How do you feel about your S/O watching porn?

Crawkins
Crawkins Posts: 32
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In a thread about sexual attraction last night, the topic of porn and porn addiction came up. It's made me very curious about how typical couples feel about it.

Some suggested you should constantly check the history of your s/o's phone and computer to make sure they aren't watching porn.

Others said watching it together is fun and healthy.

My opinion is that it's a generational thing. I think 20/30-something-year olds are way more open minded about porn because we grew up around it being everywhere, and in many cases started viewing it at much younger ages due to its accessibility.

So, tell me, how do you feel about it within your relationship. If you don't view it or want your s/o to watch it, what's your reasoning?
Does personal insecurity have an effect on people's opinions, or is it religious, moral, ect?
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  • Cr01502
    Cr01502 Posts: 3,614 Member
    I think it's fine.

    Why you interested?
  • Velum_cado
    Velum_cado Posts: 1,608 Member
    Eh, whatever. I watch it, he watches it... Doesn't bother me.
  • diodelcibo
    diodelcibo Posts: 2,564 Member
    Watch it togethor and make some togethor.
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  • Brunner26_2
    Brunner26_2 Posts: 1,152
    If you think it's a problem, don't date someone who does it. If you think it's ok but your S/O doesn't, find someone else.
  • stephdeeable
    stephdeeable Posts: 1,407 Member
    I have no problem with my boyfriend watching porn. I watch porn. Who cares?

    I would also never look through my boyfriends browser history, his e-mail account, his phone....That's messed up. I respect and trust my boyfriend enough to not invade his privacy like that.
  • Cr01502
    Cr01502 Posts: 3,614 Member
    I have no problem with my boyfriend watching porn. I watch porn. Who cares?

    I would also never look through my boyfriends browser history, his e-mail account, his phone....That's messed up. I respect and trust my boyfriend enough to not invade his privacy like that.

    Cool story bro.
  • DavPul
    DavPul Posts: 61,406 Member

    Some suggested you should constantly check the history of your s/o's phone and computer to make sure they aren't watching porn.

    people suggested this? are they in relationships or are they prison wardens? i wouldn't take advice from anyone who's basic philosophy is "Trust No One".
  • StheK
    StheK Posts: 443 Member
    I think it's like anything else- as long as you're both ok with it, no problem. I do think porn can be healthy, but it isn't always. As for checking up on what your SO does on their phone/computer so you can catch them doing something they aren't supposed to do? That's a good sign your relationship is completely screwed up and you're probably both better off apart.
  • Cr01502
    Cr01502 Posts: 3,614 Member
    I have never been a big porn fan.
    That being said if I had a so who wanted to watch it together I would do it for him but it does not turn me on.

    I could stomach the porn made for women though. It is gentler and not so vulgar.

    There is so much I dont like in porn, like when the girl spreads her butt cheeks to reveal a big gaping black hole...that is gross
    or when she spreads her lips so far apart you can see her ovaries....not hot

    Also it seems so violent. I have never really enjoyed it and Ihate when people put it on at a party or bar. It makes me uncomfortable.

    I am 35 I dont know if that makes me old or a prude or what, porn is just not my cup of tea.

    If my so wanted to look at it by himself i wouldnt mind. I would feel a little inadequate if he were watching something I couldnt provide, like barely 18 videos (I will never be that young), or bondage videos (yeah right to that), or body functions videos (no golden showers here or pudding cups).... I would wonder if he needed something I would not be comfortable giving/doing.

