Male opinions please...

RedHotHunter
RedHotHunter Posts: 560 Member
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Hi all
Yeah so when I'm not busy flirting I'm usually kinda private. However, today I need some advice/insight into the male brain and MFP brains are the best to pick So here's my story.

I have chatted a bit with a guy on POF. We realized that we went to the same gym. I also got the impression he was interested in meeting me but we hadnt gotten around to it yet. Well, tonight I saw him at the gym. I sent him a message to make him aware that I was in the building. After a few minutes he gave me the hello nod and tiny wave from a distance of 30-40 feet (he was lifting, I was stepping). After about another 20 minutes, I was near done with my workout and thought I'd go say hello. When I looked around though, I didnt see him. So I sent another message, "hey I was gonna come say hello, but I've lost you in the crowd." I got a message back that said "I left. lol"

So my first thought was "wow! I can take that as a hint!"
Then I wondered if he was trying to be polite and not embarrass me by saying hello while I was all sweaty.

So guys... Your thoughts please.
Was I dissed or what?
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  • TattednPierced
    TattednPierced Posts: 358
    That's a tough one, since there are different types of guys.
    I wouldn't say he "dissed" you.. More or less he might have been busy, in a hurry, or just plain shy.
    That being said, he could also be one of those guys that want the other person to start the conversation. You might have just been a little late.
    The world may never know.
  • markdavy1982
    markdavy1982 Posts: 109 Member
    Chances are other people in the gym know his gf.
  • RainHoward
    RainHoward Posts: 1,599 Member
    ask him
  • terrygran
    terrygran Posts: 43
    Dissed. If he was interested he would come and at least say hello.
  • pastryari
    pastryari Posts: 8,646 Member
    ask him
  • RedHotHunter
    RedHotHunter Posts: 560 Member
    Chances are other people in the gym know his gf.

    Ha ha. Cynical but certainly could be true. :tongue:

    "ask him" Good advice. Just thought I'd ask some opinions first. I'm a pretty confident and straight forward person. It's not too often that I'm at a loss for words, but today left me a bit confused.
  • matt2442
    matt2442 Posts: 1,259 Member
    Use a corny pick up line!! I love those :flowerforyou:
  • matt2442
    matt2442 Posts: 1,259 Member
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  • ldrosophila
    ldrosophila Posts: 7,512 Member
    Chances are other people in the gym know his gf.

    LOL there you go!
  • MidwestAngel
    MidwestAngel Posts: 1,897 Member
    Use a corny pick up line!! I love those :flowerforyou:
    Hey is that a banana in your pants or are you happy to see me?
  • mtfr810
    mtfr810 Posts: 136 Member
    Read nothing into a text message. Just get on with it and get on with it. Most of us way over think text messages and that get's you nowhere. Just be yourself and if the interest is there it will happen.
  • 22colin
    22colin Posts: 31
    high likelihood he's shy - don't give up yet.
  • beckieboomoo
    beckieboomoo Posts: 590 Member
    Be careful asking him... Could come across clingy... But most likely he didn't want u to see him all sweaty
  • RedHotHunter
    RedHotHunter Posts: 560 Member
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    OMG. :laugh: Not all that helpful at the moment but I'll save that for later for sure!
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  • PikaKnight
    PikaKnight Posts: 34,971 Member
    Next time go say hello. Kind of tough to know what he really thinks without talking to him. Then again, he might be like me and just can't get a read when a woman likes him. He might just be as confused as you are.

    Or maybe he was just into working out and had to go. Or maybe he got a little freaked out about the whole deal. I say don't pester him and let him get back to you when or if he decides to. And if you see him in person again, just do the polite nod and move on. If he really wanted to get to know you (or/and doesn't have a wife/gf)..then he'll contact you.
  • RedHotHunter
    RedHotHunter Posts: 560 Member
    Hmmm, you all have very valid points. This dating crap is hard LOL
  • danasings
    danasings Posts: 8,218 Member
    Did you reply to that text?

    And I agree with Joy_Joy...if he is interested, he will contact you.
  • RedHotHunter
    RedHotHunter Posts: 560 Member
    Did you reply to that text?

