do I have the right to be irritated?

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  • harvo
    harvo Posts: 4,676 Member
    Ha ha..answer to this guy..."You look like the guy in a picture I saw while working with a client that just wanted to talk and be spotted...she hated this excercise...."
  • volleypc
    volleypc Posts: 134 Member
    Who cares? Move on.
    x2
  • MyChocolateDiet
    MyChocolateDiet Posts: 22,281 Member
    this was an insult along the lines of "my wife can do better". do what my husband does and retort any "my wife" insult with a "banged your wife" response. shuts them up forever.

    next time you see him at the gym march straight up and go "your right! i showed those to your wife along with a few other things *wink* and she LOVED them!" then be prepared to duke it out . issue resolved.
  • _DaniD_
    _DaniD_ Posts: 2,186 Member
    You are looking way too into this. :laugh:
  • iAMsmiling
    iAMsmiling Posts: 2,394 Member
    Just break up with him.
  • Fit_Kenzie
    Fit_Kenzie Posts: 124
    I don't let things like that bother me
  • Kmanouchehri90
    Kmanouchehri90 Posts: 81 Member
    I'm pretty sure he didn't meat it the way you took it. Even if he did, who cares?
  • MyChocolateDiet
    MyChocolateDiet Posts: 22,281 Member
    I think he spent the better part of a day quietly plotting the perfect comment that would derail all your efforts and send you into a shame spiral.

    OR he just thought that was a cool exercise you were doing, like he said.

    haha, it didn't derail me, i just pushed that much harder, but yeah, i don't hink he meant it in a negative way, i just took it that way:
    moving on........
    No. I don't think so. I think he was intentionally being a douche. I know douches, I'm married to one and he works with a bunch of them. This kind of sly insult is a normal part of douche behavior and is fun and hilarious. Get in the game.
  • keenster
    keenster Posts: 16
    Hit him with the chain and be done with it.
  • Cr01502
    Cr01502 Posts: 3,614 Member
    He was calling you a sissy.
  • junejadesky
    junejadesky Posts: 524 Member
    Why react to things we can't control? You can't control what he thinks... so let it go....
  • lorib75
    lorib75 Posts: 490 Member
    You have the right to feel however you feel.
  • wikitbikit
    wikitbikit Posts: 518 Member
    He was totally asking you out. I mean, asking you to fight.
  • Mustang_Susie
    Mustang_Susie Posts: 7,045 Member
    Hit him with the chain and be done with it.

    That got a big ol belly laugh! :bigsmile:
  • WarriorMom2012
    WarriorMom2012 Posts: 621 Member
    He was hitting on you.
  • Tysonlovesweights
    Tysonlovesweights Posts: 139 Member
    He was totally asking you out. I mean, asking you to fight.

    you could be right.....he may have mistaken me squinting from the sweat in my eye as a wink!
  • ppage59
    ppage59 Posts: 1
    Why are you wasting your energy getting irritated about the opinion of this person? I guess you have the "right" to be irritated, but why would you be? If you believe your workout is sufficient to meet your goals, why does his opinion count at all? Don't let other people control your emotions! Keep up the good work(out)!!!:smile:
  • Mustang_Susie
    Mustang_Susie Posts: 7,045 Member
    He was totally asking you out. I mean, asking you to fight.

    you could be right.....he may have mistaken me squinting from the sweat in my eye as a wink!

    So many dangers lurking at the gym...

    Who knew?:huh:
  • sally_jeffswife
    sally_jeffswife Posts: 766 Member
    would bug me a little too, maybe he was just really insecure himeself though and was doing it to make himself feel better. I would just feel sorry for the poor guy. Don't let it get to ya. He had to be checking you out a little or he wouldn't have made any comments at all.
  • Denise048
    Denise048 Posts: 12
    How do you know that his wife is unhealthy. She may be very fit, Just because she sits at a desk all day does not mean shes a fat slob.
  • SoDamnHungry
    SoDamnHungry Posts: 6,998 Member
    Laugh at the fact that he probably has a small...you know.
  • pandabratt1
    pandabratt1 Posts: 36 Member
    My personal reaction would have been that he recognized how much effort it took for this exercise. I work a desk job also, so I am always looking for ways to quickly make up for all the time I spend sitting. It is not that it is easy or that it is hard, (and quite honestly even people with desk jobs can be fit,) it is that it requires activity and I'm sure it burns a ton of calories in a shorter length of time. Maybe he was actually saying it in an off-hand way, intending or hoping for you to give pointers about the exercise so that he could encourage his wife to try it, but then again maybe he wasn't. You will never know his intent behind the comment; however, I wouldn't hold on to it for too long since it will only make you miserable. I will agree about the ettiquette thing though.
  • SoDamnHungry
    SoDamnHungry Posts: 6,998 Member
    How do you know that his wife is unhealthy. She may be very fit, Just because she sits at a desk all day does not mean shes a fat slob.

    While his wife might be very fit, approaching some guy minding his own business and telling him your wife could do what he's doing sounds like it's meant to be an insult.
  • wikitbikit
    wikitbikit Posts: 518 Member
    you could be right.....he may have mistaken me squinting from the sweat in my eye as a wink!
    Absolutely! You'd be amazed at the things some guys can conclude are come-ons. :)

    Breathing, for example.
  • iAMsmiling
    iAMsmiling Posts: 2,394 Member
    He's in denial about his own sexual orientation and is hiding his attraction for you behind thinly veiled insults.

    Don't drop the soap.
  • 1ConcreteGirl
    1ConcreteGirl Posts: 3,677 Member
    would bug me a little too, maybe he was just really insecure himeself though and was doing it to make himself feel better. I would just feel sorry for the poor guy. Don't let it get to ya. He had to be checking you out a little or he wouldn't have made any comments at all.

    Yeah, he's definitely jealous.
  • Tysonlovesweights
    Tysonlovesweights Posts: 139 Member
    How do you know that his wife is unhealthy. She may be very fit, Just because she sits at a desk all day does not mean shes a fat slob.

    While his wife might be very fit, approaching some guy minding his own business and telling him your wife could do what he's doing sounds like it's meant to be an insult.
    i don't mean to cast any aspersions on people who work in offices, it was his tone that made me think he meant it that way
  • ianlikesholidays
    ianlikesholidays Posts: 75 Member
    Hi
    NO - you have no right to be irritated. I bet a lot of other trivial things irritate you as well..
    Sorry , but I've met plenty of people who enjoy the drama of getting irritated and angry at any opportunity.
    Ian
  • Mainebikerchick
    Mainebikerchick Posts: 1,573 Member
    I think you're taking it too personal. It was just a comment, let it go.
  • wikitbikit
    wikitbikit Posts: 518 Member
    Uh-oh, Ian says you don't have the right to be irritated. Are you going to just sit there and take that?

    *popcorn*