My friend says I look anorexic

I'd mention all the thin people you know and how you see their collarbones too.

Great work on your loss. I'm one of those friends who won't beat around the bush. Next time she would mention I'd be quick to ask her, why she feels the need to keep bringing up the same subject?

Personally, I have been called anorexic many'a time because I'm slim and maintain a healthy lifestyle. I let the haters hate.

I'd tell her "what other people say about me is none of my business." Repeat as needed.

Congratulations on your success. Too bad your "friend" can't be happy for you but people are like that. I am 5'4" and I weight 131 lbs. It is a perfectly fine and proper weight for our height. Buy yourself some skinny jeans and enjoy your new body!

I would ask your friend who "they" are.

But that's just me. Cynical, distrusting me.

First- congratulations!!! what an amazing journey and accomplish you have done!

As to the topic of your post- maybe she really is concerned about you. You have lost a great deal of weight and your appearance has changed drastically because of that weight loss. She was used to seeing you one way and the transformation is HUGE . . . maybe because it was such a huge transformation is actually looks like you are losing too much (pretty sure I didn't explain that well enough). That being said you are at a healthy weight and striving to lose some more at which time you will STILL be at a healthy weight, so I wouldn't worry about her comments too much. If you (and your doctor) know you are losing weight the healthy weigh then what does her opinion really matter any way?

I'm 5ft 4.5 inches and there's no way I would look or feel healthy at 130, but your doctor knows best, I guess.

5.5 @ 130 can look and feel quite healthy, i assure you.

That's really nuts if people are telling your friend that you look anorexic. You should ask your friend who said that. Not a very good friend at all for her to make stuff like that up. Also, collar bones are supposed to be visible. Wow, I am 5'2", I weigh 101 (yes I have a very small bone structure), I interact with all kinds of people, and no one ever says to me that I look anorexic (because I'm not, I'm healthy, I'm well nourished, I am fit and I have a booty). I even ask people if they think I am too thin and they say no (even my doctor). They say that I am fit and do not need to lose weight and they ask me about how I stay so fit.

Great job on your work!!!

To be fair, it is possible that someone else did make the comment to her, or, knowing that she is your friend asked her if you were sick or something (from other threads a lot of people have had questions about being sick or on drugs when they have lost significant weight) and she may just want you to know that people are talking about you.

Of course you may be right and it is all her insecurities. Next time try a reply like “Thank you for sticking up for me. I can’t continue to risk my health by stopping my new routine. My doctor told me what weight I need to be to be healthy, so I need to get to that weight and stay there.”. Something like that takes the issue out of looks and puts it into health, and lets her know that you won’t be stopped so there is no point in her continuing to fuss.

I'm 5ft 4.5 inches and there's no way I would look or feel healthy at 130, but your doctor knows best, I guess.

5.5 @ 130 can look and feel quite healthy, i assure you.

5'3.5" at 120 and at 140, can look and feel healthy. Everyone is built different. That's why healthy weight is a range.

Good job on your weight loss. I don't understand sometimes why people react the way they do. It's called body acceptance, and we push to be treated a certain weight while overweight. It's like a whole movement, but if you are naturally skinny or losing weight to be healthy like me you get the constant remarks. I'm your height and my goal is 125. I don't look tone at my weight which is my goal. I know we are all built different and different ages as well. So I'd say if anyone had anything negative to say, ignore them. I say make it a challenge! Hi I lost the weight, I do eat I'm not annorexic I'm healthy. Plus people read your story and do you know that you can literally change other peoples lives. Just knowing that you did something that other people think isn't possible gives us hope. It tells people there is a way, and that anyone can do it if they really try. So I just think you are amazing, you look great and I totally know how you feel because I hear those things too. They look at me like 125 isn't enough, but for my body it is. I have muscle I run, my body is a certain shape based on that. It's mine I can shape it how I want.

I'm 5'7 and weigh 129. I've been able to see my collar bones my entire life. I average one sick day every 3 years and am not on any prescriptions even though I'm 60. Your weight is fine and you and your doctor are right. Enjoy the results of your good work!

Seeing the collar bones is NORMAL! Geez... and for a 5'4'' gal, it's very healthy to weigh 130! I'm 5'3, 127 lbs and I look far from anorexic! I guess it all depends on your "frame" I have a small bone structure... I could easily go down to 115 and not look sickly thin. Do what YOU want as long as it's HEALTHY.

Congrats on the amazing AMAZING weight loss!

I'm 5ft 4.5 inches and there's no way I would look or feel healthy at 130, but your doctor knows best, I guess. Your friend is probably jealous.

I'm almost 5'9"...and the goal weight my doctor set for me is 130...because that is what I was most of m life, and I felt great, and didn't look anorexic...I think your friend is jealous. Just pleasantly ignore her.