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I'm saying is that insulting everyone as though it is some kind of rule that everyone who follows some low calorie diet (again I'm talking nutritious, reasonable, low calorie diet) is a lunch away from full blown, skinny fat, no muscle having anorexia is rude and kind of ridiculous and it happens a lot on here.
See, I agree with you again. I have personally spent a lot of time doing research. For me, it is an issue of balancing my ADHD which makes me want to get everything right the f' now with health. I have spent the last 14 years doing heavy lifting/strength training and I don't want to lose that muscle just because I want to lose the fat. However, I have trouble prioritizing logging and counting calories without weight loss. So what is the healthy balance? For me, it is maintaining my strength training routine, eating a high protein diet and cutting calories to a point where I see results. Research indicates this yields the best results (for what I want).
I fully understand all of the reasons (or at least a good number of them) that this is not ideal for the average person. I don't think it's an all or nothing experiment. I think getting to our healthiest selves is a very personal journey filled with very personal decisions. Again, I mentioned a bunch of them before.
I think that people often abbreviate their responses based on past encounters and may not fully express their entire motivation and then, some people are genuinely under-educated. Nothing most people can do to fix that. I think that starting things with an insult (whether it's a back handed insult or a straight on insult) is not the most productive way to help most people although it may get the most attention so I could be wrong.0 -
Well simply put I find it sad if ANYONE on this website reaches their goal and then decides to stop what they are doing. These should be lifetime changes in our eating and exercise habits not a end goal process.
Of course, then if you stopped and started eating fatty food like you were before you would gain the weight back lol.
The people who build muscles......if they stop training their muscles those muscles will ALSO be lost. And as we age our muscle do shrink unless we are constantly training them.0 -
First thing (and this is really my only disagreement with this) the Minnesota Starvation Experiment included copious amounts of exercise including extended marches and other exercise. The entire point was to determine the best way of "re-feeding" following the holocaust for those in labor camps.
My experience isn't really that people express themselves succinctly on the internet. I have been accused of that several times. Again, I'm not disagreeing with the general sentiment. My point is that people post these types of posts often and all make blanket insults without moderation.
Would your post be as effective with more caveats? Maybe, maybe not. I know it wouldn't really irk me as much if posts like this were a bit more specific to your desired audience but maybe my personality type is more unique than I thought originally.
Regardless, I like to play a bit of devil's advocate from a moderately educated point of view and give a bit of perspective from my side. I'm not disagreeing that it may not be the "best" way but I'm saying that your statements don't apply to all.
stop zinging me or i'm gonna have to start making some absolutely asinine claims... all this ice cream clouds my memory (yes, the ice cream defense... its impervious to your intelligence)
You hit the nail on the head when you used the word "biblical".... I know what you mean when you say that all these unfounded "commandments" get people nowhere... I think people need to self advocate and do the research we've done... I like to post links a lot... Problem is a lot of sources are garbage... Everyone wants to do something trendy, and trendy doesnt really= effective.. So this is all in vain... But, its fun to let it out for a bit... If I can help a few people a year thats better than none.... Logic and reasoning will never be popular... Reading rather than asking questions is "lame".
Haha. Your "ice cream" logic yields to my 9 year aged small batch bourbon logic... I feel like that's a solid win for me0 -
Erm... surely everyone is different and what works for one person might not necessarily work for another...
I am 28
5ft2
122lbs
I try to net at least 1200 calories a day, but sometimes I find it a struggle while trying to maintain a completely healthy diet, I don't like peanut butter, avocados or nuts, so I have to bump up my calories with a chocolate or something like that (I am looking at having a milk instead)
When ever I post about my food and calories I am ALWAYS told "Eat more protein!" I am actually being given advice that would accelerate the speed of my kidney disease. I know the individuals who give this advice do not know I have kidney disease, but that is the point I am trying to make.
People can end up making judgements and assumptions without always knowing all the facts, meaning people who post advice could be advising something that can be detrimental to the OPs health.0 -
Erm... surely everyone is different and what works for one person might not necessarily work for another...
Stopped reading after this. No, you are not different, my gentle snowflake0 -
Erm... surely everyone is different and what works for one person might not necessarily work for another...
Stopped reading after this. No, you are not different, my gentle snowflake
Oh, you have come to play I see...
So what you are saying is that EVERYONE likes all the same food, likes all the same exercise, has the same amount of time to workout, has the same amount of money to buy food, has the exact same health issues, has the exact same height and build, has the same overall goals...
