what your significant other eats

Does he go to regular checkups?

Has he always eaten this way?

The way I feel, if his doctor gives him a clean bill of health and he has always eaten this way...

Then leave him be. Now you can always offer him healthier options but don't be upset if he turns them down. Remember this is YOUR thing, not his. And he isn't required to join you.

I know it's rough sometimes. My fiance eats in a similar manner. However, he always has and until he wants help it's not my business.
He doesn't try to shove one of his Rice Krispie treats down my mouth at night.

a mail carrier? don't those people walks a **** ton of miles? My "step" brother is a mail carrier and the miles he racks up is HUGE...no wonder he's hungry....if his labs are ok and his doctor isn't worried then you shouldn't be.

wanna know what my SO ate for breakfast on saturday? 4 pieces of leftover ribs (2-3 bones per) and 7 pancakes (about 5 inches in diameter) and 3/4 cup of leftover corn (from the rib, potato, corn supper we had friday night)

he's bulking, and he's hungry....and he can...

I was so damned proud.

My husband has a physically demanding job. He eats the meals I pack from leftovers, which include macro-appropriate selections as well as acceptable portion sizes, and then he will grab snacks like hot dogs, candy bars, chocolate milk, Combos™, and nachos. He's not gaining weight and he's in reasonably good health.


So, I focus on my own struggles related to health and fitness and let him be.

Here's another way I look at it. How would YOU feel if you were eating a treat you'd managed to fit into your calories...

And he just stared at you and said "are you REALLY going to eat that?" .

It used to bother me. Now I just make sure the life insurance premiums are paid up.

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my husband cleans pools for a living, and you have no idea how physically taxing that is.. he burns a lot of calories every day, and he eats like he does. i get him to eat good stuff when i cook, but he eats what he wants, he eats what tastes good to him. and he's a grown man, he can make those decisions. his cholesterol is good, his blood pressure is good, his doctor wants him to lose a little more weight, which hes doing.

let him have what he wants.

It's ok to be worried. Try to keep less of that in the house?

When my SO complains about the way he looks and being uphappy thats the only time I bring up his diet. I figure he opened the floor for discussion. I let him order what he wants and I order what I want and he knows why I choose the things I do. His choices are improving. Baby steps

you can suggest things, but it's his health. if he wants to dig an early grave and not respect his body or how you feel about it then so be it. i've learned to not bother trying to change people, especially when it comes to health and lifestyle changes. just try to make food for both of you and hope that sometimes he is eating well.
that's what i do with my fiance, i know he eats like crap unless i am cooking. so at least for one meal maybe 2 if he's around for breakfast, he gets some better food than food court crap at the mall where he works

I'm confused... did you cook those meals for him to eat? Or does he cook them for himself? I think my husband would starve or live on nothing but precooked bacon and almonds if not for me making meals for him! :laugh:

If he's eating like that every day, it sounds like a heart attack waiting to happen. Let him know you want him with you for a long time and that you'd like him to join you in eating healthy. He doesn't have to give up his goodies, but it's probably time for him to start thinking about his health and making good choices most of the time.

In the end, it is his decision, but there's no harm in inviting him along for the ride.

Letting him know you're concerned about his health is one thing. Telling or even suggestion to a grown, mature adult what he should & shouldn't be eating is another. He knows. He didn't fall off the pumpkin truck yesterday. When his health becomes a concern for HIM, he'll make the changes he needs to make. In the meantime, he's watching you and I'm sure he'll start moving over to the "healthier side" eventually but maybe not if his weight is decent and feels healthy and good about himself.