Please give me some tips on motivating my man...

Maybe he feels intimidated by you for the fact you work out a bunch. Get him to try an outside sport or something. If he won't change, then he doesn't want to. Nothing you can do to help him.

I know someone who motivated her husband by telling him she would give him a BJ for every 10 pounds he lost. I used to see that man in the gym all the time!! He lost like 70 pounds with that incentive.

That being said not everyone can be motivated. And if it does motivate him there is nothing to say he will stay going forward. He has to want to do it for himself and no other reason otherwise it probably won't work.

Try to just drag him out for an after dinner walk. More of a walk and talk time rather than really working out. It may motivate him to do more. At least it may get him off the couch for a bit.

I was also going to add in the sexual favors as incentive thing but didn't want to cross that line, but yea that would work on most men lol

Promise a little "tension release" and you guys will do just about anything. LOL!

You're already withholding meat from the guy and he won't comply.

There's only one thing you can do.

Withhold sex.

Ok now that's just wrong! No reason she should punish herself too!

Every time he works out reward him with sex, or some kind of sexual favor.

I can somewhat relate to your husband, being not-so-motivated myself and having a boyfriend who is really into his fitness.

I think many people who let their weight get out of hand have trouble wanting to lose weight, because they're afraid of failing. In their heads they see it as a near-impossibility, and probably anticipate failing and being big forever. It feels more comfortable to NOT try, than to try and then fail...

I think it is good you are taking his health into consideration, and I'm sure you want him to feel good about himself. I would be careful about pushing too hard, I get really touchy when my boyfriend becomes "too involved" with my diet and fitness...

Fitness and losing weight would make your husband happy and help his self-image, it's just a matter of helping him to view it as simple, baby-steps, doing fun things together. Take out "running" and "exercise" because that becomes a negative. Instead replace it with taking walks together, hiking, playing tennis, etc. If you start being more active in general, and try edging away from your TV set, maybe new hobbies and warm weather will motivate your man to want to become healthier.

Take lots of pictures of him and place them around the house, I get too comfortable with being over weight until I see how I look in photos. Works for me. hope it will work for U.

lead by example. Wait till he's ready.

And then help him.

Anything else IMO is unkind and unfair to him. This is YOUR thing right now. Not his.

^^this and only this ^^

I just told my hubby: "we are going to the gym Monday, Wednesday, and Friday at 5:15 and doing stronglifts 5x5. You will come home and grab protein shakes for us, and I will make sure that their is a healthy dinner in the crockpot." It worked!

He would never have planned, researched, or anything else, but he went along with it when I had it all laid out. He also eats all of the healthy food, veggies included, that I make with the portions that I give him, with gusto. This does NOT stop him from eating Taco Bell every day for lunch, or from surprising us with shakes, or bringing home the occasional candy though. I'll take what I can get.

Good luck!

What motivates me to eat better is the urge to maximize my workouts and to avoid needlessly gaining back the weight I recently lost. If he's busy, get him on the 2 day rule... never go 2 days without working out, no matter what.

Motivating a guy is tough. I'm concerned with the way I look and present myself, but some guys aren't and avoiding health problems is the only remaining motivation... and that's weak as hell until it's too late for most people.

Actually another motivation that I have is how my ex-gf (and women in general) are reacting to the losses and gains I've made. I love that, and I want to make it better. If you can get him to make some small gains at first, reinforce that by showing some more interest and making him feel like he should keep working at it to better himself.

... but approach this in a healthy way ok? You're trying to help him, not change him. God I hate that "change him" crap.

There is nothing you can do to change another person...even your husband. Just love him and accept him for who he is.

Good luck.

I disagree. We should never make our significant other's feel "less than", but accepting mediocrity just breeds more mediocrity. We should expect more of others, and they should expect more of us. There's nothing wrong with him inherently for being overweight or unhealthy, but he does need to to something about it. And hell, he'll be so much the better for it!

Be supportive, he might genuinely feel tired if he is working really hard. Eventually he will want to do something, and when he makes that decision for himself he will be truly motivated to do it for himself. As a kid who was pushed into playing competitive sport because daddy wanted me to I know that motivation isn't the same when doing something because someone else wants you to.

If you feel that the concern for his health outweighs just being supportive then talk to him and say you are worried and want him to be around for as long as possible or something similar. It has to be his decision in the end though.

I agree with others - in particular on these points: 1) He has to be ready to change. 2) Try just going for walks together (my husband has lost over 40 pounds in the past 9 months, and on most days he only walks the dog for an hour. 3) Tell him repeatedly how much you love him and his body, and if you ever suggest anything make sure it is about his long-term health.
My last suggestion is to make sure he gets a physical. My husband's doctor is the one who really started him on his weight-loss journey. Good Luck!

Perhaps you can voice your concerns for his health to him. Have an honest conversation with him where you tell him your concern-- no accusatory tones and no trying to guilt him into anything. He may not be motivated to improve his health for himself, but he might be for you.

Took 9 months for my husband to join the party. He dropped 30 lbs in like 3 months and has maintained that for a year. . .all with slight diet modifications and no real exercise. It took me a YEAR to drop 28 lbs and I lift & run to maintain. He sucks. But I love him.

You just go about doing what you do and keep loving him for who he is. You can't change him. You can't motivate him. Once HE finds the motivation, you can be an encourager, but that's about it.