How do I not eat the junk if it's in the house?

Hmmmmmm, get a picture of someone who has the body you are working toward and tape it inside the cupboard where the evil food lives and maybe that reminder will help you not indulge

I thought I'd found the answer but I have an answer. I read an article about Pause Button Therapy, so spent a few pounds on the book :huh: and another few pounds on the wristband and card :huh: . Almost total waste of time, you need a degree to understand half book and the remote card thing I used as a book mark. However I love the wrist band, I've put it on my right wrist and every time I reach for something all I can see is this b**dy band that says "Stop . Think . Act", not only have I stopped and thought when reaching for food, I'm also saving money and my impulse buying is down. Win Win. I don't think you need to buy the wrist band just put something there that reminds you of your goals.

We have a cupboard where my husband keeps his foods that I consider treats. I do not under any circumstances open that cupboard.

If I want a treat I will ask if he has whatever I am craving in there and he will measure out a single serving for me, if he has it.

Find an alternative that works for you...what is it that you struggle to resist the most? For me, chocolate is my weakness. So now I keep a bar of really, really dark chocolate in the house- up to 90% cocoa solids if I can. When I need a sweet fix I have a square of this. I find the bitter, richness of the chocolate satisfying, it curbs my choccy craving and its really not that moreish so one square tends to do the trick!

Willpower. I love food. I have tons of junk sitting around (because I compulsively buy it). But I just don't eat it, even though I love sugar more than pretty much anything else. And if you have to eat it, have one treat a day. When it comes down to it, weight loss is calories in vs calories out.

He is the head of the house, he says buy it, I buy it.

there's your problem

This. Are you married to a caveman?

And this is offensive. I am a good Christian woman, married to a good Christian man. We follow the guidelines set out in God's word. This has nothing to do with losing weight, or having willpower to not eat junk. You should more carefully choose your words before typing.

Sorry,,, I know this is derailing the OP thread... and I don't know a ton about religion

But I don't understand what following God's word and letting your husband order you around have to do with one another. These days, the man is not always the head of the household and these days a man definately is not right to be telling his wife wht to do. I don't understand religion so maybe I fail to know the part of the religion that states a woman is not an independant person and must follow what her husband says.

I'm not a religious person and neither is my husband. Even if we were, he would never be telling me what to do.

i completely understand. My husband will buy boxes of candy bars, ice cream, ice cream sandwiches, chips, ding dongs etc... I just have a hard time going to the kitchen and I see those and I crave them and end up eating one. I ask him not to buy those things but you know how that goes, he says I like them so therefore I buy them. I thought about making just a cabinet for him and his snacks so that way I can go to my cabinet and get mine and I won't see his

Here's a thought...log it before you eat it and when you see how many useless calories you are eating you MIGHT change your mind!

I allow myself calories each day to have a treat if I desire it. If I allow myself some treats I'm less likely to binge eat everything in sight. My boyfriend keeps sweets in the house and I'm okay with it (now, it took me awhile to gain that self control). I have learned to allow myself some treats when I really want it. We've have chocolate in the fridge for over a month now that i haven't had the urge to touch even though its my favorite kind. I rather eat my cinnamon roll quest bar with those calories

He is the head of the house, he says buy it, I buy it.

there's your problem

This. Are you married to a caveman?

I tend to agree with these OP.
But I don't know all the details of your relationship.
This would be a red flag to me.
As long as your are happy.....

I have a picture I printed out that says "If you want to fly, then you have to get rid off the **** that weighs you down." This is on my fridge. I know that I won't always follow this. My weakness is chocolate and pepsi. So I don't buy sodas at all and I have a bag of Dark Chocolate morsels. I'll only have four of them when I want chocolate.

My husband brings home chocolate chip cookies (my favorite) every day and also buys a lot of junk food so I can sympathize with you. It's very challenging to have that around and not have an impulse to just grab a cookie or some Fritos in the spur of the moment. My willpower is still pretty weak too. I am going to get healthy snacks to turn to when I have that impulse or lack of willpower. I agree with what a lot of people are saying, just don't deprive yourself. I believe over time those cravings and impulses will become less as you challenge yourself more to eat healthy, and your willpower/confidence will improve. Also, if you talk to your husband and let him know how important it is to you to eat healthier as a family, which will improve your mood, confidence, and essentially help you accomplish your goals. You will be a much happier wife and when he sees how hard you are working he might give you a break and try eating healthy with you. Sorry for the long response! I hope this helps :-)

Wow, loads of people have ignored the fact that you live with other people and can't just throw away their food...

I find that the smallest hint of relationship issues and everyone on the site calls for the termination of a relationship rather than discussion or problem solving.

This is a difficult situation and deciding that there is something wrong with their marriage because OP has different values then you do, is unenlightened.

I've lost count of the number of times I've read people saying "you should just leave him/her" at the slightest whiff of relationship strife on this site. Relationships require more than just saying "I love you" they require communication, respect and sometimes compromise and maybe even a little sacrifice.

My husband buys the stuff and hides it (at my request). Works a charm! I want to eat it, but am to lazy or time-constricted to look for it. Have any locking cabinets in the house?