No standards anymore?

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  • Brianna72994
    Brianna72994 Posts: 887
    It doesnt matter how long you've been with someone. My parents were high school sweethearts, they dated all through high school, got married at 18, and then had me. Five years later they were divorced. I know people who have only known each other a few months before getting married and they are still together. So, it just depends on the people and how well they go together.
  • orapronobis
    orapronobis Posts: 460 Member
    My mom and dad were engaged 3 weeks after meeting and married 9 weeks after becoming engaged. Their marriage lasted their lifetimes. On my first date with my husband, I had an overwhelming feeling that this was the person I would marry - that was 30 years ago and we seem to grow deeper in love and happier every year. However, I do recognize that my parents' and my experience are the exception, not the rule.
  • Jonette01
    Jonette01 Posts: 38 Member
    I'm confused...


    & you should let it go...

    I think we all are. Sounds like you haven't moved on with your life... or became a stalker. :wink:
    Maybe that "thing" with you showed him exactly what he wants/doesn't want... and the new girl (could've known her in the past) was exactly what he was looking for. Hey... he liked and he put a ring on it.

    Could be a late April Fool's joke too. FB stalking isn't the best way to find out about someone. It's kinda creepy. :noway:

    Either way, he probably made a good decision because instead of you being the type of woman to go forward and SHOW him what he missed out on, by continuing on confidently... you're studying what HE found after he cut YOU loose.

    Come on ladies... standards start with yourself.

    "If it's meant for you, you won't have to beg for it. You will never have to sacrifice your dignity for your destiny.” -Chelsis Porter.
  • whierd
    whierd Posts: 14,025 Member
    For the love of the Flying Spaghetti Monster, mind your freakin' business.

    ^^^^ Tim asked me to marry him after the first week...

    It was weird at first, but now..it's still weird.

    But we are working past the weirdness!! We do Rock Paper Scissors to determine who gets to be on top that night.
  • cuterbee
    cuterbee Posts: 545
    I think we are redefining standards. Grandma and grandpa met, courted and were married for over 50 years. They didn't live together, date for years or in large part didn't get forced into a shotgun marriages. That was standards then. We don't have those kinds of standards today and look what it has done to the family.

    Courting was sometimes really formal, too. My grandmother used to talk about what it was like when my grandfather-to-be would visit...the whole family sat in the parlor with him and made polite conversation. This was their sole interaction other than seeing his family at church. She was convinced my grandfather was there to see her older sister (and her older sister was apparently certain he was there to see her, too)...but when he met with their father, that's not the one he picked.

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