Dumped because I am fat...what do you think?

Honestly you should consider yourself lucky to be rid of him; you really dodged a bullet! (Granted there was a split.)

He doesn't seem like a keeper to me. He was very cruel about things, and honestly who wants a guy who checks out other women so much? Also, what's with letting his family weigh in on his relationship to the point he does a 360? Is he a grown man or not? He is/was dating you - his family was/is not!

It's time to cut the apron strings if you know what I mean? Plus if he really loved you, then he wouldn't have changed his mind about your relationship just because of what his family said... Real men in love wouldn't care about being seen in public with their lady no matter what.

Now, I'm not going to lie and say looks don't matter (because they do a little bit - there has to be some physical attraction.) Don't get me wrong though, a bad personality can ruin the most gorgeous person.... But obviously your weight didn't matter at first, so why should it have mattered now?

Personally, I think he's just really insecure and that's why he's so worried about his image when going out with you. You don't want a man who is constantly worried about such trivial things. Insecurity and a lack of confidence are the most unattractive traits a man could have imo.

Personally, I would use this ordeal as both motivation and a lesson. First of all you must convince yourself that not only do you deserve better, but you can do better and won't settle for anything less.

Then, lose weight (you can do it!) - You're already pretty... So when his shallow butt eventually comes crawling back you can inform him that his advances are not wanted. There will be much satisfaction in telling him no.

I say screw him AND his family - if they are that superficial, then it will only get worse as the years go by. Has he offered to go exercising with you? Has he done ANYTHING to indicate that he will support you in any way to help you lose weight OTHER than a freakin' breast reduction? Really? Sometimes people need tough love to get them motivated - but at the end of the day, you need to do things for YOU - not to please someone else.

Good luck!!

Wow. Hun I would leave! That is superficial and you deserve way better! A guy like that doesn't deserve you. The way you described is not that of a loving boyfriend but more of someone that wants to change you to make themselves look better. Good luck on your journey though.

I say dump him... and then get super hot and rub it in his face.

Or at least, thats what I would do

THIS!!!!!!!!!!! :happy:

I think you deserve better. Tell him to use his money to get rid of his man boobs. Sorry you are facing this, but this does not sound like love and you deserve better.

Run away and don't look back.

Aww Hell No! If my husband did anything like that he would get smacked repeatedly! If your boyfriend folds like that under pressure from his family and won't stand up for himself or for you, then you need to tell him what it's like & that you are not going to lose weight for him or anybody else! You have to wonder what else he won't stand up for? If you were to get married, would he let the family choose how the wedding will be? What your children will be like or what kind of house you will live in? I may be overreacting here, but he should love you for you and to hell with everyone else. Just my 2 cents!

kick him to the curb quick honey! Be thankful that you found about this character flaw before you wasted any more time on him. I have lots of other thoughts, pros and cons that have likely all been shared before my reply.

We have to love ourselves and pray that when the time is right that the right man will come along. I recently saw a clip on a news program about a former pro volley ball player, model, cinderella marriage - and the title of her book just out is "my foot is too big for the glass slipper". I have not read this book yet but it is alot about how things are not always as they seem and require work.

Grace and peace to you while working through this situation

he sounds like a scumbag, tbh.

lose weight for you not because someone tells you that you need to. this doesn't really sound like love.

& do you really want to be apart of a family that is this judgmental and such...

I haven't read any of the other comments so I may be repeating others, but don't lose weight for anyone but yourself. YOU deserve to be HEALTHY. It is not about wearing bikinis, short shorts, etc. It's about being and feeling healthy, positive and loving yourself. And it is also about him loving you - not "fat" you, not "thin" you, just you. Being attracted to your spouse is definitely part of marriage but it is not skin deep. I've been married 3+ years so I'm by no means the expert but I've learned a lot. My weight has definitely fluctuated since we've met but he's never once made me feel less beautiful or desirable for it let alone thought about what others think. I started on MFP because I wasn't loving the body I was in or how I felt and he supported and encouraged me. I started MFP and a month or two later my husband joined with me. It's great when you can be active and healthy together.

His family has no place in this but since they've already butted in he seems pretty impressionable by them and others. Today it's your weight, tomorrow your haircut, then your complexion (all of which are beautiful, of course). And what, you need to be his version of thin etc in order for him to be with you? That's not what you want hanging over your head every day for the rest of your life. You need someone who will offer you unconditional love, not a love that is dependant on the scale. That's the only way it works.

Good luck to you.