I GIVE UP!! I CANT DO IT!

OP, the fact that you posted this thread shows to me that you are NOT ready to give up. If you were, you would have simply disappeared from the site and no one on here would know of your struggles. I think that because you posted, deep down you know you still can, and you just need a bit of encouragement, which is exactly why we're here!

I hope that you are reading these posts and feeling the love and encouragement from all these strangers who have been in your situation before! Two days is not going to cause you to go right back to the beginning. You're going to be fine! Like so many people in this thread have already said, it's just a thought.

Good luck, and we all know you can do it

Read your own profile picture. Join my #OnePound Challenge. Take the pressure off.... Stress kills weight loss as well! But more importantly, you wrote this post becuase you haven't REALLY given up. You just want some help! That's what we are here for! Read this: http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/918510-introduction-blog-required-instructions-welcome Then friend me if you like. and most of all.... Know that I Believe In YOU! Lee

"Whether you think you can or think you can't - you're right". - Henry Ford

I know what you mean! It gets daunting at times and this applies to everything in life. For me, I realised that giving up my 'perfectionism' helps. I made myself believe that I HAD to follow this perfect diet I had in mind, and NO MISTAKES can be condoned. Being too strict is bad because when you slip up it feels especially painful ):
It took me years of mentally torturing myself and yo-yo weighting like crazy before I have finally 'given up' on the all or nothing mentality. Because really, if you're going to continue being alive, you have A LIFETIME to lose weight... There is no need to rush it! Doing it healthy way works... It just takes more time and hence PATIENCE is key. I used to be so skeptical, hence leading to the restricting and binging habit... And now Binging is with me for life. Even if I am no longer restricting now, I still have binging urges, still do have bad binges etc but well I have to live with the mistake.

Yes you can be pissed off, get down, throw a tantrum, cry a river.... But do that for a day and NO MORE. No moping for consecutive days. Wallow in self pity for one day, release that stress, vent all the angst, and then tell yourself YOU ARE GETTING BACK ON YOUR FEET.

I have also realised that unless you have some medical conditions or allergies, do not every feel like eating 100% clean is a must. Yes eating healthy natural raw foods are good, aim to eat as much as possible, but there WILL be days where you just wanna eat crap. DO IT. Try to arrange it such that you stay near your caloric goal. Do an extra workout to compensate. Even if you don't and you go CRAZY with the calorie intake, LOOK AT YOUR WEEKLY average. Your body will not be RUINED because of a few days. Heck, after being very strict and having a nice body, I had ONE WHOLE WEEK of absolutely no exercise and stuffing myself with junk all day and then yes I got bloated and looked bad, but I was no where near where I started, and after that I got back on track and a few days in the bloat was GONE. Then about a week and I WAS BACK TO MY SLIM SELF. Remember, drastically increasing calories causes BLOAT, that reflects on the scale and the reflection on the mirror and you THINK you've gained back ALL THAT FAT just in the few days. NADA.

If this is all too overwhelming, take a break. Heck, a diet break IS good for breaking plateaus! Focus on MAINTAINING maybe? You sure don't want to go back to where you started and wasted all your efforts?

BUT MOST IMPORTANTLY, while I don't know what your caloric goals/exercise goals are like, and whether you're being too restrictive, but if you are, I URGE YOU to go to https://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/937712-in-place-of-a-road-map-ver-3-0 and try to do it the healthy way.. I AM IN THE PROCESS OF TRYING IT AND IT DOES WORK.. And definitely feels much more sustainable.

You need to know that whatever changes you make, you have to KEEP IT UP FOR LIFE. So drastic changes are not advised.

Sorry for the rambly preaching, all the best and stay positive x

"Whether you think you can or think you can't - you're right". - Henry Ford

Thanks for this, it spoke to me

The greatest loss is what dies inside us while we live. Have faith in YOURSELF. I know all about guilt. Change your thoughts and it will change your actions. Forgive yourself and never give up.

