Am I alone?

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  • neotechie
    neotechie Posts: 2
    At least people are willing to talk about your face. Children running and screaming is all I get for feedback.
  • aseymour13
    aseymour13 Posts: 767 Member
    People get in the way of there own mouths - they just can't help themselves and there are days I would like to smack some of them. I tend to be the one taking the pictures becuase I hate how I look. Especially given the amount of weight I have gained which doesnt help with how old one looks. Understand I have been an athlete and active my whole life until I fractured my hip. I was never tiny but I wsa in very good shape. My husband lost a lot of weight recently (mostly because of being sick and not exercise). We have been a few places where he will get told how great he looks and then they will give me that sort of sideways look and ask me if I'm doing ok....and if I'm able to exercise now that I had hip surgery....not fun
  • featherkiss
    featherkiss Posts: 53
    its better to have a pretty face than a not so attractive face :)

    because there may be girls who have wonderful bodies but not so pretty faces.. so feel grateful you were blessed with that :)

    i am grateful....thanks for your words of wisdom....
  • Brianna72994
    Brianna72994 Posts: 887
    I feel the same, I'm only confident when posting face pictures. MFP is the only place I will post full-body pictures because everyone on here is very supportive and non-judgmental about it... Most of the time.
  • featherkiss
    featherkiss Posts: 53
    I commend you for being willing to take shots at all when you aren't comfortable. I spent 2 years avoiding cameras at all costs. There are no before pictures of me because they don't exist. So I say good for you! Post or don't that's still awesome.

    As for people making those types of comments? Tell them they'd be so much fun to talk to if they just worked on their social skills! Youu can lose weight, you can't fix ugly though


    well said.....and from what is on the inside...you didnt need to lose weight.....adding you....love your motivation and your inspiring attitude
  • featherkiss
    featherkiss Posts: 53
    People get in the way of there own mouths - they just can't help themselves and there are days I would like to smack some of them. I tend to be the one taking the pictures becuase I hate how I look. Especially given the amount of weight I have gained which doesnt help with how old one looks. Understand I have been an athlete and active my whole life until I fractured my hip. I was never tiny but I wsa in very good shape. My husband lost a lot of weight recently (mostly because of being sick and not exercise). We have been a few places where he will get told how great he looks and then they will give me that sort of sideways look and ask me if I'm doing ok....and if I'm able to exercise now that I had hip surgery....not fun

    ill be thinking of you and your up coming surgery....and thank you for your words of wisdom
  • saxmaniac
    saxmaniac Posts: 1,133 Member
    Roaddog, You must be fishing for compliments.. You're a cutie and you know it! OMG.. you guys have to talk kinder to yourselves.

    I think he was kidding about the insult.

    Fishing or not, some people don't get compliments on their look, as in ever. So, when you get one, the best thing is to take it as a positive and not negative.
  • diadojikohei
    diadojikohei Posts: 732 Member
    In all honesty I hate having my photo taken, but I got my daughter to take one 6 months ago, then another this week because I didn't feel any different.

    I can see in the photos where I've actually toned up.

    There's no way in this reality or any other reality that I would post pictures of myself on the internet in my underwear, but a tight fitting jumper and jeans is good enough to use as guide.

    I'm glad I did, it's given me the motivation to keep going.
  • featherkiss
    featherkiss Posts: 53
    I feel the same, I'm only confident when posting face pictures. MFP is the only place I will post full-body pictures because everyone on here is very supportive and non-judgmental about it... Most of the time.

    i have been here only a month and can see there are some real NEGATIVE people with chips on their shoulders....but it sure doesnt compare to the positive supportive ones you speak of...i think you look amazing.....thanks for the kind words
  • d2footballJRC
    d2footballJRC Posts: 2,684 Member
    I will say this. I do recommend people take before and pictures of the journey. You'll be sad if you don't. I wish I had more/better starting out pictures. I'm now down a total of 130 pounds, around 76 on mfp. I really wish I had the nerve to take higher res. before photos the difference is amazing. You don't have to post them, but for yourself I do highly recommend it. You'll want them when you reach your goal.
  • Brianna72994
    Brianna72994 Posts: 887
    I feel the same, I'm only confident when posting face pictures. MFP is the only place I will post full-body pictures because everyone on here is very supportive and non-judgmental about it... Most of the time.

    i have been here only a month and can see there are some real NEGATIVE people with chips on their shoulders....but it sure doesnt compare to the positive supportive ones you speak of...i think you look amazing.....thanks for the kind words

    People on here are negative. But I have never personally seen a person on here attack another person about their weight.
  • d2footballJRC
    d2footballJRC Posts: 2,684 Member
    I feel the same, I'm only confident when posting face pictures. MFP is the only place I will post full-body pictures because everyone on here is very supportive and non-judgmental about it... Most of the time.

    i have been here only a month and can see there are some real NEGATIVE people with chips on their shoulders....but it sure doesnt compare to the positive supportive ones you speak of...i think you look amazing.....thanks for the kind words

    People on here are negative. But I have never personally seen a person on here attack another person about their weight.

    I haven't either, it's a different type of negative.. I think it's because we are all dieting and hungry :-D
  • EvgeniZyntx
    EvgeniZyntx Posts: 24,208 Member
    Yes, I've been very hesitant to take body shots.

    Yeah, I shoot for the head. Insult me, boom. One down.




    (just visualization technique in speech making)
  • featherkiss
    featherkiss Posts: 53
    I will say this. I do recommend people take before and pictures of the journey. You'll be sad if you don't. I wish I had more/better starting out pictures. I'm now down a total of 130 pounds, around 76 on mfp. I really wish I had the nerve to take higher res. before photos the difference is amazing. You don't have to post them, but for yourself I do highly recommend it. You'll want them when you reach your goal.

    i do have some before ones....and i LOATHE them...but you are right...once i hit my goal....i will want some types of comparison ....and have proof that i really accomplished an amazing feat...thanks for your input....this momma is ON FIRE.....:):wink:
  • vislas92
    vislas92 Posts: 5
    Not going to lie, I'm afraid that even if I lose a lot of weight it'll still be hard for me to "date" because they'll think I have an ugly face. It's not exactly something I can change.
  • annepage
    annepage Posts: 585 Member
    Yes. I hated having photos taken period. Still not very keen on the idea, but more open to it since having lost weight.
  • Careygirl1968
    Careygirl1968 Posts: 58 Member
    One of my biggest regrets is NOT having a full body shot at my heaviest! It's easy to say now, but back then i would rather have teeth pulled without anesthetic than be in front of a camera.

    Even if you have to take them with a timer, and put that memory card away in a safe, take before shots, and at least monthly pictures along the journey.

    The "heavy" picture on my profile is a drivers license picture, and it's about 30 pounds lighter than my heaviest weight. I keep the snapshot of it on my phone as a reminder of where I NEVER want to go again. It also feels pretty good when talking with someone about weight loss, and I show them and they look incredulous. ;-)
  • Caged_Heat
    Caged_Heat Posts: 1,031 Member
    I consider my years from 40-60 my "lost" years. I felt like a fat toad through my 40's and an old, fat toad through my 50's. I am finally starting to feel like a man again and somewhat comfortable even taking a picture of myself.

    When I get these final 12 pounds off, maybe I will finally feel completely confident. I sure hope so. (I still hate my smile, which is why you won't find me smiling...)

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