About to explode! (A vent)
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30,000 truck so my fiance could get to his job.
:noway:
My husband has a $10k truck and gets to work just fine.
Sounds like you should evaluate wants vs. needs
No one needs to be picking up strays when they can't afford em.0 -
Your mom is not going to treat you or your fiance like adults until you move out. No one is going to take you seriously.
I don't think my parents treated me like an adult until we gave them grand kids.0 -
30,000 truck so my fiance could get to his job.
:noway:
My husband has a $10k truck and gets to work just fine.
Sounds like you should evaluate wants vs. needs
No one needs to be picking up strays when they can't afford em.
I do agree with this. If I needed a new car, it would be reasonably priced used one. I do not need a brand new car.
And as much as I would love to adopt ALL THE KITTIES, I do need to respect that I live in someone else's home0 -
I expected a different threat when I read "about to explode..."0
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Sounds like you need to give up a few things...Re: Pets - cant affod them, dont have time... dont have them period. end of story.
Also move out. If you are old enough to have a fiance than you are old enough to move out - money is tight? Sell the truck and get a more affordable one. .. 30,000 is a lot of money if you cant afford it. Thats just my opinion of course but if it is affecting your every day life than something has to give.0 -
do u need 7 pets? Just cook like 3 of them.
You really are kind of an a-hole... but I secretly (not so secret anymore) agree with everything you say >:D0 -
It seems like theres too many people/critters under one roof. Maybe there needs to be some strict rules in place and maybe a schedule. Like instead of asking what mom wants to eat, just make something yummy and ask what they want you to fix up and tell them that they better not complain and if they do, you'll just tear it all down. Mom definitely needs a vacation, but sometimes bosses just like to pretend employees are robots. Maybe set up a mental health day with mom.
If you can, try to see a family therapist or even have a family meeting. :]
it'll all be okay!
Best advice I've seen so far...don't worry about what other people have to say (including dad) - just get stuff done and make them eat their words. Good luck!!0 -
just curious as to why one would need a $30K truck to get to work?
sell the truck
move out
if boyfriend isnt on board with this plan then you might want to reconsider your relationship status. do you want to be married to a boy or a man?0 -
how about asking everybody in the house to help out with the chores, is it possible to rehome home some of the animals and trade in the truck for something cheaper?0
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OP, anything you say from this point is going to read like a petulant child throwing a tantrum. Quit while you're behind.0
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dont get pregnant
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I'm not at all trying to criticize or sound snarky, but so much of what you're complaining about is only brought on by yourself. If you have 7 pets and are able to buy gun/car parts that you don't need, chances are you COULD afford to live on your own. And why are you working for free? That just doesn't make any sense at all, especially given your situation....
Don't stress about your mom's situation, that's hers to deal with. Don't complain about having to listen to her rants or deal with her meltdowns, YOU are choosing to live under HER roof.0 -
As far as the rest, you need to come to the realization that you cannot control the actions or responses of other people. You can only control yourself. Mom wants to get walked on? Nothing you can do about it. People comment about your life? Let it roll off you.
Seven animals is excessive.
If you can afford some but not all living expenses, maybe start looking for a new place with a roommate.0 -
totally agree!0
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Ah, 1st world problems. Love it!0
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Just an FYI: Not everyone has the luxury of "moving out of mommies house" ..... not everyone is financially stable enough to do so. Also, depending where you live rent can be super expensive. I.e., my 2 bedroom apartment is going up to $1,750 next month. And yes, I had to live with mommy and daddy for a while until I was able to move out on my own.
Everyone has their own struggles and we dont know what theirs are. Dont be so quick to poke and make fun because you can be in her shoes one day.
It's not so much that she's living with her mommy - it's that she's living with her mommy with a fiance that blows money on stuff they don't need, 7 pets that admittedly leave the house dirty (pawprints on the floor), and she feels like she is justified in complaining about the free roof over her head.
Thank you! I live with my parents, im not making fun of her at all. But I dont have my fiance living there too, act irresponsible, and complain about it.0 -
TBH, if one of my parents was that overwhelmed, and my question when they walked in was, "what are you making me for dinner?", well, I'd expect some flack in return, to say the least0
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30,000 truck so my fiance could get to his job.
:noway:
My husband has a $10k truck and gets to work just fine.
Sounds like you should evaluate wants vs. needs
No one needs to be picking up strays when they can't afford em.
