How do you feel about your S/O watching porn?

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  • BeachGingerOnTheRocks
    BeachGingerOnTheRocks Posts: 3,927 Member
    I watch it for the stories. It's really upsetting how Jorge's not admired for his hard work and intellect by his mean boss lady.

    And Johnny never seems to get an actual cash tip, even tho he always gets the pizza there on time! I only watch because I am waiting for Johnny to get his first tip.

    And OMG! How does she stay so skinny? That's a lot of damn pizza.
  • Crawkins
    Crawkins Posts: 32
    I have never been a big porn fan.
    That being said if I had a so who wanted to watch it together I would do it for him but it does not turn me on.

    I could stomach the porn made for women though. It is gentler and not so vulgar.

    There is so much I dont like in porn, like when the girl spreads her butt cheeks to reveal a big gaping black hole...that is gross
    or when she spreads her lips so far apart you can see her ovaries....not hot

    Also it seems so violent. I have never really enjoyed it and Ihate when people put it on at a party or bar. It makes me uncomfortable.

    I am 35 I dont know if that makes me old or a prude or what, porn is just not my cup of tea.

    If my so wanted to look at it by himself i wouldnt mind. I would feel a little inadequate if he were watching something I couldnt provide, like barely 18 videos (I will never be that young), or bondage videos (yeah right to that), or body functions videos (no golden showers here or pudding cups).... I would wonder if he needed something I would not be comfortable giving/doing.

    I don't think that makes you a prude. I think it makes you comfortable with yourself and being able to admit what you do and don't enjoy!

    I'm very encouraged to see so many couples who have transparency and trust in their relationships! It's so healthy to just be honest, regardless of personal feelings.
  • 257_Lag
    257_Lag Posts: 1,249 Member
    I wise person once told me this - It doesn't matter where you get your appetite, as long as you come home for dinner!
  • SoViLicious
    SoViLicious Posts: 2,633 Member
    Watched together is fun. But when it gets to private browsing and hiding thing... well then I think there is a problem. I don't mind at all if my hubby watches it.
  • AsellusReborn
    AsellusReborn Posts: 1,112 Member
    As long as it's not watched to the exclusion of intimacy with me, why on earth would I care? And on the same token, as long as it's not to the exclusion of intimacy with him, why should he care? Like anything else you can obsess and over-do it, but it can also be fun, it can be a good way to destress, it can add spice or provide an outlet when one partner isn't up to intimacy that night. Being who freak over porn...I just don't get it, I guess. As long as it's in healthy moderation...who cares?
  • EmmaJean7
    EmmaJean7 Posts: 163 Member
    My husband an I do not allow porn into our marriage. We look as marriage and sex as a Holy thing God has set apart between husband and wife and its to create oneness and intimacy between each other. We believe when Jesus said "if a man looks at a woman and even lusts after her in her heart he commits adultery.." (Obviously is works the other way around for women) it lets in sin or gives satan a foothold in our marriage that drives us apart instead of bringing us together like God intends. I knoe this will not be te popular answer but I wanted to add my 2 cents :) we are born again christians so I guess you could say its for moral reasons yea. I've seen porn and addiction to porn cause to many destroyed relationships...
  • oregonzoo
    oregonzoo Posts: 4,251 Member
    I don't care. Of course I like to be included but if not... also not a big deal.

    Of course I say that today when I'm in a great confident mood. Some days when I'm feeling like shamu, I'm not as big a fan.

    The real fun is our own..
  • NobodyInParticular
    NobodyInParticular Posts: 352 Member
    To follow that up ^^^

    Porn rocks. I watch it. All the time. It's great.
  • Swanz21
    Swanz21 Posts: 42 Member
    Watch the movies from the 70's and 80's and dig those groovy background music tracks
  • HealthyWarrior
    HealthyWarrior Posts: 394 Member
    Doesn't bother me at all. Honestly I watch more porn than he does lol :blushing:
  • MyChocolateDiet
    MyChocolateDiet Posts: 22,281 Member
    Seriously, if my husband watched porn, I'd be rolling on the floor laughing! We've been together for almost 40 years,so it's a "Been there Done that" sort of thing. (Mostly on my part, although the last 'porn' I watched was the Tommy Lee & Pamela Anderson sex video...and I watched it with my sister. We were most curious as to how Pam Anderson managed to tan certain parts of her anatomy. :bigsmile: )

    Would HE watch it now? Certainly not if he had to pay for it...he's tighter than a 40 year old virgin, and by that I mean cheap!