Wow what a boring world you live in...0 -
When ever I post about my food and calories I am ALWAYS told "Eat more protein!" I am actually being given advice that would accelerate the speed of my kidney disease. I know the individuals who give this advice do not know I have kidney disease, but that is the point I am trying to make.
People can end up making judgements and assumptions without always knowing all the facts, meaning people who post advice could be advising something that can be detrimental to the OPs health.
If you have X you should consult a physician before X
C'est la vie0 -
All I know is that I lost weight eating 1200, _and_ I lost weight eating 1800 cal/day averaged over a week. The difference for me is that I am a much happier/nicer person eating 1800 avg cal/day. :flowerforyou:0
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My 4 year old eats upwards of 1000 for his 39 pounds and 3ft 5 inches. My 8 year old eats upwards of 1300 for her 58 pounds and 4 feet 4 inches. Yes, they are active, but still, I don't understand how adults can live off of less than that.0
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Haha. Your "ice cream" logic yields to my 9 year aged small batch bourbon logic... I feel like that's a solid win for me
you had me at hello0 -
Suffer you say?
I burn off heaps each day, I can't eat as much as I'm allowed to eat...therefore my 'diet' is low calorie. I can't eat that much & refuse to eat if I am not hungry. I've kept my weight down past goal weight for 7 months now, don't ever feel hungry & always full. I'm not dying, I'm not starving myself (in fact I will eat 4 servings of dinner at once & that's still under my calorie goal) and I have so much energy it's crazy.
I am in fact very different from most who are on a 'diet' .....cause that is something I am NOT on.
Why would it make YOU sad? Is it going to effect your life somehow? Are you going to force people to eat when not hungry...I'm sure that's how most fat people got fat. Why would it make you sad? I'm quite happy to stay the way I am built both on the inside & out. What you do with your life is no concern to me, so why should it concern you what others do?0 -
All I know is that I lost weight eating 1200, _and_ I lost weight eating 1800 cal/day averaged over a week. The difference for me is that I am a much happier/nicer person eating 1800 avg cal/day. :flowerforyou:
did it slow your weight loss drastically or no?0 -
Haha. Your "ice cream" logic yields to my 9 year aged small batch bourbon logic... I feel like that's a solid win for me
you had me at hello
Well then, I'm going to need some mostly naked pics... J/K (you can private message them to me if you want) I'll take any pictures with a bottle of knob creek or a bottle of a microbrewed stout (specifically a stout or porter)...
You had me at "you know what happens to guys like me in jail, it sounds like grape."0 -
Why would it make YOU sad? Is it going to effect your life somehow? What you do with your life is no concern to me, so why should it concern you what others do?
You're not a very compassionate person are you.0 -
Erm... surely everyone is different and what works for one person might not necessarily work for another...
Stopped reading after this. No, you are not different, my gentle snowflake
Oh, you have come to play I see...
So what you are saying is that EVERYONE likes all the same food, likes all the same exercise, has the same amount of time to workout, has the same amount of money to buy food, has the exact same health issues, has the exact same height and build, has the same overall goals...
Wow what a boring world you live in...
Theres a difference between saying "Everyone has different preferences" versus saying "Everyone is different".0 -
When ever I post about my food and calories I am ALWAYS told "Eat more protein!" I am actually being given advice that would accelerate the speed of my kidney disease. I know the individuals who give this advice do not know I have kidney disease, but that is the point I am trying to make.
People can end up making judgements and assumptions without always knowing all the facts, meaning people who post advice could be advising something that can be detrimental to the OPs health.
If you have X you should consult a physician before X
C'est la vie
I see my consultant every 3 months as my kidneys are on a slow decline. I have discussed my protein leakage and was advised not to over eat protein as it will make the leakage worse.
I know when people tell me to eat more protein, that actually I shouldn't. But some people might not know certain things. Go back about 3 years if someone told me to eat more protein I would have happily obliged... Not realising the damage I could possibly be doing. It is only because I was given a specific rule that I know now I should not.0 -
Erm... surely everyone is different and what works for one person might not necessarily work for another...
Stopped reading after this. No, you are not different, my gentle snowflake
Oh, you have come to play I see...
So what you are saying is that EVERYONE likes all the same food, likes all the same exercise, has the same amount of time to workout, has the same amount of money to buy food, has the exact same health issues, has the exact same height and build, has the same overall goals...
Wow what a boring world you live in...
Theres a difference between saying "Everyone has different preferences" versus saying "Everyone is different".
