Online Dating: The way to go or just plain desperate?

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  • dward2011
    dward2011 Posts: 416 Member
    I met my husband on OKcupid. It's free and like facebook for single people. It didn't feel desperate at all to me at the time. I think online dating is becoming more and more popular. I did have to meet a lot of people before I met my husband... but I gotta tell you... he's amazing and I'm really happy with him... so in short... no. Online dating doesn't seem desperate to me and I feel it's a very effective way to meet a life partner or even to just meet people to date.

    I met my husband on OKcupid, too! I mean, you do have to actually meet the people you connect with online, but if I hadn't used online dating I never would have found him. I liked the more casual vibe on OKC, too. Go ahead and give it a shot, it's just one more way of meeting people!

    I met my husband on OkCupid too girls!! We never would have met otherwise. :)
  • MM_1982
    MM_1982 Posts: 374
    Anyone have any experience with cougarlife.com? I need to meet a rich sugarmama! :laugh:
  • TeenTwinkleToes
    TeenTwinkleToes Posts: 119 Member
    Haha well it seems to be the way to go in my family. Two of my cousins met their wifes (one just seperated after ten years) online. My mom met her fiancé online!! And well I met my boyfriend of 3 years online (Craigslist to be exact). I don't think it's a desperate act. Sometimes you got to search the seas not just the ponds that you swim in daily. If you catch my drift lol anyway my boyfriend was my penal for almost 4 months before we met lol
  • fitplease
    fitplease Posts: 647 Member
    I met a guy who stalked me once. Thankfully, it was short-lived.

    I have met some nice couples that met on eHarmony or some other dating site. They will tell you there is a lot to weed through. If you have the patience, you can go that route. Otherwise, why not get involved in activities that you like where you can meet people to date....tell everyone you know that you are looking to meet someone. Some folks meet through their friends.

    Remember though, online, people can hide all sorts of things. Not everyone does though. It is tricky to figure out who those people are.
  • cloveraz
    cloveraz Posts: 332 Member
    Met my husband on MATCH.com , we will be married seven years in June...
  • Cp731
    Cp731 Posts: 3,195 Member
    Sersly, I 'd rather tell my future children I met their father online than drunk in a bar. Online dating is fun, I never have too do my hair or put clothes on.. hahahahha, I am much more approachable when Im not confronted with having too "show up, all dolled up" when Im out with friends, I cant concentrate on picking up men, cuz my Girrrrrls are so amazing, we have way too much fun w/each other too care about the men. I find it too be more relaxing too sit and chat online listening too music and gettn all silly and cute. Plus the upside of this is that we didn't bang on the first date. hahahahaha
  • theCarlton
    theCarlton Posts: 1,344 Member
    I've met people from online and dated them, but I haven't had a lot of success finding people on actual dating sites. I've tried in the past because I really do prefer a good intellectual connection first if it's possible.

    I find that most sites, no matter how well intended its creation is for long-term relationships, still seem like a meat market. And the ones who are genuinely looking for a relationship - I've found every single man I've talked to or dated to be horribly scarred from their previous relationships. Some women are wonderful at being sensitive about that sort of thing, but I'm not. I can't deal with the emotional ups and downs of that.

    So, yeah - some people are really desperate because they're lonely or hurting. I'm ok with being alone or dating sporadically now and then. I joined Meetup and signed up for interest and activities groups like fishing, kayaking, debating, atheism and I hope it will keep me surrounded by people who have things in common with me and are out there living life too. Better alternative to dating websites, I think.
  • mommycordillia
    mommycordillia Posts: 259
    I've been on POF for 6 months or so, and so far, nada....I joined it around the time I moved to where I am now and outside of work I don't do anything, or go anywhere except the gym and walmart. So I thought It'd be an okay route to go to meet guys since I don't get out much...but...no...I've had countless guys that just want a one night stand, there have been many druggies and straight forward players, and then there were a few that seemed like really nice guys and would say hellp but then go no further, and then all the guys I found attractive or liked what I read in their 'about me's. would never reply to me or say they weren't interested....so I've pretty much given up... I know lots of people have found their true loves on dating sites but I'm not one of them...

    forever alone.
  • miamoe15
    miamoe15 Posts: 28 Member
    I've been on Match.com and met my last boyfriend on there. It didn't work out, but I'm back at it again. This time on POF. I just moved to Hawaii not too long ago so I don't really know many people either. I figure at worst if I don't find a romantic connection with someone, maybe I can land myself a new friend. So far I've gone out with one guy, three times so far, and it hasn't been terrible. But we will see. Best of luck to you in your search for love.
  • Jennwith2ns
    Jennwith2ns Posts: 296 Member
    Met my husband of almost 13 years online, but not a dating site. It was back in 1999 when chat rooms were the thing to do. It was a local chat room. That was what - like 14 years ago? I don't think it's desperate :)
  • Velum_cado
    Velum_cado Posts: 1,608 Member
    I met my husband online and we've been married about 4.5 years now. I think the stigma around online dating is going away. People are starting to realize that technology has made the world a smaller, more accessible place. You can meet people from all over the world online. I think it's a bit silly to limit your prospects to only the people you come across in your day to day business. And really, it's no different from meeting someone anywhere else. Yes, someone you meet online could have any number of secrets they're not telling you. But so could someone you meet at the library, or at a bar. Just use common sense and get to know the person.
  • jlorscheider
    jlorscheider Posts: 14
    Met my husband online and couldn't be happier!
  • MissObstinatiox
    MissObstinatiox Posts: 275 Member
    My Experiences from Online dating have been interesting!
    Meet my now ex husband online and he couldn,t stop online dating even after we got married! Shocking ;)
    Suddenly Thinking...I even divorced him through a online service too..WOW suddenly seeing, i use the internet a lot!!

    I,ve recently tried it again as i,m looking for Husband number 2 To marry over Skype and divorce, as i had a buy one get free divorce.
    I,ve been offered dates involving Baked Beans,I mean Baked Beans and he wasn,t even prepared to buy Heinz!!

    In all seriousness, I think my seriousness puts guys off!
  • ChaseAlder
    ChaseAlder Posts: 804 Member
    People say there are more losers online than in "real" places, but then you watch the cops tackle some guy with a baggie of cocaine in his shoe at the mall and you realize losers are everywhere, as are winners. I'd say you have the same chance of finding quality people online as you do in the food court or anywhere else. Why ever not?

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