Internet dating dilemma

CallmeSbo
CallmeSbo Posts: 611 Member
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If you started chatting to someone on an internet dating site and you found out they lied? You then confronted them, and their response was, "who doesnt lie on these sites?". Their profile said they dont have children and they do, also they said they are in the IT/ communications industry, and they work as a chef.

Would you continue chatting with them?
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  • coliema
    coliema Posts: 7,646 Member
    No.

    Who wants to get into a relationship with someone that started lying from the start?
  • iLoveMyPitbull1225
    iLoveMyPitbull1225 Posts: 1,690 Member
    dont waste any more of your time. Like Colie said, why would you wanna even talk to someone who has already proven a liar. Thats a red flag.
  • spade117
    spade117 Posts: 2,466 Member
    I only use those sites when my skin suit starts to get worn out or gets a hole in it and I need a new one.
  • NutellaAddict
    NutellaAddict Posts: 1,258 Member
    ONS
  • MG_Fit
    MG_Fit Posts: 1,143 Member
    I can see little white lies as ok.

    Maybe how much you make or a few pounds off your weight.

    But kids and and obviously unrelated job field...umm NO, I would not keep talking to this person.

    If it tickles your fancy though, I work in the IT field and don't have kids :laugh:
  • WinnerVictorious
    WinnerVictorious Posts: 4,733 Member
    If you started chatting to someone on an internet dating site and you found out they lied? You then confronted them, and their response was, "who doesnt lie on these sites?". Their profile said they dont have children and they do, also they said they are in the IT/ communications industry, and they work as a chef.

    Would you continue chatting with them?

    those are significant lies, which they are trying to laugh off as commonplace... which should hint to you that there are more lies already told and yet to be told.
  • LondonEliza
    LondonEliza Posts: 456 Member
    Duplicate post - sigh
  • LondonEliza
    LondonEliza Posts: 456 Member
    They denied the existence of their own children?

    {sarcasm font} Wow, obviously a keeper {/sarcasm font}

    DUMP
  • doin_it
    doin_it Posts: 414 Member
    Nope..run away as fast as you can...speaking from experience...it will only get worse from there!!
  • droneofvelvet
    droneofvelvet Posts: 290 Member
    I would tell you to run as fast as you can away from this relationship. I used to think that it is better to forgive people. If you stay in a relationship like this and it grows, you will find that you can never trust this person. There are and will be bigger issues that you will discover. If you stay here you will invest too much in this person to cut them off when the trust issues become unbearable. I'd just do it now.
  • victoriaqnerdballs
    victoriaqnerdballs Posts: 5
    Not having children is a big thing to lie about. I understand that it's probably frustrating to get turned down by people just because they don't want kids, but presumably those kids are a big part of your life and you'd want the person you're dating to appreciate that, right?

    Also I don't get why they'd lie about being in IT instead of being a chef when CLEARLY being a chef sounds cooler. I'd move on if I were in this situation. Something feels off.
  • gioisa75
    gioisa75 Posts: 242 Member
    Red Flag! Run away
  • Hendrix7
    Hendrix7 Posts: 1,903 Member
    LMAO, no.

    Is he also 6 2", dark, handsome , 9% bodyfat and squats 350kilos for reps?
  • 1258936
    1258936 Posts: 115 Member
    Agreed - little white lies like weight or something, but Kids? Totally different field? Nope. Drop him fast and don't look back. Liars lie, and they don't stop.
  • guzzlingil
    guzzlingil Posts: 60
    drop them....fast...........!!!
  • sofielein
    sofielein Posts: 539 Member
    looking for a flirt yes but would not consider them as a possibly candidate for a relationship. at all.
  • melaniecheeks
    melaniecheeks Posts: 6,349 Member
    I think they do have a valid point - maybe not everybody, but you can expect a lot of either outright lying or embellishing of the truth on internet dating sites, so keep your truth-o-meter on high alert!
  • skylark94
    skylark94 Posts: 2,036 Member
    Definitely not. Those are not "little white lies".
  • thomasblastind
    thomasblastind Posts: 23 Member
    I met my wife on an internet dating site. When we first started talking I fibbed about a few things. On the internet its hard to tell if you are going to make a long term connection with the person you are talking to so sometimes lies happen because you are embarrassed and don't know if you can trust the person with the truth. As soon as I realized my wife was going to be in my life for a while I came clean and she understood. Just my two cents
  • myofibril
    myofibril Posts: 4,500 Member
    LMAO, no.

    Is he also 6 2", dark, hansom, 9% bodyfat and squats 350kilos for reps?

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  • chachita7
    chachita7 Posts: 996 Member
    NO!!!

    One thing is to be careful and protect your identity as a safety measure... but to lie about important things, not worth it...
  • mmuzzatti
    mmuzzatti Posts: 704 Member
    Wait! Are you telling me that what is on the internet is not the truth? I have been dating a french model who I met here! According to the internet everything is true you can't lie on the internet....is the OP lying to us! OMG the horror!
  • Crankstr
    Crankstr Posts: 3,958 Member
    LMAO, no.

    Is he also 6 2", dark, handsome , 9% bodyfat and squats 350kilos for reps?

    how YOU doin?
  • oneoddsock
    oneoddsock Posts: 321 Member
    Forget it. I met my fiance online five years ago, and one of the things that I liked about him was that he was totally honest about the fact that he has a child. Little white lies are one thing, but whether or not he has children is going to affect you personally if you get into a relationship.
  • TriShamelessly
    TriShamelessly Posts: 905 Member
    No.

    Who wants to get into a relationship with someone that started lying from the start?

    This. I met my wife through one of the sites. Thus, I have a bit of experience with them and lying is an absolute deal killer IMHO.
  • AlsDonkBoxSquat
    AlsDonkBoxSquat Posts: 6,128 Member
    No.

    Some people lie, some don't. Most stretch the truth, but you have to know where it's okay to do that and where it's not. On a dating site, I don't think it's ever okay to lie about having kids since that's definitely something that people filter on for very specific reasons. As long as you have a profession, lying about your profession is a strange thing, it really doesn't get you anywhere, kwim?
  • SoViLicious
    SoViLicious Posts: 2,633 Member
    no
  • escloflowneCHANGED
    escloflowneCHANGED Posts: 3,038 Member
    LMAO, no.

    Is he also 6 2", dark, handsome , 9% bodyfat and squats 350kilos for reps?

    how YOU doin?

    I'm doing well! I'm actually 6'4" and own a multi-million dollar company on the side for when my Olympic career is over!
  • SlickFootAnna
    SlickFootAnna Posts: 611 Member
    NOOOOOOOOOOOOO

    Run. Run fast. Run like Jason is walking at 2.0 mph and he is about to catch up to you even though you are running at a speed of 6.0 mph and he is still defying the laws of physics and is about to chainsaw you in daaaaaaaaaaa faaaaaaaaaceeeeeee.......
  • ACepero79
    ACepero79 Posts: 711 Member
    Those are blatant lies. IT and Chef are not interchangeable. That's like saying I'm a gyno just because I've looked at and touched vaginas.

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