Bingo! Priorities0 -
Great advice:)0
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just curious as to why one would need a $30K truck to get to work?
sell the truck
move out
if boyfriend isnt on board with this plan then you might want to reconsider your relationship status. do you want to be married to a boy or a man?
This! There's no way in hell I'd accept a proposal from a man who had no house/apartment/place to live and would be moving in with my family. Not cool. Get it sorted, if you're old enough to get married (you're only 22, I'd put it waaaay off if I were you but whatever) then you're certainly old enough to do out a budget, save, earn more, rehouse some pets and get your own place.0 -
I'm betting that the story is completely different from your mom's perspective. There's no reason that two working adults can't manage to get their own apartment. You'll probably have to rehome at least some of the pets, but if you can't afford them (and that includes paying for the roof over their heads) without sponging off of your mom, then you can't afford them.0
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I have a 21 year old son still living at home and he is welcome to stay as long as he likes/needs. However, if he ever tried to move in a fiance or 7 animals he would be out on his *kitten* so fast! Fortunately he would never dream of trying to take advantage of his mother that way.0
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30,000 truck so my fiance could get to his job.
:noway:
My husband has a $10k truck and gets to work just fine.
Sounds like you should evaluate wants vs. needs
No one needs to be picking up strays when they can't afford em.
Bingo! Priorities
I agree but it's spilled milk at this point. And maybe there's a reason for it. Either way, what's done is done.
If you guys are getting married, have you figured out a financial plan for getting out of that house? Maybe it's time you got some professional help for your money woes. I think you should consider seeing a financial adviser and setting up some saving/spending objectives. Especially for the wedding.
As for your personal issues with the mom, maybe work out a schedule or something. She's your roommate/landlord now. You're too grownup to be asking where your dinner is. Set some expectations and contingency plans.
I don't think you're going to find any sympathy on MFP. But you will get some tough advice and perspective. Good luck.0 -
If you love your pets, they are expensive, but they are also family - I get that, I have a dog and she is my whole entire world!!!
DO NOT EVER LET ANYONE PUT YOU DOWN FOR BEING AN ANIMAL LOVER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I'd finish but I have a meeting... good luck and tell your mom to get her S*it together 0 -
Both my parents and my bf's parents would prefer we live at home until we are married. I guess they're a little old fashioned that way. So, both families are fine with us staying put for a couple more years. But, we both try to be respectful. We have family pets, but 1or 2, not 7. We clean up after ourselves as well. We also do not live together, because, if we're not ready to pay for things on our own, we need to wait.0
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Then live by the rules and stop complaning until you do. She's doing you a favor, show some appreciation.That would be a GREAT idea. if we could afford it. theres a REASON we live here.0 -
I'd finish but I have a meeting... good luck and tell your mom to get her S*it together
Yeah! Moms are like, soooooo lame.
OMG, where's my ALLOWANCE?! UGHHHH....
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I'd finish but I have a meeting... good luck and tell your mom to get her S*it together
Yeah! Moms are like, soooooo lame.
OMG, where's my ALLOWANCE?! UGHHHH....
Lmao0 -
I'd finish but I have a meeting... good luck and tell your mom to get her S*it together
Yeah! Moms are like, soooooo lame.
OMG, where's my ALLOWANCE?! UGHHHH....
+1 for Regular Show gif0 -
1) Why does your fiancee need a 30k truck to get to work? I have a 2000 Jeep Cherokee with 226,222 miles on it and she runs just fine. This was the car that I drove to work every day. 40 miles round trip. I say trade in the truck and get a beater with a heater.
2) You live in your mother's house. You have to abide by her rules. Just like when you were a kid and you lived at home. You say you have a job but you can't move out because of the 30k truck loan you're paying off right? See my first point.
3) I am an animal lover but honestly if I had a kid and they moved back home with me and their fiancee AND their 7 pets I'd be a little pissed off too. 7 pets? Really? I have a hard enough time keeping up with all the hair and mud my one dog leaves around the house. I can't imagine having 7 pets to clean up after. Also, I'd be pissed if, with your 7 pets, you continued to take in strays. They have shelters for animals. Also do you even ask your parents if you can take these animals in or do you just go ahead and do it?
Are you sure your moms stress has everything to do with the fact that she has more responsibilities at work and not because you, your fiancee and your 7 pets are living back at home and wrecking the place?0
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