    Stop arousing us.
  • sunsnstatheart
    sunsnstatheart Posts: 2,544 Member
    I'm quite fond of my wife watching porn, really. Thank you very much for asking.
  • treenuh_x
    treenuh_x Posts: 94 Member
    I don't care. It makes me giggle when I find evidence of it, though. But that's because finding out the porn preferences of other people amuses me.
  • Fozzi43
    Fozzi43 Posts: 2,984 Member
    I watch it on my own, he watches it on his own, we watch it together and also make our own.
  • bonsaiblossom
    bonsaiblossom Posts: 133 Member
    watch it together ;)
  • da1128
    da1128 Posts: 212 Member
    Seriously, if my husband watched porn, I'd be rolling on the floor laughing! We've been together for almost 40 years,so it's a "Been there Done that" sort of thing. (Mostly on my part, although the last 'porn' I watched was the Tommy Lee & Pamela Anderson sex video...and I watched it with my sister. We were most curious as to how Pam Anderson managed to tan certain parts of her anatomy. :bigsmile: )

    Would HE watch it now? Certainly not if he had to pay for it...he's tighter than a 40 year old virgin, and by that I mean cheap!

    That said, I wouldn't care one way or another.
  • dbkrantz
    dbkrantz Posts: 138
    I don't think it's a problem either!

    When people need to check browsing history and so on, just to check he isn't watching porn that's messed up!

    I want my boyfriend to be able to fantasise about women without feeling guilty because that's not healthy at all ! I even point at girls in the street for him to look at and then we discuss hahaha.

    It's healthy to be open about stuff like that and to be open about sexual attraction as well. Forcing him to suppress everything is not healthy and could lead to other problems
  • Bigbill810
    Bigbill810 Posts: 117
    Having an SO watch porn is better than being cheated on.
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  • BeachGingerOnTheRocks
    BeachGingerOnTheRocks Posts: 3,927 Member
    I watch it for the stories. It's really upsetting how Jorge's not admired for his hard work and intellect by his mean boss lady.
  • med2017
    med2017 Posts: 192 Member
    its normal. no problem.
  • _EmmaStrong_
    _EmmaStrong_ Posts: 647 Member
    I don't have an SO, but if I did, it would not bother me! Besides, it may give him some great ideas! :wink:
  • brevislux
    brevislux Posts: 1,093 Member
    I'd actually prefer it if my boyfriend enjoys watching porn and pleasures himself without me. It's nothing but healthy sexual appetite.
    But I would be bothered if the porn is degrading to the participants or I know they're treated badly, and obviously if there's exploitation of animals or children we're done.

    I will never check his search history or anything of the sort. That's very disrespectful.
  • MrsBikiniBound
    MrsBikiniBound Posts: 120
    He watches it, I watch it, we watch it together- and i feel pretty darn good about it....but I don't know if we are a "typical" couple LOL
  • Faye_Anderson
    Faye_Anderson Posts: 1,495 Member

    we grew up around it being everywhere, and in many cases started viewing it at much younger ages due to its accessibility.


    Don't know where you grew up but that definitely wasn't the case for me!
    That being said it wouldn't bother me, if that's what he wanted to do he could get on with it, I know he doesn't though :smile:
  • petersonabt
    petersonabt Posts: 518 Member
    I watch it, he watches it, we have spent most of our relationship apart so its bound to happen. however even when he is home, we watch it together. I feel like toys or anything thing else it helps "spice" things up.
  • cazzer69
    cazzer69 Posts: 162 Member
    I'm one of the odd blokes that finds it borin.
    The plotlines are terrible :)

    But seriously, its a bit like watchin a cooking show. Its not as much fun as eating the food is it?
  • Crankstr
    Crankstr Posts: 3,958 Member
    mmm
  • DavPul
    DavPul Posts: 61,406 Member
    I watch it for the stories. It's really upsetting how Jorge's not admired for his hard work and intellect by his mean boss lady.

    And Johnny never seems to get an actual cash tip, even tho he always gets the pizza there on time! I only watch because I am waiting for Johnny to get his first tip.
  • brilkscharrer
    brilkscharrer Posts: 1
    My boyfriend watches it and that's fine with me, just as long as I don't have to hear about it lol. Because I understand that I can't always be there, ya know.
  • SoViLicious
    SoViLicious Posts: 2,633 Member
    I think it's fine.

    Why you interested?

    Hehe
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