Height, build, time issues, money issues and health problems are not a "preference"0 -
I've been reading about bodybuilding. The thing they do is eat above their TDEE while lifting, to gain muscle and a bit of fat. Then they eat under their TDEE while lifting to lose fat and a bit of muscle. Each time they go through a cycle, they have a higher amount of muscle and a lower amount of fat.
What I realized, and have never seen it said, is that yoyo dieting is the inverse of this. It's body-unbuilding. People eat above their TDEE while watching TV to gain a bunch of fat and a little muscle. Then they eat way below their TDEE while watching TV or doing a bunch of cardio, and lose a bunch of muscle and fat. Each time they go through a cycle, they have a higher amount of fat and a lower amount of muscle. It's body recompsition, going in the wrong direction.
By the time people have shed so much of their muscle while losing weight, there's little left to support any kind of reasonable food intake, so they are stuck with either never eating like a real person again, or gaining a bunch of weight back again. (Or lifting heavy to build some muscle back, but it seems this is not often enough a consideration because people, especially women, are afraid of getting "bulky.")
I love this explanation, :flowerforyou:
it should be posted on so many threads here to help people see why/how they're doing it wrong.0 -
I'm saying is that insulting everyone as though it is some kind of rule that everyone who follows some low calorie diet (again I'm talking nutritious, reasonable, low calorie diet) is a lunch away from full blown, skinny fat, no muscle having anorexia is rude and kind of ridiculous and it happens a lot on here.
See, I agree with you again. I have personally spent a lot of time doing research. For me, it is an issue of balancing my ADHD which makes me want to get everything right the f' now with health. I have spent the last 14 years doing heavy lifting/strength training and I don't want to lose that muscle just because I want to lose the fat. However, I have trouble prioritizing logging and counting calories without weight loss. So what is the healthy balance? For me, it is maintaining my strength training routine, eating a high protein diet and cutting calories to a point where I see results. Research indicates this yields the best results (for what I want).
I fully understand all of the reasons (or at least a good number of them) that this is not ideal for the average person. I don't think it's an all or nothing experiment. I think getting to our healthiest selves is a very personal journey filled with very personal decisions. Again, I mentioned a bunch of them before.
I think that people often abbreviate their responses based on past encounters and may not fully express their entire motivation and then, some people are genuinely under-educated. Nothing most people can do to fix that. I think that starting things with an insult (whether it's a back handed insult or a straight on insult) is not the most productive way to help most people although it may get the most attention so I could be wrong.
There are plenty of people who have been around long enough to learn the rules, but not long enough to know why those rules exist. (Sometimes they repeat these 'rules' to experts who are having spectacular long-term results. And then the drama ensues.)
Having as much experience as I do, I regularly 'violate' lots of those rules. But even when people state one of those rules on an open forum, I don't take it personally or as an insult. I know that for general consumption those rules are better as is, and that they don't apply specifically to me, so I support the idea in principle and explain exceptions where it is relevant. I also don't respond by stating simply that I do the opposite and it works for me, because I know that people will come away with something other than an improved understanding, and encouraging newbies to not follow those rules will result in more harm than good.
I've been on both sides of this equation. But I don't approach those conversations as if they are about me trying to justify my practices, rather they are about helping newbies get the best results. I think that is what the conversations about low-cal diets on MFP should be about. I think those people who do understand why and when they may be appropriate should do more than just say "it works for me" or "it can work" because what newbies get out of that is not exactly a better understanding of how to proceed.0 -
When ever I post about my food and calories I am ALWAYS told "Eat more protein!" I am actually being given advice that would accelerate the speed of my kidney disease. I know the individuals who give this advice do not know I have kidney disease, but that is the point I am trying to make.
People can end up making judgements and assumptions without always knowing all the facts, meaning people who post advice could be advising something that can be detrimental to the OPs health.
If you have X you should consult a physician before X
C'est la vie
I see my consultant every 3 months as my kidneys are on a slow decline. I have discussed my protein leakage and was advised not to over eat protein as it will make the leakage worse.
I know when people tell me to eat more protein, that actually I shouldn't. But some people might not know certain things. Go back about 3 years if someone told me to eat more protein I would have happily obliged... Not realising the damage I could possibly be doing. It is only because I was given a specific rule that I know now I should not.
Ah so you're different because you have a medical condition. Many times, at least on these forums, people use the phrase "everyone is different" because they just want to justify eating like a bird when its not really necessary. Of course, one should pay attention to their medical needs. One shouldn't eat fruits when their doctor asked them to lay off due to diabetes or what not but once again, not the case for many who claim fruits are bad due to sugar0
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