Annoying other people!

Nope - I don't really do much calorie talk other than something like this (to my husband) "no thank you; I don't have enough calories left for a glass of wine".

I just don't say anything. If someone asks, "I'm checking calories" the end

This is it. There's no use in getting into a conversation about it. Most people typically will not understand, will be critical or worse yet, start to give you unsolicited advise. I keep it to myself. I'm not really interested in their opinions and input. I have my plan.

If they're not interested in hearing it...just don't talk about it. You don't own anyone any explanation of your eating habits, so just order what you want, and go on with your day.

Unfortunately, not everyone in your real life is interested in hearing about your working out, eating better and weight lost....that's what we at MFP aree here for! :happy:

Hi all,

I went for lunch with a friend today and started to MFP what I wanted before ordering so I knew where I stood with calories and then started to explain to her that the walk I did this morning "cancelled" out my breakfast, etc.
She rolled her eyes at me (in a friendly way) and then got my other half in on the "doesn't she talk about calories all the time" banter wagon.

Is anyone else finding that your friends and partners are (jokingly) getting annoyed by all the calorie talk?

x

Yes, that's why we come on mfp

The only people I talk to about calorie content are other dieters. I know I sure hate people mentioning calories when I'm about to stuff a cupcake in my mouth.

I just don't say anything. If someone asks, "I'm checking calories" the end

This is it. There's no use in getting into a conversation about it. Most people typically will not understand, will be critical or worse yet, start to give you unsolicited advise. I keep it to myself. I'm not really interested in their opinions and input. I have my plan.

Exactly this. If I don't have room for something in my calories, I just say, "Nah, I'm full from dinner," or something else like that. Otherwise it turns into a bunch of weight loss conversation and/or unsolicited advice and whatnot.

If I'm logging, they probably just assume I'm texting or something. I find that if I do mention calories, I feel like I'm annoying them or look preachy or something. It would be like someone talking about their upcoming wedding every time you were around them. Yeah, friends need to be supportive of each other, but there comes a point where it's just too much. Friends also need to respect when they're boring their other friends. (I'm not saying you did any of that, OP.)

From my experience I have found that people who aren't about fitness or at least eating heathy will "roll their eyes" or tell you to shut f*** up in their own minds. Or have a very boring look on their face as your explaining something. As much as I enjoy helping people a lot of people just do not want to hear it.

Similar experiences for me as well! IMO they don't want to hear that you need dedication hard work good eating habits good sleeping habits instead they WANT to hear "take this pill and in a couple weeks you will look like insert grotesquely skinny model here ____ or drink this liquid and you will drop 5 pounds a day. I've actually had people ask me what I did to lose weight I kept it brief because I know they aren't truly interested, unsurprisingly they said "well I don't want muscle I just want to be skinny. I said well if you want a body like a 12 year old boy just do cardio. I know that's a little mean but I deal with these people everyday Lol I save my breath and best advice for people who really want to change their life

I don't think it's fair to say, "That's what MFP is for..." because any time some life altering change is happening in a persons life, they're going to talk about it with everyone, and yes, everyone will get sick of hearing about it. It's the same when you have a crush on someone, planning a wedding, having a baby, traveling, etc. People talk about what is going on most in their lives. Others should really be more understanding, and supportive, or at least learn to tune you out when you're on a roll about fat content. While it may not be relevant to their lives, it is to yours, and if they're going to make you feel bad for figuring out how many calories are in a dish before you order, then maybe you shouldn't go out to eat with them. Friendships need patience as well.

Your friend is insecure, so she'll mock you because you're better herself and she's just sitting there....

You bettering yourself has made her more self-aware.

^ This too!

Well, I find it annoys most people, because if you're like me, I'm almost obsessive about checking anything before I eat it. Honestly, I try to plan my day in the morning with my coffee and leave myself an allotment of calories for snacks that I can use throughout the day. If I go out to eat, I just look up what I'm going to get beforehand so that I don't even have to bring it up, and I log it before I get there. This way my phone isn't even out!

I try not to bring it up but if someone asks what I'm doing, I tell them (being honest with myself about what I'm actually eating by tracking it, lots of cardio and heavy lifting). That usually stops the conversation right there. I do get funny looks every once in a while when we all go out and they are all devouring chicken wings and french fries while I'm sitting there with my spinach salad, dressing on the side. But hey! I'm out, enjoying my beer and not going to feel guilty about it tomorrow.

I have a friend that talks about running all the time- specifically how far she ran and all the aches and pains involved. Frankly, not interesting. Likewise, I don't think the fact that my walk canceled out my breakfast calories is of any interest to anyone but me.

But a lot of the time people talk about it because when you work out regularly it becomes an interest/hobby, the same as someone who paints, writes, etc. will talk about it if they have a particularly difficult piece to they are working on or they had a "break through". It's just the same really, also, sometimes I know I talk about it because I need some encouragement.

I love it when people ask me "what my secret is" and whatnot. They come crying to me because they want to lose weight and can't, and see that I've been successful at it thus far, so I tell them exactly what I did, and what led me to it and how not hard it really is. About how it is a commitment for me, and how it really is a lifestyle change. And how "normal" (meaning I still indulge to a reasonable extent) I still am and still will be. I tell them also that they really have to want to make the change for themselves to really be successful.

And then they don't say anything because it's not the super magical take a pill easy fix they thought I'd tell them.

Seriously, MFP has been great for me. I tried SparkPeople twice before, and it just didn't click for me there. Even though both my own mom and my aunt have been major success stories there (for real, SP has a cookbook - which is pretty great IMHO - and both of them are featured in the book. Side note: they needed "after" photos, so I was tapped to shoot them for the publication, so I'm published!), I just couldn't make it work. I joined up with a weight loss study, so I HAD to keep a food diary and I kept hearing great things, so I tried this out...and over a year later, I'm still going strong!

Anyways, yeah, people will get annoyed and tired of my bantering about weight loss and exercise and yadayadayada. But there's also a small percentage of my friends who are inspired by my example and have joined up and are now losing as well!

I can honestly say that I never talk about it. My husband is the only person who has even mentioned that I've changed. I just track what I eat and if I go well over my TDEE then I do some math before bed

My husband is used to it. I am an obsessive person. If it weren't this it would be something else, like we spent 2 years paying down debt (and killed $25K in credit cards!) , or when I was pregnant for the first time reading everything there is to know about becoming a parent. Right now, I am trying to master this weight thing. I am still in the learning phase and I just have to put a lot of time and energy into it now. I am hoping it will be a little more intuitive a year from now. And besides, he usually winds up reaping rewards from my pursuits. He is a very happy camper!!!