how does your guy or girl support you?

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  • kizzyb1977
    kizzyb1977 Posts: 199 Member
    :-)
  • jess_goobie
    jess_goobie Posts: 133 Member
    My fiance doesnt diet and he is such a bad eater, He loves his soda, pizza, chips, candy and beer (probably one of the reasons I gained so much weight being with him for 6 years lol). I dont tell him he has to eat healthy or diet with me, its my choice to lose weight and if he decides he wants to thats fine if not thats fine, yes it is SUPPER hard doing it by yourself with a unhealthy eater in the house so much food I crave just sitting in the fridge or counter. But he has been with me for 6 years and I have gained 100lbs in those 6 years, yes I went to college for 4 and gained a lot more than the freshman 15 lol. But he never once said " you gain weight" "your looking bigger" " dang fatty" " you should go on a diet". He has loved me for me all these years not focused on my gained weight or anything. Now we are getting married in August and I have lost almost 60lbs would love to lose the other 40 by our wedding, he deserves it, and so do I. Now that the wedding is getting closer and it is crunch time he is helping me by supporting me with my diet, not going to fast food as much so I am tempted, when he eats his junk and I reach for a cookie he gives me "the face" like no you are working hard you dont need it! But he wont tell it to me directly. Overall he is terrible support lol he brings all this junk in my house and eats it in front of me and its so hard tosay no, but I pui myself in this spot not him, and he has never given me grief about gaining 100lbs so that is all the support I need!
  • jess_goobie
    jess_goobie Posts: 133 Member
    My boyfriend doesn't do anything to support me which makes very hard. I will be eating the right thing and exercising every day and he will be eating McDonalds/Pizza etc and laying on his *kitten* (Which explains why he is 337lbs)! I will be getting ready to go to the gym which I do 6 days a week and he will say things like "Oh just take today off".

    My daughter eats junk as well, she apparently inherited the "skinny" gene from her father.

    So MFP is my only support and I am grateful I have everyone here!! :-)

    I know how you feel girl! But my fiance is 175 and does manuel labor ( installs security systems) so he works out all day at work and for some reason has a fast metab cuz he eats all the junk and soda he wants and loses 2lbs...errrrr I diet and exercise and gaine 1lb....err lol
  • jess_goobie
    jess_goobie Posts: 133 Member
    He told me I had less cellulite in my legs once. He's stingy with his compliments, so I cherished that one. Still do, actually).

    And when I get in his face and scream, "Tell me I'm pretty!!", he tells me I'm pretty.

    I'm just kidding on that last part.

    When he hugs me he says "I can squeeze you so much tighter now" lol makes me feel good, skinner lol
  • TIDDYBEAR
    TIDDYBEAR Posts: 63 Member
    My husband calls me "skinny" all the time. I am ANYTHING but!! That is the most depressing thing to me.... loose 86lbs and I'm STILL fat!! Just not AS fat, lol. He points out the bones on my back and shoulders that didn't used to show. And he BRAGS on me all the time!! Shows people my pic of what I USED to look like!
  • natmckn
    natmckn Posts: 48 Member
    My husband started lifting with me in the evenings :) He doesn't really need to; he's naturally very muscular and skinny but it's really nice to know he's supporting me. I always get text messages from him throughout the day telling me how proud he is of me and all the hard work I'm doing. If I go to the gym to go for a run, when I get back he will tell me he did jumping jacks, pushups and squats while I was gone.

    Sometimes I wish he'd go for a run outside with me, and it bums me out we don't share the same activity interests (you will NEVER EVER see me on a basketball court...LOL), but then I think about all the encouragement he gives me and I feel so lucky all over again!! :)
  • 2FatToRun
    2FatToRun Posts: 810 Member
    If he didnt chances are very high he would be an ex, his junk would be hurting, and maybe a black eye. :laugh:

    In reality.....he would be an ex.
  • VanellopeeVonSchweetz
    VanellopeeVonSchweetz Posts: 23 Member
    My boyfriend is very supportive of me. His main concern is that I get healthy again since when we first met I was struggling with my eating disorders even moreso than I am now. He doesn't want to see me that sick again so he roots for me to eat properly and supports me working out but always is a bit cautious and advises me when he believes I may be over doing it with the exercise. Takes me out to restaurants and reminds me of the things I should be eating (making sure i'm not skipping out on the carbs I need etc). SOOOOO many people can play the food police and really irritate you when it seems they are playing drill sergeant with you every day, but he balances it well and now only does it on occasion when I may be slipping here and there

    Other than my mother, I have never had ANYONE so supportive of me through hard times like he has.

    He's wizard :)
  • millea84
    millea84 Posts: 242 Member
    My boyfriend goes hiking with me and tells me I am beautiful. "Good Morning Beautiful" is such a nice thing to hear, esp on days when I don't feel it.
  • jillybean_75
    jillybean_75 Posts: 70 Member
    No boyfriend/husband, but as a single mom of an almost 7 year old, I have great support from him. He asks me every day if I did my exercises. When I do the 30DS at home, he picks up his little 1lb weights and does it with me. Or he will do the cardio jump rope and butt kicks. Plus, he doesn't mind staying at afterschool program a little longer doing his homework so i can get to the gym and run. And, he eats all of the meals I make, tries new foods and vegetables, and even tries the protein shakes I make as his "dessert". I am one lucky mama.
  • MaryJane_8810002
    MaryJane_8810002 Posts: 2,082 Member
    i'm not asking for ways to get more support, i have enough, it just can be interesting depending on the different personalities and other factors.

    now the main thing he does, it just let me do my own thing. buy whatever i healthy food we need, when the kids were younger, he'd watch them, so I could workout.

