The Day Someone Tells My Daughter "Your Mom is Fat!"

I think this was your a-ha moment.

I think ur right.. and thank you for ur post.. i love it. I am a mom of a 2 a boy and girl .. and i love this. Made me cry :sad:

Agreed. I think writing this post is your ah-ha moment. There are so many great responses here. One of the best things you can do for your daughter is take care of YOU. Love and care for yourself. You are worth the effort. What a great role model you will be for her.

She will respect you and be proud of you no matter how you look on the outside but you will be able to do all of the things you want to with her if your body is healthy and strong.

Wishing you all the best to see this through.

Thank you for your honesty and bringing up a topic many of us moms (and dads) have thought about or experienced.

I agree with the other MFP posters that have said that you have already had your 'ah-ha' moment and the clarity in which you wrote about your experience demonstrates this. Also, it's true, this has to be about being healthy for you - the impact on your daughter is just one of many outcomes. Ultimately, it is the change in your mindset that will move you to take action.

One of my children is on the Autism spectrum and part of her personality is to be very blunt and say things without the softening words or tones we so often use. Starting in Kindergarten, she began informing me that I was fat. I acknowledged that I was overweight and told her I am making changes. We have always been an active family - dancing around the house, going to the playgrounds several times a week, chasing each other for fun. But I was still, frankly, overweight.

In the past 7 months, I have made major changes, up to joining MFP a few weeks ago. Since that first Kindergarten episode, I have learned that there was another little girl in her class who has been showing disdain for me as an overweight mom. She had communicated this to my daughter on at least a few occasions. I am not morbidly obese, but neither am I average-sized. She has seen photos of me at a thin weight, but she has also seen me at my heaviest.

My daughter - as with some kids on the spectrum - is having a hard time letting my 'fatness' go without comment. She is not cruel, but it still hurts when she reminds me that I am overweight. We are working on her using her 'filters'. Her comments are not my only motivation for working so hard on this, but I do not want her to fall into my footsteps. Already, she has commented that she could lose weight - she is actually spot-on for ideal body weight for her age - and I have reminded her that health is more important, that she has a lot of growing left to do, etc.

Our sons and daughters are bombarded with images of perfect bodies - all too often air-brushed false images. Although my husband and I are deliberate in giving right messages and screening the media that they are exposed to; the world still gets its foot in there too. We just have to fight it.

So, again, thank you for your post and for bringing up an important subject. I wish you all the best as you fight to make yourself the healthiest you can be for yourself, your future, and your family. Blessings

Reading your post brought tears to my eyes. I am not a mom, but I want to be someday. I've had body issues since I was a little kid. I can remember girls on the bus in 1st or 2nd grade making fun of each other for being "fat". I was lucky in that my mom (who is AMAZING, btw) always told me that "sticks and stones may break my bones but words can never hurt me." I know that isn't true, but it was my go-to when words did hurt me. I was also lucky that, although I have body issues, I've never really had a problem with confidence. Weird, I know. Anyway, it may sound silly, but I want to do this now, take control of the one area that I've often felt was out of control, for my future children. It may be silly to look that far ahead, but if I can form healthy habits now that I can instill in them, when I have them, then they will (hopefully) have a less hurtful time than I did. Kids should be kids; they shouldn't have to worry about who's fat or who's not.

I'm going to send you a friend request, so I hope that's ok. And I think it's wonderful, what you are trying to do. But the person (people?) who said that you have to do it for YOU first, are right. I would love to help support you in your journey. This is a fantastic first step!

Im not a mom but an adoring aunt and im doing this so I can take them to disney world and water parks! Plus for myself of course.