Is this considered selfish?

EDIT:Bear in mind you have only known her for a couple of years

You've only known your mother for a couple of years?

yeah....let's hear the story behind this.

something's not adding up.

My brother borrowed my car for a few weeks, and he was very good about not smoking in the car, but unfortunately smokers just smoke before getting in the car and the smell is still in there. As someone who really really dislikes smoke, it bothered me. But I've known my brother forever, and trust him completely, I wouldn't let someone I met two years ago borrow my brand new car.

Nope. Personally. I'd just sell the car and be done with the whole thing.

If you won a brand new car from a text messaging contest but you do not have a drivers license (of course you are over 21). You leave the car in your parking space while you attempt to get your license. Your mother contacts you and says that she needs something to get around in. You know she smokes in the car and you want your car to stay new. Would you let her use the car until you get a license ? What would you do?

EDIT:Bear in mind you have only known her for a couple of years

I'd go get my license that week. Problem solved. Plus, you probably don't have insurance if you don't have a license.

If you won a brand new car from a text messaging contest but you do not have a drivers license (of course you are over 21). You leave the car in your parking space while you attempt to get your license. Your mother contacts you and says that she needs something to get around in. You know she smokes in the car and you want your car to stay new. Would you let her use the car until you get a license ? What would you do?

EDIT:Bear in mind you have only known her for a couple of years

I'd go get my license that week. Problem solved. Plus, you probably don't have insurance if you don't have a license.

That's a pretty good point. The car probably isn't even legal to drive at the moment. Which, of course, rounds right back to the "no." answer.

No. It's a slippery slope. What's the ETA on getting the license?


Edit: Actually, in response to the original question- yeah it's kind of selfish, but it's the OK kind of selfish. You're not taking from someone else, you're just putting yourself first.

It's your car and there arent many people I know that can afford to replace such an expensive item. You must assume worst case scenario when it comes to lending things out. It'll get wrecked. smoked in, or otherwise not taken care of. My vote would be not to lend it out.

Nope. The bus is there for people who need a ride and can't afford one.


(I've taken the bus before. I drive now).

Thanks everyone, this was a hypothetical. I guess the way I worded it was not clear enough. I entered a tv contest via text message and I got really excited because I thought about actually winning. Then I stopped because I immediately felt obligated to have to give the car to her since I don't have a license. (Used to live in a metropolitan area) She keeps telling me that when I get a car to go through her insurance since i am young. But she let her other daughter total (texting) her car so I don't think I could ever loan her my automobile.

Ok, so there is some clarification. I'm kind of a snob with my vehicles. I buy nice ones and don't hand over the keys to anyone. Hell, my wife never drove my last sports car (her choice). I'm particular about my vehicles. They are expensive. It doesn't matter what the sticker price is, they are probably expensive, in a sense, to you as well. Think replacement cost, costs to repair damage, etc.

I know someone who was borrowing a friends truck. He parked the truck in his driveway and that day was windy. His daughter has a basketball hoop in the driveway, one of those water/sand weighted ones. Apparently he didn't have enough weight in it and it blew over, fell on the truck and put a massive dent in the front quarter panel and ripped the antenna assembly clean off. Sticky situation.

Point? When you loan a vehicle, there are all sorts of crazy crap that can or can not happen. If it does, who will foot the bill? You or them? And if you have to make a claim on insurance, are they prepared to make the difference on you premiums when they go up due to the claim? You could also loan out the car 100 times and never have one single problem. I just don't like to play roulette with something that can cost so damn much.