    He's been picking up equipment for our gym a little at a time, for years, so when i decided to
    use the barbell, we already had when I needed.

    The other night I was almost done with a heavy session, and he randomly came in the room and gave a shout to burn that fat! he was cheering me on, I guess. He's not a chatty kind of person, he only really talks a lot if it's related to explaining something for computers, video game, or sports, so it's rare to get a comment.
    He taught me how to deadlift last year. He was trying to tell me years ago, that i could do basically the routine i'm doing, lift 3x a week, and that all my cardio was unnecessary. so it's a little annoying how right he, and how wrong I, am turning out to be.

    Its hard because he is invisible.
  • HMVOL7409
    HMVOL7409 Posts: 1,588 Member
    My husband and I plan meals together, shop together, he helps me build my lifting programs and offers advice. We don't lift together but he's my spotter when needed. He hates running but when I was rehabing after an injury put me off running for a month after my first 1/2 last fall he ran every painful, slow *kitten* run for 6 weeks until I was cleared. Also if it means going in at 1 am for work he has yet to miss any of my races this season so far.
  • 37434958
    37434958 Posts: 457 Member
    Well my Uncle John supports me, =) I'm not dating so I would say my family and my Uncle John pretty much.
    He always cheers me on and helps me when I'm confused and introduces me to all these new workouts and all that.

    Oh and he is a fitness guy himself! :)
  • Shauncho49
    Shauncho49 Posts: 132 Member
    Wifey and I do EVERYTHING together...She started dieting last year and I wasn't quite in the mindset for it. now that I've hopped on the bandwagon, we really do everything together now. planning meals and shopping together is fun. We do different workouts but we both walk together and that has been great! She's always so sweet and supportive of me telling me I can do it and how proud of me for the changes i've made so far. Just when I thought I couldn't love her anymore... :) luckiest man in the world, right here!
  • TheDarkestStar87
    TheDarkestStar87 Posts: 246 Member
    My boyfriend is making sacrifices anyway because I'm a vegetarian while he loves his meat but he's so good about it, never complained once in almost 4 years (thought he is always looking forward to visiting his family because him mum always make shim a lamb roast lol). He'll mostly eat the same things I eat, which tend to be quite healthy anyway, but just out of habit he will put the packs of sweets he shovels down in the evenings right in the middle of the coffee table so I can reach them too... but one look and he'll happily have them all to himself.

    He's also very sweet, always saying that I look slimmer and fitter even when I'm having a bad week. And however much I yoyo in weight, he always says he likes me best the way I look at the time. Before I started dieting the first time he said he preferred me curvy, but when I lost 2 stone he liked the athletic look better. Then I gained it all again and he was back to liking curvy again, and now that I've lost a bit he's preferring skinny again, bless his little cotton socks.
  • LibertyBelle89
    LibertyBelle89 Posts: 275
    My husband is a chef and he cooks me the most nutritious clean, unproccessed meals when we're at home and not traveling.

    Also he works out with me whenever I want and lets me call the shots on the workouts, which is sweet. He teaches me martial arts if I get bored with my stuff. Also he's constantly telling me that I'm gorgeous the way I am but that he's so happy I'm doing this because it means we'll have a longer healthier life together and that I'm doing the right thing for the health of our future babies.

    The best thing is that the other night I was SO EXHAUSTED after doing an hour in hip hop and coming home to do the 30 day shred, and I thought I might have to give up and miss a day of the shred. I was really slacking on the exercises, doing really weak versions, and he started goofing around with the exercises making me laugh. Giving a hilarious commentary on Jillian's facial expressions, turning the buttkicks into our own little rumba around the living room, changing the squats into really *cough* lewd gestures in my direction, pretending to be a boxing trainer when I'm doing the punches and giving me a really goofy pep talk, I was laughing so hard that I didn't notice how fast 30 seconds of butt kicks go when you're going them while running around the livingroom.

    It was the sweetest thing in the world. He just makes the workouts fun, and he tells me how much he admires me for doing what other poeple say they want to do but don't follow through on, and when I'm all sweaty and feeling gross after a workout, he flirts with me and says I look like a BA warrior queen.

    I'm a lucky girl.

    this is sweet, i want this :) mine doesnt workout at all lol, he'll watch me workout but thats about it lol
  • sarahkalt88
    sarahkalt88 Posts: 51 Member
    Thats one heck of an awesome support system! And the best part is he's learning healthy living skills from you that will carry him through the rest of his life! Way to go Mom!
    No boyfriend/husband, but as a single mom of an almost 7 year old, I have great support from him. He asks me every day if I did my exercises. When I do the 30DS at home, he picks up his little 1lb weights and does it with me. Or he will do the cardio jump rope and butt kicks. Plus, he doesn't mind staying at afterschool program a little longer doing his homework so i can get to the gym and run. And, he eats all of the meals I make, tries new foods and vegetables, and even tries the protein shakes I make as his "dessert". I am one lucky mama.

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