What would you want done?

@Robyn, do you even have kids? If you do I am really, really sorry . . .for them

Hm, I find that rather insulting. But thanks for the expression of concern for their welfare. I am of the non-american school of child-rearing that says that teachers have a right to tell you that your child has been naughty, and they have the right to impose their authority by verbal and non-physical discipline in school. I couldn't care less about 'on their level' reasoning with small, naughty children.

I also have seen children (my own and others) tell bald-face lies when they think it will get them out of being disciplined. And I have a huge amount of respect for teachers, who have a tough enough job dealing with ill-disciplined children, without having to deal with parents who think their kids can do no wrong.

I guess that makes me a terrible mother. Feel free to call the authorities.

This woman should not be around children period! If you want me to help you get rid of her and make it look like an accident, Im in. I watch ID channel, they'll never be able to prove anything

I'm glad I'm not the only one who doesn't approve of the way the situation was handled :flowerforyou:

and like I said, i am in the legal field I can help cover it up, lol JK . . .

FR sent :flowerforyou:

Hm, let's see... your child misbehaved in class and was verbally disciplined by his teacher, who then communicated why this occurred to you when you went to collect him. Of course you thought he looked 'scared and sad' while she thought he was being insolent - there is a big difference in how parents and teachers view your little darling!

Your child later reports physical abuse that apparently no one else at the school witnessed, and the administration told you that with no evidence of this occurring, they would not fire the teacher. Seems pretty darned reasonable to me.

If you don't like the staff then take your child elsewhere, but what you're proposing here sounds like a witchhunt. If the woman did not, in fact, touch your child, you are potentially hounding her out of her job with no evidence - kids lie, particularly when they think they have a sympathetic audience - and I am sure this is not the first time a teacher has been accused of something by a child resentful of verbal and/or non-physical discipline.

You reported it, and the administration dealt with it as best they could given that there is no physical evidence or witnesses (apparently). If she did pinch your child on the cheek, I assume she is on notice that a complaint has been lodged and she will presumably lose her job if there is evidence of this occurring.

I'm not sure what else you can reasonably expect, to be honest.

Glad I'm not the only one who is thinking this way. I love my son to death, but rules and discipline are part of life. Your child was to be in timeout, not running to be oddled by Mommy when you came in the door. He knew the expectation and wasn't following it. I honestly think you're over reacting, and expecting someone to lose their job over it, or be arrested is ridiculous!

I'm one of the strictest parents you will ever meet. I'm a firm believer in discipline, rules, and solid boundaries for children. Again I spent ten years in childcare. I have taken pictures of my children following all house rules and have them posted in our home. I follow a system similar to "Boystown". When my children are given a command they're expected to look at me, say okay, do as they're told, and if necessary check back to let me know they have completed my request. They know exactly where the timeout spots are in my home and know to go immediately. Even my 18 month old puts himself in timeout. If they don't sit appropriately in timeout, they will be asked to stand nose to the wall. If they fail to do that, they go to their room until they are willing to sit in the timeout. When they are done with the timeout they are asked to do what they were originally told to do. When they do what they were told they are praised for proper behavior and listening skills. They also lose privleges such as treats, outings, television, toys,and video games when necessary or appropriate. No yelling, finger shaking, or degrading necessary. If he failed to comply with her direction then a timeout is warranted as was a redirection after the timeout. He was not non compliant during the interaction. The room was not too loud for him to hear her if she spoke normal. No one responds well to a finger in there face. Again I wouldn't want my child to learn and repeat the phrase used with him. It is rude and derogatory. Not once in the interaction did she show him what to do. Nor did she have him complete the appropriate behavior.

Again thank you for your feedback.:flowerforyou:

If you went to pick up your three year old at daycare and

1.the teacher stopped him from running to you to give you a hug saying they needed to "talk" about why he was in timeout (for putting his feet on the table)
2.Stood over him (not on his level)
3.Raised her voice and used an angry tone in front of everyone
4.shook and pointed her finger at him
5.Repeatedly told him to wipe the look of his face when he looked sad and scared
6.and later that night he told you that a teacher pinched his face when it was snack time (he didn't like the snack)
7.the next day you took him in and asked him to point out the teacher who hurt him (in front of other staff, the assistant director, and a family member for a witness) and he pointed at the same teacher and said that's the teacher who hurt me.

a. Teacher suspended
b. Teacher Fired
c. Teacher left in room with other children
d. Teacher reported to authorities

If it's in a Catholic institution would it change your answer on how you wanted it or expected it to be handled?

Accepting all feedback:flowerforyou:

He is so docile that when his 18 month old brother beats him up he just cries for help and won't fight back!

After the first part I said "Some people shouldn't be working in daycare" and then she left the room.
The next morning when I brought him in and he identified her I told the assistant director that I didn't want him in the same room and I wanted a resolution. They left her in the room but moved my child to the next level up. I told them I was reporting her. I went out to my car and called cps then proceeded to the parish office to speak to the pastor. He assured me something would be done. Police came to look at my son, but no mark=no crime. At the end of the day the teacher was still with children. My friend who has her son in saw the teacher alone in the bathroom with several children and she was yelling at them. I again spoke to the director and demanded a resolution and to know their policies. She said there would be a resolution, but probably not the one I wanted. The next morning I called her and she said they decided to keep her on staff because they couldn't prove she did anything. I called the pastor and told him I hoped it wasn't the Churches policy to keep people accused of abuse on staff. He promised to suspend her until after the investigation. It has been handed from CPS to day care licensing and I am waiting for it to be assigned to a caseworker.