Trouble from your family about losing weight/eating healthy?

My dad is my biggest problem. Like last night, my mom decided she wanted burgers for dinner. My dad pulls out the frozen ballpark burger patties and some frozen grilled chicken (not much healthier then the burger but it is a little right?). I asked if I could have one of the chicken. My dad promply told no, I can eat the burger where he can't eat a lot of beef. That would have been fine but after I cooked the burger and sit down to eat he turns to me and says if I want a second sandwich I can have a piece of chicken. When I didn't go make myself a second sandwich he turns to me and goes "I thought you wanted chicken." I didn't neeed a second sandwich so I didn't make it.

Thanks to how little I make with work I get enough to cover bills and buy some food but not enough to last so I normally eat whatever they have for dinner. I know its their food and I should be thankful (and I am) but at the same time why wouldn't he just let me have the chicken in the first place? Why wait until you see me sit down to say something. Then get mad when I don't make a 2nd sandwich. Am I wrong?

I also have another family member who every time he sees me work out or pick a healthier option, rolls his eyes and asks why I bother. I'm never going to lose the weight anyway.

So do you have anyone in your family who gives you trouble? How do you deal with it?

You are 25. BUY YOUR OWN FOOD. Problem solved.

Thanks to how little I make with work I get enough to cover bills and buy some food but not enough to last so I normally eat whatever they have for dinner.

You are 25. BUY YOUR OWN FOOD. Problem solved.

Clearly she stated why she can't at the moment. No need to be rude.

OP: If you know you are going to be eating with them at dinner, try to find out what you are having and maybe work around that. You don't have to eat full portions of anything. I've been there with not having control over what I had available to me. You have to make your situation work for you though. Just my opinion. On the mental part of it though (your dad), you may just have to deal with it until you can get out of the situation. You seem to be doing well though when you refused to make another sandwich just because he said to. Messed up he did that, but some people are just like that and stuck in their ways, especially older generations. If he was living with you, different story .. but I hope you see where I'm going with this. Just my opinion on it.

Good luck.!

Wow, pg3, that was rude. She said why she can't obtain her own right now -- not all of us are so fortunate as to strike out on our own at her age. Everyone's circumstance is different, and I don't see her using her lack of food as an excuse. She's just venting about something that makes it difficult. But she's still here, tracking and posting, no? Way to not be supportive.

I can understand where you are coming from, Beetle. I am fortunate enough to have a good job and a wife who also brings in good money, so while we're not rich by any stretch, we can afford to keep food in the house most weeks. But my wife has crazy good genetics and high metabolism -- one of "those" people :P -- and likes her food how she likes her food. She is as supportive as she can be, but doesn't care to make the switch to things like wheat bread, for example. So while she helps where she can, I still have things I need to do on my own.

You're doing great though. I saw your diary for today, and it was excellent. Just keep it up, and don't get discouraged when you have a bad day. Keep it up. And prove those people wrong

Remember that change makes people feel uncomfortable. This is a GOOD thing! The fact that your family member rolls his eyes when you work out...means that you have made him uncomfortable. He is probably doing some self-reflecting and maybe isnt happy with what he sees in himself. So dont let it phase you a bit. Keep it up!

My mom always say that I'm too skinny.. but I'm still overweight. I think she's worried that people will think I'm on drugs, or something.

I always used to have this problem that's why I ended up at such a high weight! You need to talk to them. Seriously. Don't mention about how you want to be skinny or anything, talk about the health benefits. You'll live longer, be healthier and so much more confident! If they can't accept that then you're gonna have to learn to cook your own food.... I guess that would be an easier option wouldn't it? And learn to ignore them! Keep looking at before and after weight loss pictures and remember that their words and comments aren't worth your health!

You are mistaking the truth for being rude. At 25 years old, 20 years ago, I was married with one child and the wife was pregnant with twins. I took home 300 bucks a week after taxes. Wife didn't work. I paid rent, gas, phone, electric, travel expenses, food and everything else.

People need to STOP making excuses. Plain and simple.

Good for you, she obviously can't. How about you be supportive?

You are mistaking the truth for being rude. At 25 years old, 20 years ago, I was married with one child and the wife was pregnant with twins. I took home 300 bucks a week after taxes. Wife didn't work. I paid rent, gas, phone, electric, travel expenses, food and everything else.

People need to STOP making excuses. Plain and simple.

Good for you, she obviously can't. How about you be supportive?

How about we all stop making EXCUSES for her? CAN'T is the excuse for everything. She CAN buy her own food.

Wow, pg3, that was rude. She said why she can't obtain her own right now -- not all of us are so fortunate as to strike out on our own at her age. Everyone's circumstance is different, and I don't see her using her lack of food as an excuse. She's just venting about something that makes it difficult. But she's still here, tracking and posting, no? Way to not be supportive.

