Trouble from your family about losing weight/eating healthy?

pg3 -- can you point out, exactly, where she was making excuses? Where she said that this is the reason she is at the weight she is? I don't see it. She is sharing a frustration. I don't see anywhere where she said "Because of this I am not able to lose weight" or any such statement.

I'm 25 as well, and have a full time job and a wife and two children. My wife works full time too. Occasionally we have trouble stocking the fridge. Stuff is expensive these days. Why the hostility?

You may be trying to "tell the truth", but whether you like it or not the "truth" is that you come off sounding like a cranky old man. "When I was your age we lost weight the hard way! Up hill! Both ways! In the snow!".

pg3 -- can you point out, exactly, where she was making excuses? Where she said that this is the reason she is at the weight she is? I don't see it. She is sharing a frustration. I don't see anywhere where she said "Because of this I am not able to lose weight" or any such statement.

I'm 25 as well, and have a full time job and a wife and two children. My wife works full time too. Occasionally we have trouble stocking the fridge. Stuff is expensive these days. Why the hostility?

You may be trying to "tell the truth", but whether you like it or not the "truth" is that you come off sounding like a cranky old man. "When I was your age we lost weight the hard way! Up hill! Both ways! In the snow!".

"And it was 15 miles and we had no shoes!"

pg3 -- can you point out, exactly, where she was making excuses? Where she said that this is the reason she is at the weight she is? I don't see it. She is sharing a frustration. I don't see anywhere where she said "Because of this I am not able to lose weight" or any such statement.

I'm 25 as well, and have a full time job and a wife and two children. My wife works full time too. Occasionally we have trouble stocking the fridge. Stuff is expensive these days. Why the hostility?

You may be trying to "tell the truth", but whether you like it or not the "truth" is that you come off sounding like a cranky old man. "When I was your age we lost weight the hard way! Up hill! Both ways! In the snow!".

Henry. She is making an excuse by saying she that she works but does not have the money to buy her own food and is at the mercy of her parents.

As far as me being a cranky old man, maybe I am. I was just pointing out what my situation was when I was 25.

And I also did lose the my weight the hard way. Hard work and dedication. Without EXCUSES.

That may be an excuse -- maybe she could look for a job that pays more or something. But last I checked, MFP did not stand for "My Financial Pal", it is "My FITNESS Pal" and as long as she is not using this inability to purchase her own food as an excuse for her weight I don't see where your advice about buying things comes into play.

Spaghetti Monster forbid that you ever get frustrated with anything during your diet and ask how others deal with it.

What K said. I'm done for tonight, because I have HARD WORK that I must tend to with DEDICATION. But what you're suggesting is like saying "Just stop eating so much! Stop making excuses!". It's vague and unhelpful and you sound (read?) unpleasant when you do it.

Congrats on your weight loss, I hope you find happiness and a chill pill with your changed body.

pg3ibew, you said that years ago you made about $300 a week. Do you know how much that would be today? With inflation, the buying power of $300 then would require about $475 now.

Now, I don't know the work situation of the OP, but, as an example what if she is working full time at a minimum wage job? That's only $290 a week, before taxes. You can see that obviously, if this is the case, her purchasing power is much less yours was 20 years ago. AND prices have gone up in the food market faster than in any other market - they increase approximately 3x faster than pay increases.

Frankly, you are being judgmental over something ridiculous and you do sound like a cranky old man. If her money can only go so far, how in the world do you expect your 'advice' for her to buy her own food to pan out? When you are out of money you are out of money, plain and simple. Sometimes people need help - that's OK! Kudos to her for paying all her other bills and for having a job AND for making the choice to be healthier. There are plenty of people in this world who do none of those things.

What are her OTHER bills? Does she pay 750 a month in rent? Phone Bill? Gas? Electric? Diapers? Please notice that she does NOT, at any point, say what her OTHER bills are.
Maybe she is a smoker. A drinker. A recreational drug user. Maybe those are her OTHER bills. We have no idea.
No, I am not being judgmental. All of you are making excuse for her.


And I wasn't making ABOUT 300 a week. It WAS 300 a week, exactly 20 years ago. And please show me the inflation charts to prove your point.

What her other bills entail really isn't any of our business. Do you need her to give you a laid out budgeting plan in order to believe her that she doesn't have the money to purchase food? I think that saying that she doesn't have the financial means to do so should be good enough. Like someone else said, this is My FITNESS Pal, not My FINANCIAL Pal. Her private information is her private information. You obviously believe she has some cash for buying food that she isn't spending on food - fine, you made your point. But notice that most people here tend to think the OP's assessment of her financial situation, which SHE knows, and you do not - is probably the most accurate.

