breaking girl code if it was your friend or your sister, but not your sisters friend.
  • AlsDonkBoxSquat
    AlsDonkBoxSquat Posts: 6,128 Member
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    Not my friend, not my issue. However, what would be my issue is if it had any impact on my sister's life. I'd ask my sister.
  • murphy612
    murphy612 Posts: 734 Member
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    As long as you don't run in to each other at recess, it's okay.

    My thoughts exactly :laugh:
  • Jaulen
    Jaulen Posts: 468 Member
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    Fair game.

    Not an ex of a best friend or your sister.
    And even then it would be okay based on how long ago the break-up was. But beware of the long relationships that were, or messy break-ups.
  • CorvusCorax77
    CorvusCorax77 Posts: 2,536 Member
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    i am genetically intersex, so I have no idea.
  • MrsK20141004
    MrsK20141004 Posts: 489 Member
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    Hit it and see how everyone reacts...

    Ha! Agree.
  • dodihere
    dodihere Posts: 490
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    No, he is up for grabs.
  • 4x4play
    4x4play Posts: 200 Member
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    This guy *used* to date a girl you are acquainted with.
    she is *not your friend* and you don't talk.

    I fail to see the problem here. Go hit that *kitten*.

    hence the reason why I love you!
  • lovelyMYlovely
    lovelyMYlovely Posts: 1,066 Member
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    depends

    1- how long were they dating??? anything over 1 year would probably make her feel pretty emotionally sad...

    2- how well do you know her. if you hung out with her or went out to lunch together it may be an issue.

    how much do you like him? if they broke up it usually means that he isnt that great.. also if he KNOWS that you know her he may be using you to make her jealous.. (believe me guys do this all the time even if you dont want to believe it) so just be careful if you answer back i can give u a good answer... because there is not much to go by here... :)
  • redheaddee
    redheaddee Posts: 2,005 Member
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    Screw "girl code". They broke up for a reason and he is fair game. If she gets butthurt that is her problem not yours.

    Damn women and these stupid rules. That's why my best friends are men.
  • metaphoria
    metaphoria Posts: 1,432 Member
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    I'd personally make the decision on how well you and he connect. Is he kind to customer service people? That is a big tell. How does he treat his mother? When he and the other gal broke up, was he talking crap about her?

    If you like him as a person and you think it has long term potential, go for it. Don't risk putting your sister in a bad position over a casual fling.
  • BeingAwesome247
    BeingAwesome247 Posts: 1,171 Member
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    The only time girl code would apply in this situation is if he was her ex HUSBAND.


    Get it. And if she goes and whines to your sister about it, tell her to put her big girl panties on and come directly to you.

    Exactly!!

    And I personally have two different friends that I'm friends with because of a guy.
    One was his ex girlfriend - same group of mutual friends and I thought she was great
    The other dated a guy I had a fling with long before she came around...she knows that him & I fooled around and didn't care and now they're broken up and her and I are still friends
  • Rum_Runner
    Rum_Runner Posts: 617 Member
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    Nope - carry on!!
  • cmriverside
    cmriverside Posts: 33,943 Member
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    No one has asked the important questions:

    1. Is he married?
    2. Does he have a job?
    3. Does he have his own place, or live with Mom?
    4. Does he have a car?
    5. Is he an addict?
  • SpeSHul_SnoflEHk
    SpeSHul_SnoflEHk Posts: 6,256 Member
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    Screw "girl code". They broke up for a reason and he is fair game. If she gets butthurt that is her problem not yours.

    Damn women and these stupid rules. That's why my best friends are men.

    ^^This
  • MG_Fit
    MG_Fit Posts: 1,143 Member
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    I'd say go for it...too far removed.
  • misskerouac
    misskerouac Posts: 2,242 Member
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    i'd say it's fair game

    HOWEVER

    if it's going to concern you
    simply ask your sisters friend if it would bother her.

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