body image issues! help :(

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  • carolynamador
    carolynamador Posts: 2
    I happen to know of a few celebrities and they struggle with image issues as well. They only wish they could look as good in person as they do on film and in pictures. Hang in there. Do what makes YOU feel good about yourself. In fact, sometimes it's necessary to put away all photos, mirrors, etc to remind you of what makes you feel bad. Just keep on and you will get, not necessarily where you WANT to be, but where you NEED to be. :)
  • zumbajheri
    zumbajheri Posts: 200 Member
    Hi there,

    I'm a therapist, and I think it couldn't hurt to talk with someone before it becomes a bigger problem. My sister in law was going overboard and her hair fell out, and the doctors said her levels were all outta wack. She basically was malnourished from not eating and exercising on top of that. Good luck to you.
  • mockchoc
    mockchoc Posts: 6,573 Member
    Realise celebs even the ones we think are most gorgeous look crap in real life when they wake up too!
  • ChubbyMummy18
    ChubbyMummy18 Posts: 10
    Try to find happiness in other aspects of your life. I also deal with major body image issues. I, however, have not mastered conrolling my eating and exercising to help me look better yet. BUT I can tell you that if you try to find happiness elsewhere, you will focus less on what your body looks like. Put time into hanging out with friends and family, start a home decor or art project, read books, etc. My body is far from perfect (I know it won't ever be perfect because it's unrealistic for me to think that way), but if I take a step back and look at my life as a whole, I realize that how my body looks is only one small factor in all of the ones that make me who I am. When I focus my energy into spending time with my kids, husband, family, and my art (I'm a stay-at-home-mom, but I have my degree to be an art teacher), I forget all about my low self-esteem. And those things all actually make me feel better about myself!! I hope this helps you in some way. Even though you and I deal with our body image issues differently (you use extreme control and I don't have any control--I binge eat a lot), I think we could really help each other out. Feel free to add me as a friend if you'd like. When you're dealing with body image issues, fitness takes on a whole new level of complication.
  • Nutella91
    Nutella91 Posts: 624 Member
    thanks to all of you... i will try my best to stop obsessing, maybe even seek professional help if nothing else works.
  • Nutella91
    Nutella91 Posts: 624 Member

    It's not nice to think maybe you won't ever be able to enjoy the bad food ever again because of bingeing. You see I try not to limit myself because when I do eventually give in and let myself get say a cake, I won't have a slice but the whole thing, literally! So I find it better to eat it more little and often.
    Because if I know I'm getting chocolate today but then not again for weeks, I'll want to make the most of it, where as if I had to wait a few days it's not so bad to be good.

    i agree with every word.
  • ahobden12
    ahobden12 Posts: 1
    Eat in moderation and exercise 3 times per week or more to be healthy depending on your preference. Don't exercise too much. Being anorexic isn't good.:smile:
  • kkzmom11
    kkzmom11 Posts: 220 Member
    Nutella, I struggle with body image just like you. However, I saw a photo on Pinterest of a Barbie doll's measurements and what she would look like as a person, and a normal sized person. I am shocked that i wanted to look like that Barbie, because she is ABSOLUTELY sick looking. like a concentration camp survivor. that picture opened my eyes. i still want to lose weight and be healthy, but not at the expense of looking like that Barbie picture. I will take my curves and rolls anytime.
  • IHTSM
    IHTSM Posts: 51 Member
    you're not alone - I also have these exact same struggles. I don't know what the answer is, but I started going to a doctor and nutritionist once every 1-2 weeks (for about a year now) and that has really helped me tremendously! I still obsess though, and I feel guilty if I eat something I consider "bad", but I think it is a slow process, probably for life. I think some people have already mentioned it but, finding happiness might be a key, and balance. If I analyze the priorities in my life right now, they look like this:
    career, exercise, food, sleep, and low down on the list somewhere is friends, family (sadly....). I am starting to realize that this is screwed up and I am not happy! So I am trying to change the order. Also, I am figuring out that my job is very stressful and not that rewarding - this might be adding to my anxiety. I am going to quit my job and travel the world (in July) until I find my inner peace.

    I guess I'm saying you would have absolutely nothing to lose by trying professional help, and everything to gain. And I am here for you (with you) if you need support.
  • Nutella91
    Nutella91 Posts: 624 Member
    wow thanks! and it's so awesome that you're gonna travel around the world.
    the thing is, everything in my life is going pretty much the way i want it, i get good grades, i have fun, i have the most awesome housemates and friends, and i'm the "baby" of the family so i feel loved all the time. i don't have a boyfriend but that's because i haven't found anyone i like so far...
    and for some reason i have to feel miserable about something, so i'm torturing my body and my mind like this.

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