Opinion Poll for the Gentleman
UsedToBeHusky
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Help me out.
So let's just say, hypothetically, that a woman you know seems interested. She has sent you a friend request on FB and after accepting, you have chatted briefly, but you are still only mildly interested. What should she do to get you more interested?
Should she:
A. Just admit that she is crushing on you and ask you out.
B. Wait for you to pursue her.
Option C... send you nekkie pics. (I'm just kidding!)
So let's just say, hypothetically, that a woman you know seems interested. She has sent you a friend request on FB and after accepting, you have chatted briefly, but you are still only mildly interested. What should she do to get you more interested?
Should she:
A. Just admit that she is crushing on you and ask you out.
B. Wait for you to pursue her.
Option C... send you nekkie pics. (I'm just kidding!)
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Thanks. Hopefully some others will share some opinions, but I appreciate your help.0
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A-is good
Just me but i would rather the lady make the first move. :flowerforyou:0 -
D. Flirt with you more to see if any interest sparks.0
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D. Flirt with you more to see if any interest sparks.
Ah... that's the tricky part... not a lot of flirting has transpired. Just non-verbal cues.0 -
Still hoping for more male perspective... bump.0
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A0
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A0
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so do you see each other in person from time to time?0
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a. this seems kind of obvious...0
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A.0
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so do you see each other in person from time to time?
Only on rare occassion. And we work together so it's even less often that we could talk privately.0 -
A0
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C for sure0
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A...but why are you waiting...just tell him how you feel ((he already know ur interested))0
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A...but why are you waiting...just tell him how you feel ((he already know ur interested))
I've been in this position before and the guy lost interest when I attempted to pursue.0 -
This is what happens to women when you play head games. An otherwise confident woman suddenly has no idea how to approach a man she is interested in. But seeing as the decision seems to be unanimous, I'll definitely be fessing up. But now the question is when?
He finished the brief convo on FB with a "have a good weekend" so I'm thinking approaching him before Monday might give him the wrong impression.
Thoughts on timing?0 -
Just non-verbal cues.
From you or him?0 -
Just non-verbal cues.
From you or him?
Both.0 -
A ..........If you're a grown woman ! Anything else if you're not and don't want a mature relationship0
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A ..........If you're a grown woman ! Anything else if you're not and don't want a mature relationship
It has nothing to do with maturity. I've been burned a time or two. Once bitten, twice shy.0 -
This is what happens to women when you play head games. An otherwise confident woman suddenly has no idea how to approach a man she is interested in. But seeing as the decision seems to be unanimous, I'll definitely be fessing up. But now the question is when?
He finished the brief convo on FB with a "have a good weekend" so I'm thinking approaching him before Monday might give him the wrong impression.
Thoughts on timing?
interesting quote by him "have a good weekend" would suggest that he has plans...any mention of...are you free this weekend? just curiuos?0 -
This is what happens to women when you play head games. An otherwise confident woman suddenly has no idea how to approach a man she is interested in. But seeing as the decision seems to be unanimous, I'll definitely be fessing up. But now the question is when?
He finished the brief convo on FB with a "have a good weekend" so I'm thinking approaching him before Monday might give him the wrong impression.
Thoughts on timing?
interesting quote by him "have a good weekend" would suggest that he has plans...any mention of...are you free this weekend? just curiuos?
No... he had just accepted my request, we talked briefly about a mutual friend, and then he lost interest in the convo. So I just said that I wanted to say hi. He said it was nice chatting, have a good weekend.0 -
This is what happens to women when you play head games. An otherwise confident woman suddenly has no idea how to approach a man she is interested in. But seeing as the decision seems to be unanimous, I'll definitely be fessing up. But now the question is when?
He finished the brief convo on FB with a "have a good weekend" so I'm thinking approaching him before Monday might give him the wrong impression.
Thoughts on timing?
interesting quote by him "have a good weekend" would suggest that he has plans...any mention of...are you free this weekend? just curiuos?
No... he had just accepted my request, we talked briefly about a mutual friend, and then he lost interest in the convo. So I just said that I wanted to say hi. He said it was nice chatting, have a good weekend.
this is too easy...come out and tell how you feel abt him or just be a friend ((he may just see as that)).....fyi im no dr. phil...lol just imo for the above...........0 -
This is what happens to women when you play head games. An otherwise confident woman suddenly has no idea how to approach a man she is interested in. But seeing as the decision seems to be unanimous, I'll definitely be fessing up. But now the question is when?
He finished the brief convo on FB with a "have a good weekend" so I'm thinking approaching him before Monday might give him the wrong impression.
Thoughts on timing?
interesting quote by him "have a good weekend" would suggest that he has plans...any mention of...are you free this weekend? just curiuos?
No... he had just accepted my request, we talked briefly about a mutual friend, and then he lost interest in the convo. So I just said that I wanted to say hi. He said it was nice chatting, have a good weekend.
this is too easy...come out and tell how you feel abt him or just be a friend ((he may just see as that)).....fyi im no dr. phil...lol just imo for the above...........
Yeah, I've resolved to do it. I'm just wondering if I send him a message on FB now or wait until I catch him online again.
*edited to add - It is likely to be a month or more before I see him face-to-face again before y'all start telling me not to do it over the internet. Plus, we work together so face-to-face situations are awkward anyway.0 -
It has nothing to do with maturity. I've been burned a time or two. Once bitten, twice shy.
Which is why I was going to suggest some more flirting to feel him out before you spill your guts. But if you've decided to ask him out, I would leave out the "crush" part. Unless he's really into you, telling him that will likely sending him running. Will it be awkward at work if he rejects you?0 -
It has nothing to do with maturity. I've been burned a time or two. Once bitten, twice shy.
Which is why I was going to suggest some more flirting to feel him out before you spill your guts. But if you've decided to ask him out, I would leave out the "crush" part. Unless he's really into you, telling him that will likely sending him running. Will it be awkward at work if he rejects you?
No. I don't think so. He works in the field, and is rarely in the office. He could effectively avoid me for months if he really felt awkward about rejecting me.0 -
He could effectively avoid me for months if he really felt awkward about rejecting me.
I meant for you. Will it be awkward for you?0 -
If you want honesty (and I could be far off the mark) it sounds like you don't know the guy real well. Maybe he doesn't even have any clue that you're interested. Who knows, there's always a chance that he's awkward or quiet around you for the same reasons you are him. All those things could make him act the way he is acting. Coming out with it could either really well, or really badly. Personally, I think I'd want to do a little more "recon" before I spilled my guts out, lol. Don't come off as desperate or nervous when you do, just come off as yourself, and if that's not enough to get you there, then maybe you don't want to be there after all. =]0
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