Wow just wow.
michelletyler38
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Left for a few months & it seems like a lot of RUDE people have joined since then. If you have nothing nice to say, why even reply? If a recipe I post doesn't appeal to you, then don't make it. You don't have to be freaking rude & shoot it down before even trying it. Do other people experience this on here too? Makes you no even wanna contribute ideas & makes you just wanna keep to yourself or not come on here at all.
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I agree. Keep at it though, theres plenty of nice people still out here.0
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Get outta here with that.0
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I see it all the time. There are plenty of nice, helpful people and there are also plenty of rude, know-it-alls. Being on the internet just allows more access to lots of people and inevitably there are going to be rude ones.0
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I stumbled upon a thread the other week, someone had posted a recipe...lets take a min to reflect...a recipe!!
The amount of crap that person received was insane....absolutely moronic.0 -
I agree with you but I actually am posting to warn you that you've probably opened a can of worms for yourself here.
A lot of people have posted stuff similar to this and it's gone badly for them.0 -
There are mean people all over the country and world but somehow when they write it online and they don't hear themselves say it out loud they feel more compelled to share it. Just echoing what all the others are telling you, stay strong and keep at it. If you have something you want to share then share it because at least someone on there is reading it and paying attention (even if they are just lurking and don't say anything on the thread).0
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Thankfully for me this seems to be the most troll free forum/website i've come across so far, but i'm pretty sure you're never more than 6 feet away from a troll.0
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tbh, weight loss is a sensitive topic admittedly, however sometimes you just NEED to grow up and deal with it...
was about to post a threat about how i mentally judge fat people and dish out unessarcary advice far to often... (ive never been over a healthy/underweight BMI myself) and how to stop it but i reeled myself in for people like you who are VERY sensitive...
BUT At the end of the day i still think words on a screen should not mean that much to you.....were all adults here....0 -
People want support for eating disordered level calorie goals, diet aids that are best useless and at worst medically dangerous, exercise programs that they aren't properly fueling themselves for and will only damage themselves with, etc etc etc. I've never tried to sustain myself on 500 calories a day for months at a time.
Doesn't mean I don't know it's a bad idea.
I don't feel bad at all about not supporting those people. If you're in this for health, you shouldn't either.0 -
It is not just here, it is everywhere. I recently read an opinion piece on CNN on the subject. http://www.cnn.com/2013/03/01/opinion/obeidallah-outrage/index.html?hpt=hp_bn70
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It is not just here, it is everywhere. I recently read an opinion piece on CNN on the subject. http://www.cnn.com/2013/03/01/opinion/obeidallah-outrage/index.html?hpt=hp_bn7
Yes, but that instant outrage on MFP normally goes like this:
Person posits a question about an unhealthy form of weight loss. Sometimes they say they have their mind made up already, sometimes they don't. In any case, it's out there in the public forum.
Community responds. More experienced members with significant and long term weight loss tell them not to do it. Often they suggest other reasonable, healthier things.
OP gets upset and starts demanding people be supportive.
Insanity ensues, older members with practical advice wander off, hands in the air.
OP storms off, claiming they will do what they like. Silence from them afterwards.
(and to quote someone else who once outlaid this process) "OP returns the next year, saying "I'm back, I really mean it this time!"0 -
I feel that yes, it is important for people to be able to speak freely and be honest. It's certainly not a crime to disagree, and when it comes to topics based around the subject of weight loss, you can count on people having drastically different, conflicting, passionate opinions. I also feel, however, that you can be honest, speak your mind, give someone a tough love answer if it's required, and still show them respect. Snarkiness, trolling, extreme sarcasm...it's fine if you're posting in the general chit-chat and games section, but it's unnecessary for people who post a question seeking a genuine response from this community. We are here to help each other reach goals and become healthier people, not belittle one another.0
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MFP is BAD AT BULLYING!!
Sad that the best food journal site out there has a bunch of ****s responding to posts.. so much so I tell people to STAY OFF the forums here.. If it weren't for some of the friends I have on here and the app.. I would just completely quit using it..
Also I love how it can change..when HCG first came out OMG MPF loved it... (groups and postings and recipe swaps! )then when people didn't follow the plan right and gained the weight back it became the devil...Not that it's a good idea really but still.. yeah.. I post my successes but that's it!..
And chime in once in awhile (like now) but yeah..in general stay off the forums here.. this one caught my eye.. but yeah.. people suck sometimes!0 -
It is not just here, it is everywhere. I recently read an opinion piece on CNN on the subject. http://www.cnn.com/2013/03/01/opinion/obeidallah-outrage/index.html?hpt=hp_bn7
Yes, but that instant outrage on MFP normally goes like this:
Person posits a question about an unhealthy form of weight loss. Sometimes they say they have their mind made up already, sometimes they don't. In any case, it's out there in the public forum.
Community responds. More experienced members with significant and long term weight loss tell them not to do it. Often they suggest other reasonable, healthier things.
OP gets upset and starts demanding people be supportive.
Insanity ensues, older members with practical advice wander off, hands in the air.
OP storms off, claiming they will do what they like. Silence from them afterwards.
(and to quote someone else who once outlaid this process) "OP returns the next year, saying "I'm back, I really mean it this time!"