    That said, I wouldn't care one way or another.

    How to tan "certain parts" or all over.
    tanning beds naked. arms up, legs open & spread for half the session. mystery solved.
  • motown13
    motown13 Posts: 688 Member
    My wife and I watch it together. Not often, maybe a few times a year. But my wife prefers it more soft, and I prefer normal..... I don't get into watching anything that looks like it could hurt or demean the otherr person.
  • firstsip
    firstsip Posts: 8,399 Member
    I watch it for the stories. It's really upsetting how Jorge's not admired for his hard work and intellect by his mean boss lady.

    And Johnny never seems to get an actual cash tip, even tho he always gets the pizza there on time! I only watch because I am waiting for Johnny to get his first tip.

    He got in more than just the tip.
  • firstsip
    firstsip Posts: 8,399 Member
    My husband an I do not allow porn into our marriage. We look as marriage and sex as a Holy thing God has set apart between husband and wife and its to create oneness and intimacy between each other. We believe when Jesus said "if a man looks at a woman and even lusts after her in her heart he commits adultery.." (Obviously is works the other way around for women) it lets in sin or gives satan a foothold in our marriage that drives us apart instead of bringing us together like God intends. I knoe this will not be te popular answer but I wanted to add my 2 cents :) we are born again christians so I guess you could say its for moral reasons yea. I've seen porn and addiction to porn cause to many destroyed relationships...

    :indifferent:
  • sunsnstatheart
    sunsnstatheart Posts: 2,544 Member
    My husband an I do not allow porn into our marriage. We look as marriage and sex as a Holy thing God has set apart between husband and wife and its to create oneness and intimacy between each other. We believe when Jesus said "if a man looks at a woman and even lusts after her in her heart he commits adultery.." (Obviously is works the other way around for women) it lets in sin or gives satan a foothold in our marriage that drives us apart instead of bringing us together like God intends. I knoe this will not be te popular answer but I wanted to add my 2 cents :) we are born again christians so I guess you could say its for moral reasons yea. I've seen porn and addiction to porn cause to many destroyed relationships...

    We have a particular fondness for St. Andrew.
  • Crawkins
    Crawkins Posts: 32
    I wise person once told me this - It doesn't matter where you get your appetite, as long as you come home for dinner!


    Beautiful! A very wise person, indeed!

    My bf and I watch it together occasionally, but more often alone because of our work schedules.
    Together, we choose together what we watch, but for our solo ventures, we keep it don't ask, don't tell. As far as content goes, I don't have any interest in whether he's into hardcore black midget fisting, just like he really doesn't want to know about my tentacle fetish LOL
  • firstsip
    firstsip Posts: 8,399 Member
    I wise person once told me this - It doesn't matter where you get your appetite, as long as you come home for dinner!


    Beautiful! A very wise person, indeed!

    My bf and I watch it together occasionally, but more often alone because of our work schedules.
    Together, we choose together what we watch, but for our solo ventures, we keep it don't ask, don't tell. As far as content goes, I don't have any interest in whether he's into hardcore black midget fisting, just like he really doesn't want to know about my tentacle fetish LOL

    I like you.
  • anaquay
    anaquay Posts: 150 Member
    Porn give people an unrealistic expectation of how soon a plumber will come out attend to you :wink:
  • S1NN3R
    S1NN3R Posts: 452 Member
    Watch it together and make some together.


    This.
  • Cr01502
    Cr01502 Posts: 3,614 Member
    I wise person once told me this - It doesn't matter where you get your appetite, as long as you come home for dinner!


    Beautiful! A very wise person, indeed!

    My bf and I watch it together occasionally, but more often alone because of our work schedules.
    Together, we choose together what we watch, but for our solo ventures, we keep it don't ask, don't tell. As far as content goes, I don't have any interest in whether he's into hardcore black midget fisting, just like he really doesn't want to know about my tentacle fetish LOL

    I like you.

