Disrespected by my stepson

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  • jaylas_mom21
    jaylas_mom21 Posts: 311 Member
    Your husband should make sure his son respects you. My stepson is 14 but is 6'3" so is way bigger than me and there is no way my husband would let him get away with disrespecting me or his mom. That's just the way it works. Kids should respect you and your husband should stand behind you. It doesn't matter that he had him before you got together, he still is supposed to respect you even if he is 18 and if he chooses not to, he should be out not you. But if your husband is this way and doesn't make him respect you, maybe you need to leave. You should not be treated this way. I'm sorry.
  • malyndad
    malyndad Posts: 30 Member
    It doesn't matter who was there first. You don't deserve to be treated that way, and if you take it, you are teaching your daughters that it's okay for them to be treated this way as well. I lived in an abusive (psychological) relationship for 10 years before I had the courage to leave. Please respect yourself and your girls, you deserve it!
  • kimosabe1
    kimosabe1 Posts: 2,467 Member
    U ARE RIGHT! Don't put up with that garbage any longer..... I would start looking for a new place to live right now girl. For him to allow that amount of disrespect to an adult is absurd! I would pack and keep it a surprise until the last minute.......
  • Contrarian
    Contrarian Posts: 8,138 Member
    Your partner shouldn't tolerate his son speaking to ANYONE that way, let alone you. I'm sorry, but I have to agree that by allowing this kind of disrespect from his son, he is showing the whole family how to treat you.

    It's always difficult to walk away, but his inaction speaks volumes about the way he sees you. You deserve better. Everyone does.
  • lilpoindexter
    lilpoindexter Posts: 1,122 Member
    Thank goodness I never dated people with children...nothing good could come of it.
  • AlongCame_Molly
    AlongCame_Molly Posts: 2,835 Member
    I see you've gotten a lot of very good responses already... but I'd like to point out that since your stepson is 18 and a legal adult, keep in mind that if he ever touches you or threatens you (or even if you FEEL threatened) your husband may not do anything about it, but the police sure as hell will. Call the cops on him and press whatever charges will stick. That might be the wake-up call both he and your husband need to show that you won't take any more of their crap.

    Good luck!
  • chooselove
    chooselove Posts: 106 Member
    You are correct, his dad should step in and explain (loudly if need be) the correct way to treat women, much less someone who is a mother figure. He isn't doing your step son any favors. He will have a hard time with women and relationships until he figures this out. Unfortunately your husband doesn't sound as if he's figured it out either, thus your relationship problems.

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    i say leave them both.
  • Dulcemami4ever
    Dulcemami4ever Posts: 344 Member
    I would say to kick the stepson out, but it seems that your husband is just as bad. I don't know why you even wrote about this here as you already know what you should do. The father doesn't respect you and neither will the son since he doesn't seem to have been raised the right way. Get out before you waste anymore of your life being with losers.
  • millerll
    millerll Posts: 873 Member
    Ummmm........this thread is 4 1/2 years old.

    I'm pretty sure the situation has resolved itself one way or the other.
  • cmriverside
    cmriverside Posts: 34,363 Member
    I think she divorced his *kitten* like four years ago, ya'll. She's on my friend list...

    Here's a great thread by the OP that is actually fun to read...

    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/35943-free-therapy-another-open-letter
  • WinnerVictorious
    WinnerVictorious Posts: 4,733 Member
    Ummmm........this thread is 4 1/2 years old.

    I'm pretty sure the situation has resolved itself one way or the other.

    bazinga.gif

    :bigsmile:
  • Contrarian
    Contrarian Posts: 8,138 Member
    Ummmm........this thread is 4 1/2 years old.

    I'm pretty sure the situation has resolved itself one way or the other.

    Hah! I didn't notice!
  • Contrarian
    Contrarian Posts: 8,138 Member
    Ummmm........this thread is 4 1/2 years old.

    I'm pretty sure the situation has resolved itself one way or the other.

    bazinga.gif

    :bigsmile:

    *kitten*. :smile:
  • doc800
    doc800 Posts: 148
    So wrong on so many levels. So, i would find really embarrassing photo's of him as a young kid and make sure to show them to any girl he brings around. learn to photo shop and put him in a dress, the best defense is a great offense :)
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