Would you go to a school reunion in my shoes!?

This is just for fun, don't worry, no matter what you say I won't be crying into my pot noodle. There's a school reunion in June. At the moment I'm divorced, unemployed and I live at home with my parents. Not a sniff of a new man either. I'm not unhappy though. I'm fairly content, but, I 'd be nuts to go wouldn't I? I am job-hunting and house-hunting but that doesn't sound quite the same as having a job and having a house! It won't cut ice. Mixed school if that makes any difference. I think I'm less afraid of the men judging me.

So..I kinda know how you feel my 10 year reunion is this year I have been divorced for a year, coming out of another horrible relationship no job plus diagnosed bipolar and gained 100lbs..so i won't attending unless something of a miracle happens

For the most part..I wouldn't worry about others... If you are happy that is what matters.. Others can only break us down..you would more than likely be one of the only people who will be happy...

There's a school reunion in June. At the moment I'm divorced, unemployed and I live at home with my parents. Not a sniff of a new man either. I'm not unhappy though. I'm fairly content, but, I 'd be nuts to go wouldn't I?

Maggie, I am in nearly exactly your situation now, and with your reunion on the horizon, I was in exactly your shoes just two months ago... or maybe you're in mine!

February was a strange time for a reunion, I know, but since it is a religiously-based college, there is a homecoming every February, and after going the year after graduation (1994), I'd not been in another 19 years, although I'd wanted to and vowed to... and this year it came together that I was able to attend...and yes, it so happened to coincide with a 20 year reunion meeting on one of the nights for my class after the main sessions were over.

There are a few differences in our shoes. I'm male, not actually unemployed, and my kids are not with me, but I am severely under-employed, living with family, and not exactly divorced yet--and no whiffs/sniffs of a woman, lol.

However hard it may seem to show up without a house or a job, consider there is a strong stigma attached to a failed marriage in conservative Christian circles, and I wondered how well it would go with my life in a shambles, but I went, and I'm glad I did. Actually the first reunion I've ever attended, and at arguably the worst time in my life to go to one...

I'm going to take Mavrick7a's experiences and say I'm glad I didn't show up at the 10th to hear (and disseminate) all the bragging and see all the difference the next 10 years would have made... and for that matter, those who came that I talked with were not bragging it up, but had a calm repose that welcomed me to be myself.

We graduated 100 for our Centennial Celebration back in '93, but only about 5-6 showed up in 2013 (I believe social media has largely cut into the reunion gig), but we had a pleasant little meeting--I saw a dear friend for the first time in 20 years--we had many classes together (and while in college, she was already a licensed aerobics instructor and did that as her work study... so one of the classes we had together, she taught, lol) and I always respected her greatly--and she'd been through a divorce, too, and was now remarried, and when I had to answer her questions about my own situation, I told her and the others the divorce I'm going though has been particularly rough, that I'm starting over and in a rebuilding phase in my life--and actually these questions came more as a result of me dropping my "life-long" nickname, by which they knew me and decisively going with my legal name--and I told them that yes, there are identity issues that come with what I've been through, and this is who I am now.

I won't pretend it didn't get silent for just a second--I think everyone tuned in to hear my answer--but I can say I have no regrets as I would have if I'd bowed to any pressure to give an awe-inspiring answer (by way of a lie). Also instead of bragging or pleading for sympathy, instead I was showing them my genuine and vulnerable side, and these were all safe people to do so around. For that matter, while I perhaps did not receive the best advice before embarking into my "doomed to failure" name change, the decision (like many others) was made with adult finality, is irreversible, and life goes on--and it goes *forward*--without regrets--especially for me, because I want to be called by the name I prefer.

As far as the hard seasons of life, the bends in the road that come our way--we can be enriched by every experience--have you ever noticed how much you can learn about yourself through a really good job interview--even (and especially when) you don't get the job?

Also, at the reunion, one thing I could talk about with a healthy dose of self-regard was how I've been taking care of myself the last 9 months, biking these Virginia hills gave me such stamina in my legs that when I showed up at my first aerobics class in 20-some years, I had the instructor baffled, as she looked my way she said, "if that doesn't burn, there's something wrong with you!" Part of becoming and rebuilding is exercising--even biking throughout the winter here in Virginia--and my care for myself has led me to this site to clear some hurdles--mostly with my diet--that I was not able to clear on other sites.

In any case, reunions are about relationships--and that is a two-pronged statement: If those relationships were always so shallow that all anybody could do was brag, jockey for position, and cut others down, then maybe you could ask "What's the point, I'm mature enough to read the handwriting on the wall and will be enriched by avoiding that fiasco!" If on the other hand, if these were people with whom you shared a meaningful part of your journey, and you wish to join paths just for a few cadenced steps once again, you may find the experience very rewarding and very enriching!

I also have my 10th in june + no husband and kids. This was one of my motivations to get my skinny self back and at least rock a short skirt while others still carry baby weight

Why do you care what peole think? They haven't walked in those afore mentioned shoes.

just be like romy and michele and lie.. lol.... i would... haha... but obviously i would lie about something realistic.... and delete ur facebook if u have one... so they cant find out.... oh and if they are mean to u just say this ....

As long as you're hot, you're golden.

And you know what, she is!! Go for it Margo!

If you go, they are going to love talking about what they will certainly see as your shortcomings.

Honestly, I'd stay away if I were you.

I wouldn't worry too much what your former high school classmates would say. You'll probably come across to a couple of them that like to spew BS and say they make a boatload of money, is a CEO of a company, etc. Don't let that bother you.