I can understand where you are coming from, Beetle. I am fortunate enough to have a good job and a wife who also brings in good money, so while we're not rich by any stretch, we can afford to keep food in the house most weeks. But my wife has crazy good genetics and high metabolism -- one of "those" people :P -- and likes her food how she likes her food. She is as supportive as she can be, but doesn't care to make the switch to things like wheat bread, for example. So while she helps where she can, I still have things I need to do on my own.

You're doing great though. I saw your diary for today, and it was excellent. Just keep it up, and don't get discouraged when you have a bad day. Keep it up. And prove those people wrong

You are mistaking the truth for being rude. At 25 years old, 20 years ago, I was married with one child and the wife was pregnant with twins. I took home 300 bucks a week after taxes. Wife didn't work. I paid rent, gas, phone, electric, travel expenses, food and everything else.

People need to STOP making excuses. Plain and simple.

So because you were able to do it at a time when things weren't as expensive, everyone else should be able to do the same thing? Conceited much?

Conceited? No. Realist. Absolutely.

I can't do this because....(insert excsue here). I can't do that because......(insert excuse here)

Wow, pg3, that was rude. She said why she can't obtain her own right now -- not all of us are so fortunate as to strike out on our own at her age. Everyone's circumstance is different, and I don't see her using her lack of food as an excuse. She's just venting about something that makes it difficult. But she's still here, tracking and posting, no? Way to not be supportive.

I can understand where you are coming from, Beetle. I am fortunate enough to have a good job and a wife who also brings in good money, so while we're not rich by any stretch, we can afford to keep food in the house most weeks. But my wife has crazy good genetics and high metabolism -- one of "those" people :P -- and likes her food how she likes her food. She is as supportive as she can be, but doesn't care to make the switch to things like wheat bread, for example. So while she helps where she can, I still have things I need to do on my own.

You're doing great though. I saw your diary for today, and it was excellent. Just keep it up, and don't get discouraged when you have a bad day. Keep it up. And prove those people wrong

You are mistaking the truth for being rude. At 25 years old, 20 years ago, I was married with one child and the wife was pregnant with twins. I took home 300 bucks a week after taxes. Wife didn't work. I paid rent, gas, phone, electric, travel expenses, food and everything else.

People need to STOP making excuses. Plain and simple.

So because you were able to do it at a time when things weren't as expensive, everyone else should be able to do the same thing? Conceited much?

Conceited? No. Realist. Absolutely.

I can't do this because....(insert excsue here). I can't do that because......(insert excuse here)

She's not making excuses. If you can't afford to shop for your own food because you've already spent your money on other bills, then you're at the mercy of whomever buys the food in the house. It happens. It's how things are for some people. If you have no actual advice, why not just skip over it and move on? All you're doing is being an *kitten*.

Who is being rude now?

I am giving her the best advice out of everyone here. Stop making excuses and buy your own.

Where is your advice? I haven't seen any from you.

I have to say I am a little disappointed in the way things are being said here. I can understand telling the truth, and I can understand personal opinions; however, the tone by some posters is mildly disturbing since we are all here to become successful in weight loss, health and physical fitness.

To the original post, I have a family that prides itself on large meals and borderline competition eating on a regular basis. It used to be considered funny when I (as a young kid) would pack away 6 deep fried tacos, and all the toppings that could be shoved inside... I was always very healthy because regardless of the amount of food I ate, I always played it off outside.

Calories were never a topic or concern for me until the last couple years. Back when I turned 17 and worked for McDonald's I gained 80 lbs due to a lack of understanding and a deep seated belief that it was still funny. Now every time I see my family if I say I'm eating small it is a joke. They will laugh, then fill my plate fuller. I still feel like they expect me to eat big and bad even though I now know that is not the way to be healthy. I can be relatively successful unless I eat with them. My personal solution has been to eat my meals before I get there, and then there is nothing they can say that would have me joining in on their meals, and I no longer gorge myself on food that is less than the best.

The best advice I can offer is that if there are real downers in your family who don't believe in you, give them something to talk about by proving that you are serious. If you make an effort for long enough and make your actions match your words, eventually they will take you seriously, and may even decide to join along. You don't have to give up hamburgers to lose weight, you just have to replace the mayo with mustard or add lettuce. Those little changes coupled with smaller portion sizes will get you where you want to be and you will also feel less deprived. I have actually lost a total of 45 lbs, I have 35 to go, but I joined MFP after I started my goals.

GOOD LUCK TO YOU in your weight loss, and GOOD LUCK TO YOU showing your family that you really do want this!!!

pg3 -- can you point out, exactly, where she was making excuses? Where she said that this is the reason she is at the weight she is? I don't see it. She is sharing a frustration. I don't see anywhere where she said "Because of this I am not able to lose weight" or any such statement.

I'm 25 as well, and have a full time job and a wife and two children. My wife works full time too. Occasionally we have trouble stocking the fridge. Stuff is expensive these days. Why the hostility?

You may be trying to "tell the truth", but whether you like it or not the "truth" is that you come off sounding like a cranky old man. "When I was your age we lost weight the hard way! Up hill! Both ways! In the snow!".

"And it was 15 miles and we had no shoes!"