    And I agree with Joy_Joy...if he is interested, he will contact you.

    I didnt reply yet because I really didnt know what to say. I felt dissed but didnt want to assume something negative. I love what JoyJoy said also. I'm hoping to get more feedback from guys on the topic also.
  • BeachGingerOnTheRocks
    BeachGingerOnTheRocks Posts: 3,927 Member
    ... But most likely he didn't want u to see him all sweaty

    I thought we were talking about a guy.
  • baileysmom4
    baileysmom4 Posts: 242 Member
    As a seasoned and now retired (engaged) internet dater, I'm sorry to say but you were dissed. Chin up and move on. Guys are pretty obvious when not interested as nice as they try to be they are not very smooth. I don't say this to be mean, just honest. Sorry, girl opinion here!
  • PayneAS
    PayneAS Posts: 669 Member
    Well, tonight I saw him at the gym. I sent him a message to make him aware that I was in the building. After a few minutes he gave me the hello nod and tiny wave from a distance of 30-40 feet (he was lifting, I was stepping). After about another 20 minutes, I was near done with my workout and thought I'd go say hello. When I looked around though, I didnt see him. So I sent another message, "hey I was gonna come say hello, but I've lost you in the crowd." I got a message back that said "I left. lol"

    What if he's thinking the same thing? "OMG She knew I was here and didn't come and say hello. She just got on her stepping machine and ignored me. She must not like me"
  • BeachIron
    BeachIron Posts: 6,490 Member
    1) He was freaked out that you were in the gym unexpectedly and felt stalked. 20%

    2) He was just busy working out, wasn't expecting to meet you there, and had to go. 40%

    3) For whatever reason, he's not into you. 40%

    The only way to find out is to ask, but honestly, Joy_Joy is right, wait. If he wants to contact you, he will. Nothing will run a guy off faster than pestering.
  • benol1
    benol1 Posts: 867 Member
    Its not beyond the realm of possibility that the man in question has zero social skills and was too anxious to stick around to meet you.
    If he wants to meet - leave it up to him. The ball's now in his court.
    kind regards,

    Ben
  • RedHotHunter
    RedHotHunter Posts: 560 Member
    ... But most likely he didn't want u to see him all sweaty

    I thought we were talking about a guy.

    Haha, IKR!
    We were both sweaty. I thought it made for a nice level playing field. Many of our conversations had been about fitness and we joked about eventually running into each other there. We knew we go to the same gym, so it was only a matter of time. I figure if we can discuss fitness and you see me sweaty and working hard, you'll either like me more or like me not.
    I'm thinking not. ha ha
  • beckieboomoo
    beckieboomoo Posts: 590 Member
    ... But most likely he didn't want u to see him all sweaty

    I thought we were talking about a guy.

    well its dependent on the guy...but am guessing when he first met her he didn't wanna be all sweaty...i didnt think it was just a girl thing :laugh:
  • dmpizza
    dmpizza Posts: 3,321 Member
    Don't push it, but next time make sure to walk over and have a polite conversation.
  • fara180
    fara180 Posts: 1,260 Member
    this is a difficult situation to read. my first instinct was that it was a "diss." sure, he could be shy or have no social skills....but if you're interested in someone and they make it clear that they are nearby...wouldn't you go say hi?

    if i were you, i'd wait it out. if he texts you or comes up to you next time you're in the gym, disregard what i'm saying now. i don't suggest you ask him about it...that could come off as super clingy.
  • Rockstar_JILL
    Rockstar_JILL Posts: 514 Member
    Its not beyond the realm of possibility that the man in question has zero social skills and was too anxious to stick around to meet you.
    If he wants to meet - leave it up to him. The ball's now in his court.
    kind regards,

    Ben
    Likely this...
  • DonnaNCgirl
    DonnaNCgirl Posts: 372

    I have chatted a bit with a guy on POF. We realized that we went to the same gym. I also got the impression he was interested in meeting me but we hadnt gotten around to it yet.

    So...what gave you the impression that he was interested in meeting you?
    Side note: You're putting way too much thought into this and it isn't even a "this" yet.
    Side note 2: I know you asked for male opinions, but don't care. :wink:

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