Marriage Proposal - A question for the men out there.

I'd run far away.

I would have been surprised if my wife had proposed, but not really bothered by it.

I think he sees the relationship the same way. We live together so its not a fling :-)
He not very forward so I have had to make nearly every move there is to me made lol
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I think the above is your answer.... Go for it.

I have set myself a motivational task:
When I reach my ultimate goal of 140lb (if my partner has not popped the question) I am going to do do it.

I need the opinion of mostly men on how you would feel if your lady proposed to you?

I am mostly man, so I can answer.

Fwiw I think this is a strange goal. If you break up are you going to stop trying to become a healthier person? You need to lose weight for yourself, not to convince your SO to marry you.

I'm not mostly a man

:noway:

Are you going to ask his mother for permission first?

Are you going to let him make the final decision on the colors for the wedding, cake, date, dinner items, guest list how many groomsmen he gets to have, etc?

If so, then ok.

why wait? if he is there for you now what would be the difference? Just do not get why you need to be at goal before this happens? will something Magical happen when that number is on the scale?

why wait? if he is there for you now what would be the difference? Just do not get why you need to be at goal before this happens? will something Magical happen when that number is on the scale?

I think it's more about confidence. Hey, at least it's not like the current story I know about...the girl set a maximum size on him (said they can't get married until he loses 50lbs for the wedding pictures) but also set a minimum size on the rock lol.

I'm not a male, so I hope that you aren't annoyed by me giving my opinion..

Some men are very traditional and still have a lot of gender roles in their heads of how things should be. If your man is the "go with the flow" kind of guy and doesn't care much about "tradition" or "conventional" things then he probably wouldn't "mind" you proposing. However, don't be offended if he feels its a little awkward or confusing. lol I don't think a lot of men expect to be proposed to. I have known of women proposing to men, and they've been married for a while and they're very happy. I don't think that it defines your relationship at all. If you don't think he is the type of man to be bothered by it, you should go for it!

I asked my fiance how he would feel if i had proposed to him. He said "it'd be a bit awkward but I wouldn't be mad or weireded out."

P.S. Good luck!

I recently proposed like two months ago. If she would have asked me before i was planning on proposing it would have scared me a bit. However, if she would have asked while i was in the planning stage i would have said yes most likely. I was in a relationship for six years and never had the urge to marry this girl. The we broke up and now I.m with someone else and it didn't take me long to know we had something special and i wanted to spend the rest of my life with her... still took me almost two year to propose.. haha I wanted to be in a better financial place before I proposed. But I think its in important to have the thought of marriage come from himself and not pressures from others, and it can take us guys a long time before we come to that conclusion as we can take a long time for us to mature, sorry thats just how are.

If you are even considering doing this, I have to assume it wouldn't be out of character for or out of character for your relationship. We don't know you, or your partner, and can only hazard a guess, or describe our own views/experiences (which may or may not relate to your situation).

Would it bother your boyfriend? That is, does he subscribe to traditional male roles? Does he insist on paying for dinner every time? How does he feel when you pick up the check? How does he feel when you take charge, make plans, etc.? His reactions to those things might give you some insight. If he is holding onto a specific idea of a marriage proposal (maybe he really wants to get on one knee, hide a ring in a waffle, etc.) it might bother him if you "steal his thunder." But if he's not very forward, it's possible he's just waiting, right?

Another option might just be talking to him about it, saying you would like to get married when you hit your goal. Have you guys talked about marriage at all? Is it something you both see in your future, and the discussions just haven't gotten serious and specific? Or will this be something completely out of the blue?

To simply answer your question in the OP, I would have been surprised, but I don't think I would have been bothered by it if my wife asked me. Though, if we hadn't already talked about the idea of marriage, and the question came out of nowhere, I might have had some concern.

I think the man has to ask it otherwise they won't feel like they conquered you. More chance they will cheat I think if they feel trapped into something they didn't go after. Yes I'm old fashioned I guess.

If my daughter asked me this question, my answer would be "Are you ready to move out and find another relationship if he says no? In that case, the answer is all-engines-forward." There comes a time in every relationship when one needs to fish or cut bait.

I think the man has to ask it otherwise they won't feel like they conquered you. More chance they will cheat I think if they feel trapped into something they didn't go after. Yes I'm old fashioned I guess.

*game mode*
*gets proposed to*
*cheat++*
lolwut?

By that logic do you think mostly women cheat because they are the ones feeling trapped into something they didn't go after?