i dont understand some people here
campfies92
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I've been looking through a lot of the forums and I've been seeing a lot of negative comments. Aren't we all here for the same common goal? To lose weight, get fit, and to be healthy. What is the reason to bring others down? Majority of us on here are adults. Let's act like adults and help one another! Motivation and support is a good and healthy way to lose weight!
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I agree. It's going to be a lot of hard work and we need to be there to support each other. We are all after the same thing: to get healthy. So being positive and help motivating each other is key.0
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Some people can be opinionated to the point of being mean, others are just mean for the sake of it. Sadly this is the internet, and no matter where you are you'll find mean people.0
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agreed! the first post i ever wrote got totally slated and i almost quit there and then luckily i realised some people are just rubbish so i ignore them and carried on!0
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it is what it is,, there are nasty people all over.
wean them out, find the good ones.0 -
Sh1t happens0
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Yes- Let's act like adults, shall we? Last time I checked, adults don't whine and cry and stomp their feet every time someone disagrees with them or makes a joke they don't like. Adults do not run around snitching on other people, trying to get them punished for some small offense. Adults don't call meetings to rant every time someone they know hurts their feelings. An adult should - when they see or hear something they don't like - be able to have the self control to ignore it and move onto something else.
Just because we're all here to lose weight/improve our fitness does not make us all compatible. Do you like everyone in real life? I sure as hell don't. So why would I like everyone on this site?0 -
Oh, I'm aware of rude people. Too be honest they don't bother me. I just feel bad for the people who it DOES bother and brings their moral down. I am genuinely a nice person. Always have been. Feel free to add me! I won't judge. Its not ideal for me.0
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Sometimes people mistake opinionated, blunt posts for negativity.0
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Steph I like what you said btw, I respect you as an ADULT for that. I just always stuck up for people. Sorry if I made this seem childish, not my intention by all means. I just stand up for what I believe in. I wasn't raised in the 70s-80s where what happened at home stays at home. Like I said theses weren't my intentions! Thanks for everyone's input! I appreciate it. (:0
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Unfortunately emotions, tone, and other indicators in speech don't translate into text well, if at all.
Yes, we would all like to have support and encouragement during these lifestyle changes we are making, be it to lose weight, gain weight, lose fat, bulk up, whatever. But like my mother taught me as a kid - you can't always get along with everyone, and not everyone is going to be your friend. All you can do is extend them respect in allowing them to share their views/opinions/comments, just as you hope to have the same respect extended to you.
I have not interacted on the forums with anyone that I found mean spirited. Some are direct and to the point, some are passionate about their own causes, and many of us are just learning and trying to offer what we can. It is ultimately our choice how we let any of these posts make us feel, it is not up to us to decide what the true intentions of the post were.0 -
I agree!!! I have noticed the same thing! I was even thinking of finding a new site to go to for support! I do not post much -- mostly because I just do not want to deal with the smart *kitten* remarks. I think for some people... they are just overly excited that they have succeeded and want to share it with the world and save other people from having to go through the same... but it is only effective as the way it is delivered! IE: Lets eat Grandma! Verses: Lets eat, Grandma! Ever been around an ex drinker/smoker?!?! Than I think that there are some that have also succeeded but forgot where they came from... what it was like to not have that same control over food, not be able to sit comfortably in a chair not be comfortable in public or not know what the all the information to come to a healthy way of life conclusion for what may work for them. Than there are those that are just pompous jerks no matter what -- always have and always will! I do ignore the posts that are mean spirited but man, after a while, it just ruins the entire post! I do find that there are some really great people on here and I would rather not look else where!! :flowerforyou:0
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Before anyone else can beat me to it:
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Sometimes people mistake opinionated, blunt posts for negativity.0
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And that picture is pretty much what she's talking about.0
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Before anyone else can beat me to it:0
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Unfortunatly there are a lot of trolls out there, and some people see this site as more of a free for all forum to make fun of others. Sometimes its very funny though! Sometimes its very good information offered in a very poor way. Gotta take the good with the bad to get the results, best to ignore the ones that really make you mad!0
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Yes- Let's act like adults, shall we? Last time I checked, adults don't whine and cry and stomp their feet every time someone disagrees with them or makes a joke they don't like. Adults do not run around snitching on other people, trying to get them punished for some small offense. Adults don't call meetings to rant every time someone they know hurts their feelings. An adult should - when they see or hear something they don't like - be able to have the self control to ignore it and move onto something else.
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PERCEPTION.
Lots of time people FAIL to see humor, sarcasm or directness.
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i agree totally..people judge on here by photos and also when you have an opinion on something..i always get judged on here and i don't even know why!!!!0
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I agree! Although I would like to add that when I do put my foot in my mouth I appreciate someone letting me know, tactfully.0
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i agree totally..people judge on here by photos and also when you have an opinion on something..i always get judged on here and i don't even know why!!!!0
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I agree! Although I would like to add that when I do put my foot in my mouth I appreciate someone letting me know, tactfully.0
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I believe in stating an opinion, but if you can't word it in a way that won't hurt someone then gtfo. If it is your opinion that being vegan is bad start with "in my opinion" and don't go all VEGANS ARE STUPID, YOU SHOULD EAT SOME STEAK or something equally ignorant. There is a difference in stating an opinion and being rude.0
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i agree totally..people judge on here by photos and also when you have an opinion on something..i always get judged on here and i don't even know why!!!!
Judged on what? Having a hot chick on either side of you? Pfft, must be some fem hate getting thrown your way.0 -
PERCEPTION.
Lots of time people FAIL to see humor, sarcasm or directness.
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Hunger brings out the irritability in people. Focus on the good aspects of MFP, and either have fun with or ignore the other stuff.0
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I believe in stating an opinion, but if you can't word it in a way that won't hurt someone then gtfo. If it is your opinion that being vegan is bad start with "in my opinion" and don't go all VEGANS ARE STUPID, YOU SHOULD EAT SOME STEAK or something equally ignorant. There is a difference in stating an opinion and being rude.0
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Awww...do you want some cheese to go wth that whine???0
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Hunger brings out the irritability in people. Focus on the good aspects of MFP, and either have fun with or ignore the other stuff.0
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Feel free to add me..I won't be negative to you.0
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