^^^ I have seen all of this many times (although not the last line of it, but maybe i just missed that bit)
although IMO making rude comments about recipes isn't of any benefit. If you don't want to eat the recipe, don't say anything. If you tried it and it didn't taste nice, then maybe you can comment.0 -
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Left for a few months & it seems like a lot of RUDE people have joined since then. If you have nothing nice to say, why even reply? If a recipe I post doesn't appeal to you, then don't make it. You don't have to be freaking rude & shoot it down before even trying it. Do other people experience this on here too? Makes you no even wanna contribute ideas & makes you just wanna keep to yourself or not come on here at all.
I feel the same way. Kill them with kindness, I guess. Maybe some people get the sense of entitlement when they're not indentifiable in person? Who knows...0 -
.when HCG first came out.....gained the weight back it became the devil...Not that it's a good idea really but still.. yeah.. I post my successes but that's it!..
Google ana diets. Compare the calorie goal level to what you find. Decide for yourself if emulating anorexic eating behaviors is a healthy way to lose weight. (You'll find, I hope, that it's not.)
Also, why would you follow a weight loss plan in which most members gained the weight back (by your own admittance)??? In what way does that make sense?0 -
This is awesome
Although, I wouldn't stay up and write back. Sleep is more important to me than someone else angry rant. 0 -
Left for a few months & it seems like a lot of RUDE people have joined since then. If you have nothing nice to say, why even reply? If a recipe I post doesn't appeal to you, then don't make it. You don't have to be freaking rude & shoot it down before even trying it. Do other people experience this on here too? Makes you no even wanna contribute ideas & makes you just wanna keep to yourself or not come on here at all.
I have't read any of the replies yet (oh I can hardly wait) but I will tell you I did the same. I left for awhile, came back and was horrified at the answers on the message boards. I just cannot get over the rudeness, the judgemental nature of many. (not ALL!)
I chose this site because back when I started ( a few years ago) they were the nicest, most supportive people I'd found.
Now it just scares me to post ANYTHING in the message board, and I typically don't anymore.0 -
I have noticed this too... on mostly some community posts. I keep only positive people on my friends list, but it is sad that some people bring so much negativity to this site on some posts, we should be here to help and motivate, not bash and make people feel stupid.0
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I have been on horse forums for years. I thought there was nothing more snarky than a bunch of horse people competing with one another online. HA!0
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Left for a few months & it seems like a lot of RUDE people have joined since then. If you have nothing nice to say, why even reply? If a recipe I post doesn't appeal to you, then don't make it. You don't have to be freaking rude & shoot it down before even trying it. Do other people experience this on here too? Makes you no even wanna contribute ideas & makes you just wanna keep to yourself or not come on here at all.
totally agree with this. I joined MFP when a friend told me they had the best forums, and great people/support. Looks like a lot of people (not everyone. there are some really great, helpful people here too) only post to insult people and belittle them. So what if someone asks if a diet pill works? If you haven't tried it, don't answer, or just tell them you doubt it. No reason to belittle them for asking a question.0 -
I dunno, I always have a knee-jerk reaction to people posting recipes with titles of "Healthy Brownies" or whatnot
and then proceed to post a recipe for normal brownies with something silly added (like 2 tbsp of spinach to a batch of brownies)
or any recipe with Nutella. It's just a reflex.
Speaking of brownies though...has anyone had brownies with bacon in them? ...Hmm...0 -
Please dont let internet bullies sway you, I have a habit of battling bullies online but I stopped. The problem is not mine to solve these idiots need a hug or something. So carryon and step over the trash.0
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Please dont let internet bullies sway you, I have a habit of battling bullies online but I stopped. The problem is not mine to solve these idiots need a hug or something. So carryon and step over the trash.
^^Perfect advice.
And to clear up some confusion, I realize that what the OP is talking about is comments on a recipe, but in addition to that (Oh yes I've seen it) I have seen people on here come and ask a question that is NOT unhealthy or NOT some controversial thing and still get verbally beaten up in answers. It's just crazy. Seriously, if you're tired of answering the same questions over and over again, just don't answer. Move on. There is absolutely no reason to be rude. At all.
I love a good snarky person, but there is a difference between snark and many of the replies I've read on here.0 -
I don't understand the purpose of a post like this. What are you trying to accomplish? If you think people are rude on a particular thread, you can call them out on it there, report to the mods, ignore them, or counteract their rudeness with your kindness.
All you're doing now (IMHO) is complaining and that's just adding noise to the site.0 -
I agree. If someone has a strong opinion about something, they can still say it in a NICE way, not like they are rude, know it alls. I think they are craving attention and it's usually the same cowardly crowd that does it. Grow up people, this is a site for support, not bullying. Yeah, its the internet and people in 'real life' are rude too, but why add to it? They are their own special kind of snowflake indeed.0
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This type of thread is considered Attacking/insulting other members. It does nothing to solve the perceived rudeness you are talking about. All it does is cause strife and arguments in the forums. To me, this is far worse than any disagreement in a thread.
If you see actual rudeness (like name-calling) click the Report button. Otherwise, keep this stuff off the forums. This is super divisive.0 -
i think some people on here are mean for the sake of being mean but i have also noticed a lot of stupid posts which after awhile gets on your nerves. things that are common sense or have been answered a million times before.0
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