In regard to the meditation post.........I love that! I've learned the way we talk to ourselves is worse than anyone! We would not tolerate anyone to talk to us or anyone else the way we talk and shame ourselves!

One day of eating badly isn't the end of the world. Last night, I had 20 snack a jacks, 16 brownies, fool mudammes, baba ganoosh and chocolate. I've probably eaten well over 3000 calories. Ah well, you pick yourself back up and carry on. And you have eight pounds left.

So tell that little voice in your head to pipe down and bugger off because you can do this.

When i slip up I just tell myself to give my head a shake and buck up and start again the next day. A couple weeks ago i had like 6 bags of chips and 4 chocolate bars in one day. Chips are/were my favorite thing ever and I NEEDED them. Next day i slapped myself and got back at it. I logged them to all could see my shame

People who have been losing a lot of fat (+50lbs) can tell you how many times they ate more than they wanted to during their journey. It will happen. There will be that time when you'll be hungry or stressed or your body won't take the restrictions no more. The point is not to be perfect but to try your best.
Calm down, don't give up.

Let's just say, for the same of argument, that you HAVE undone all of your previous weight-loss good (which I don't believe is true).

If you were starting back at square one, are you content to stay there? Is this what you want for yourself? Giving up means staying put. I doubt that's what you want, so let's try something different:

Forgive yourself. Be kind to yourself. LOVE yourself. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and keep going. WITHOUT punishing yourself or restricting too severely. Even if it's two steps forward and one step back, you are headed in the right direction.

I've done so well. I've lost 16 pounds in a little over 2 months, and I've lost 6 pounds while doing MFP for the past month. But in the past 2 days, I'm pretty sure I've ruined it all. I've eaten SO MUCH. I feel so guilty all of the time now. I couldn't even make time to work out today. I can't take the amount of pressure I put on myself. I feel like a fat hippo who can never amount to anything because I end up failing anyways. I'm ready to give up. I'm just so done with constantly putting myself down..and I know I shouldn't feel the amount of shame I feel when I eat something I know I shouldn't, and that just makes me eat more. Please help...

Do you really want to undo all of your hard work you've already put into this? Plus it's likely you'll gain even more. So you've had 2 bad days. It's not a big deal so don't make it worse than it is. You want to be a quitter? Then quit. Quitting is the easy way out. I go for months without exercising but I've stuck with it for over a year now and have 5 to go. You think I'm going to quit because my weight loss didn't go anywhere for 3 straight months? NO! Life happens. Pick yourself up and move on. Don't make excuses. If you want a pity party fine. Have it for a day. But don't let it go on any longer and don't expect others to join your pity party. You're only hurting yourself. You only have 8 pounds to go and you want to quit? Really? What happens when something really hard comes your way? Are you going to quit that too? Don't mean to be harsh but take a reality check. Get over it and move on.

I give up, too. You quit, I quit. We're done here! Let's go.

I do not want to sound condescending here at all, but you are only 18 years old and according to your diary, you kind of "got into your Easter basket" a couple of days early! Good for you! CELEBRATE spring with that bunny! If one of your friends said "I am a hideous person because I overage some Easter candy!" my hunch is, you would say that was an overreaction right? So, be your own best friend and acknowledge that sometimes, we need to "be a kid" and indulge in things we normally do not. For me, it is all the great dips and finger foods at all the Christmas parties. Savor it and acknowledge that holidays carry memories for us, like an Easter Basket, that we want to relive when we grow up. It is OK! Losing weight is wonderful, but not if you can't live life and celebrate once in awhile. I think you are a super young person who is still on touch with being a child! Do not ever lose that.

you can't undo 2 months of progress in a couple of days.

here's my question...what the hell are you going to do once you're back in "real life?" The one where you're not on a "diet"...the one where you're just living and doing what you do? What happens then? You going to go to a party or BBQ or something and overdo it a little and just say **** it and pack the Lbs back on?

I think you need to adjust your mentality...none of this is for a day or two...or a few weeks or whatever. You should be teaching yourself how to make better overall decisions as part of an overall lifestyle rather than focusing on isolated events.