    Me too.
  • samntha14
    samntha14 Posts: 2,084 Member
    Watch it together and make some together.
    This it's fun. Keeps the spice in the marriage.
  • ashleab37
    ashleab37 Posts: 575 Member
    My husband an I do not allow porn into our marriage. We look as marriage and sex as a Holy thing God has set apart between husband and wife and its to create oneness and intimacy between each other. We believe when Jesus said "if a man looks at a woman and even lusts after her in her heart he commits adultery.." (Obviously is works the other way around for women) it lets in sin or gives satan a foothold in our marriage that drives us apart instead of bringing us together like God intends. I knoe this will not be te popular answer but I wanted to add my 2 cents :) we are born again christians so I guess you could say its for moral reasons yea. I've seen porn and addiction to porn cause to many destroyed relationships...
    :laugh:
  • bluefox9er
    bluefox9er Posts: 2,917 Member
    In a thread about sexual attraction last night, the topic of porn and porn addiction came up. It's made me very curious about how typical couples feel about it.

    Some suggested you should constantly check the history of your s/o's phone and computer to make sure they aren't watching porn.

    Others said watching it together is fun and healthy.

    My opinion is that it's a generational thing. I think 20/30-something-year olds are way more open minded about porn because we grew up around it being everywhere, and in many cases started viewing it at much younger ages due to its accessibility.

    So, tell me, how do you feel about it within your relationship. If you don't view it or want your s/o to watch it, what's your reasoning?
    Does personal insecurity have an effect on people's opinions, or is it religious, moral, ect?

    arn't you the woman who said her BF dosn't find you sexy??

    I can see there's a trend to your posts now..
  • nokanjaijo
    nokanjaijo Posts: 466 Member
    Porn give people an unrealistic expectation of how soon a plumber will come out attend to you :wink:

    I was literally laughing out loud to that.
  • pawnstarNate
    pawnstarNate Posts: 1,728 Member
    I would rather make the video with her and watch it later! :P
  • MelissaL582
    MelissaL582 Posts: 1,422 Member
    My husband and I have been married for almost 10 years and it doesn't bother me at all. We're a laid back kind of couple :smile:
  • DavPul
    DavPul Posts: 61,406 Member
    I watch it for the stories. It's really upsetting how Jorge's not admired for his hard work and intellect by his mean boss lady.

    And Johnny never seems to get an actual cash tip, even tho he always gets the pizza there on time! I only watch because I am waiting for Johnny to get his first tip.

    And OMG! How does she stay so skinny? That's a lot of damn pizza.

    It is a lot of pizza, but she works out a lot because I saw the episode where she was at the gym. Although I'm not sure what certification her personal trainer has because those were certainly some unorthodox workouts. I've heard of NSM, ACE and NASM for personal training, but apparently there's an ATM certification too?
  • Cr01502
    Cr01502 Posts: 3,614 Member
    In a thread about sexual attraction last night, the topic of porn and porn addiction came up. It's made me very curious about how typical couples feel about it.

    Some suggested you should constantly check the history of your s/o's phone and computer to make sure they aren't watching porn.

    Others said watching it together is fun and healthy.

    My opinion is that it's a generational thing. I think 20/30-something-year olds are way more open minded about porn because we grew up around it being everywhere, and in many cases started viewing it at much younger ages due to its accessibility.

    So, tell me, how do you feel about it within your relationship. If you don't view it or want your s/o to watch it, what's your reasoning?
    Does personal insecurity have an effect on people's opinions, or is it religious, moral, ect?

    arn't you the woman who said her BF dosn't find you sexy??

    I can see there's a trend to your posts now..

    Me too.

    And I like it.
  • Crawkins
    Crawkins Posts: 32

    arn't you the woman who said her BF dosn't find you sexy??

    I can see there's a trend to your posts now..

    Yeah, though last night he said if he doesn't look at my face it isn't a problem hahahah

    A trend? Yes, in fact I have posted 2 whole threads that relate to sex in some way.
    Damn me for finding human sexuality to be fascinating.
  • stephdeeable
    stephdeeable Posts: 1,407 Member
    It bothers me more that my boyfriend watches Two and a Half Men. Now, that's offensive.
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