Don't hate me because I'm losing weight.....

There was one point when I was down to 165 from 217. Even at 217, I was one of the smaller ladies in the office. When I got down to 165, they were saying things like, "Woah, you're going to blow away in the wind!" or "Are you feeling ok? You've been looking really thin lately." (Come on, I was 165... still overweight for me.)

They are hating you so they don't have to hate themselves. And I doubt it rises to the level of actual hate -- it's way of expressing envy.


Having said that, I am very lucky that I have no people like this in my life (and...that's been many deliberate choices over the years to have it this way!). I have one friend who very jokingly "hates" everything good that happens to everyone (but always follows it with, "Seriously -- congratulations!").

Well, I don't have the problem of working in an office full of ladies (work remotely from home...) but I did have someone I know ask me the other day if I was on any special diet, from the sound of it, she was hoping for a quick fix. I told her it's the common sense diet. Eat what you want in moderation, and work out, a lot. She got that disappointed look on her face. But what can ya do? People are always going to be jealous when they see you achieving what they want for themselves.

I have one friend who is morbidly obese and she LOVES to tell me that I am doing this all wrong! It is so hard not to laugh.

I can relate.

At my last job there were tons of miserable, overweight, stressed women.
So, did they want to start a weight-watchers group or do aerobics together?
Hell no.
But they'd hold bi-weekly greasy potlucks and monthly 'birthday' celebrations, where everyone was required to attend—and if you refused a piece of 'cake' or whatever other horrible treat was being offered, people would act seriously butt hurt over it on a personal level.
It was a toxic environment: and toxic people thrived there. Over-eaters under the guise of 'motherly-love' would use every excuse to bring cupcakes, ice-cream and fudge-bars in. You couldn't walk from your desk to the bathroom without passing a tray of snacks or box of krispy kremes. Ri-dic-ulous.

Eventually a few of us health-concious girls made a stand—declaring ourselves pre-diabetic or sugar free. Only if you had a serious medical condition would they leave you alone—and then, you would still catch attitude from them.

I think this is just ugly human nature at it's core. My husband said he had a similar work environment once where the owner was a functional alcoholic, and he would play favorites with anyone who would go 'drink' with him.

It's sad. But you can't let toxic people or workplaces bring you down.

It's jealousy and they see you as a threat. Take it as a compliment because you are doing something they secretly want to, but won't, because like everyone else said, it is work and doesn't come easy.

Like every other aspect in life, people want everything handed to them and they can't stand when others succeed when they are not.

Congratulations on your hard work and continue to be an inspiration!!!!

With a few people, I noticed that while I was still bigger than them, I received lots of compliments about how much weight I had lost. After I had gotten smaller than them (and in better shape), the compliments stopped. I think it is apparent to them now that hard work and dedication to diet and exercise are the key. Those same folks also criticize my low carb approach when I'm out of earshot. Hey, to each their own, I've never tried to push it on anyone else but it has worked for me.

I've found that the people who truly care about you will be the most gracious in their response.

This happened to me. When I first started working at my place of employment, I was bigger than the other admin I work with. When I first started losing weight, it was slow and hardly noticeable, but she was always very encouraging, saying how she could tell I was losing wieght, but then I got smaller than her and suddenly no more encouraging words, she no longer wanted to hear about any of my successes.

Aren't people strange? Rise above and keep steady on your path. I am almost 10 years post a dramatic year of weight loss, and I had a similar experience. I learned who my friends were and weren't. 10 years later, I still have people come to me apologizing for treating me the way they did. (I was bullied to the point of having to change roles at work). You know something? Even though it took me forever to get comfortable in my own skin, I did get used to it....and settled happily into the new job (same employer). Surround yourself with people who will support you, and be gracious and rise above those who don't. Many have come to me asking me to show them how I did it, and have come back as friends after all, after a little more life experience.

YOU LOOK AWESOME!
ENJOY IT!
DONT LET THOSE *****ES UPSET YOU!

Yes I get a lot of that from one person and a little of it from a few others.

Honestly, I would relish that kind of attention almost more than compliments, because it proves they're extremely jealous of you. It can seem hurtful (especially from your Mom), but just realize that they WISH they could achieve what you have, BUT they're not willing or ready to put in the effort you have!

Just try not to go fishing for compliments and recognition in those types of situations, you're just going to get grief. That's why you're here, so we can tell you how awesome you are for doing this

You are right, they are hating because they are jelous. All you can do is take that as a compliment. And, hopefully they will come to you for advice. (sounds like the one lady wanted advice from you) Keep trecking girl! You look great!!!

Send a memo round inviting them to a lunch break boot camp session or brisk walk and see how many of them take you up on it! You're doing great, don't be put off by them.

You should have said thanks, "have they gotten fatter or just wearing smaller clothes?"

i had my friend who is 8 stone turn around to me after i lost 2 stone very quickly n go wow your gonna be competition now uv lost loads of weight. i was in shock i couldnt belive someone could compliment me but insult me at the same time lol