And now I'm done with this conversation.

 

Sometimes all it takes is to just stop telling yourself that the way you're living is not the right way, and stand up for yourself. If they truly care, they will hear you. It is really not as difficult to eat healthy as I ever thought it was.

since I have started on here my brother has told me that over weight people live longer then healthy ones and that he thinks i might fade away. I started on here at 190 size 18-20 and now i'm 150 size 11-12. He also thinks that on really windy days I might blow away. lol

Wow, pg3, that was rude. She said why she can't obtain her own right now -- not all of us are so fortunate as to strike out on our own at her age. Everyone's circumstance is different, and I don't see her using her lack of food as an excuse. She's just venting about something that makes it difficult. But she's still here, tracking and posting, no? Way to not be supportive.

I can understand where you are coming from, Beetle. I am fortunate enough to have a good job and a wife who also brings in good money, so while we're not rich by any stretch, we can afford to keep food in the house most weeks. But my wife has crazy good genetics and high metabolism -- one of "those" people :P -- and likes her food how she likes her food. She is as supportive as she can be, but doesn't care to make the switch to things like wheat bread, for example. So while she helps where she can, I still have things I need to do on my own.

You're doing great though. I saw your diary for today, and it was excellent. Just keep it up, and don't get discouraged when you have a bad day. Keep it up. And prove those people wrong

You are mistaking the truth for being rude. At 25 years old, 20 years ago, I was married with one child and the wife was pregnant with twins. I took home 300 bucks a week after taxes. Wife didn't work. I paid rent, gas, phone, electric, travel expenses, food and everything else.

People need to STOP making excuses. Plain and simple.

Wow, pg3, that was rude. She said why she can't obtain her own right now -- not all of us are so fortunate as to strike out on our own at her age. Everyone's circumstance is different, and I don't see her using her lack of food as an excuse. She's just venting about something that makes it difficult. But she's still here, tracking and posting, no? Way to not be supportive.

I can understand where you are coming from, Beetle. I am fortunate enough to have a good job and a wife who also brings in good money, so while we're not rich by any stretch, we can afford to keep food in the house most weeks. But my wife has crazy good genetics and high metabolism -- one of "those" people :P -- and likes her food how she likes her food. She is as supportive as she can be, but doesn't care to make the switch to things like wheat bread, for example. So while she helps where she can, I still have things I need to do on my own.

You're doing great though. I saw your diary for today, and it was excellent. Just keep it up, and don't get discouraged when you have a bad day. Keep it up. And prove those people wrong

You are mistaking the truth for being rude. At 25 years old, 20 years ago, I was married with one child and the wife was pregnant with twins. I took home 300 bucks a week after taxes. Wife didn't work. I paid rent, gas, phone, electric, travel expenses, food and everything else.

People need to STOP making excuses. Plain and simple.

Wow, pg3, that was rude. She said why she can't obtain her own right now -- not all of us are so fortunate as to strike out on our own at her age. Everyone's circumstance is different, and I don't see her using her lack of food as an excuse. She's just venting about something that makes it difficult. But she's still here, tracking and posting, no? Way to not be supportive.

I can understand where you are coming from, Beetle. I am fortunate enough to have a good job and a wife who also brings in good money, so while we're not rich by any stretch, we can afford to keep food in the house most weeks. But my wife has crazy good genetics and high metabolism -- one of "those" people :P -- and likes her food how she likes her food. She is as supportive as she can be, but doesn't care to make the switch to things like wheat bread, for example. So while she helps where she can, I still have things I need to do on my own.

You're doing great though. I saw your diary for today, and it was excellent. Just keep it up, and don't get discouraged when you have a bad day. Keep it up. And prove those people wrong

You are mistaking the truth for being rude. At 25 years old, 20 years ago, I was married with one child and the wife was pregnant with twins. I took home 300 bucks a week after taxes. Wife didn't work. I paid rent, gas, phone, electric, travel expenses, food and everything else.

People need to STOP making excuses. Plain and simple.

You just said it. 20 years ago. Things have changed since then. It's alot harder to move out now, heck I'm living out of home but barely scraping by some weeks. You make it sound like a cakewalk, well it isn't. Maybe she has other issues/reasons she can't move out. People with your attitude anger me, just because it was easy for YOU doesn't mean everyone else is weak/making excuses.